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Work-Life Balance Tip (From An Avocado Seed)

Work-Life Balance is the way for daily joy and a recipe for a more happy and healthy life.

…These days on those missions, workers are choosing work-life balance, joy, self-care, wellness, and delaying gratification of traditional retirement. Because our world has changed, and you can work anywhere these days.

Watching an avocado plant grow from a seed you preserve can be part of your work-life balance and daily joy.

And you can create your own job in the growing Creator Economy.

That’s one hopeful and healthy reminder that you can do anything in this Life. And a small way to plant your intention is by growing an avocado plant. 🥑

The easy steps are below to grow a healthy plant from an avocado seed. 🌱

Small ideas like this encourage our daily joy that help move you to take action (that moves the needle).

And if you’re at a job that started great and then took a downward spiral or is stagnant, you are not alone!

So many are waiting on their DREAM JOB to show up and out.

From my lens of holding dozens of corporate management positions, it doesn’t exist. I hoped and hoped… and still hope, but evolved into writing my own job description that has given me more joy.

And you can do that today wherever you are to gain your happiness without delay in your dream work-life balance life… and doing what you’re meant to do… creating, helping others, and solving world problems.

Without delay.

You can hit publish, empower yourself to step in, or pick up the phone and connect. The world is big and wide and you don’t have to look far.

Working for an employer is jut one way that helps you get experiences and learn skills while contributing your time, effort, labor, and mind. And you get paid in exchange.

But empowering yourself as your own boss in your domains is the cherry-on-top… where you get the best of all worlds and feel unhindered.

And when you think of it like that, you can create so much good exchange in this world.

And also always be useful doing meaningful work. That helps your growth.

And when work doesn’t grow or we’re no longer contributing, then we know it’s time to move on… and that’s healthy good for everyone involved.

…And if you’re like me, or maybe I’m odd (or old-er 😉)…  I never want to retire. I think work is part of purpose and the right kind helps us stay young.

Redefining work is where it’s at!

I believe you should love working your passions, interests, and gifts you’re good at that you enjoy.

Maybe because I’ve had so many experiences, both good and bad.

Early on, I loved my teen job where I had very little responsibilities.

That was good for that youthful time. I had fun. And the reward was development and growth and taking on new, impactful challenges while saving money to buy a car.

But I wouldn’t go back to that as I’ve outgrown those fun, no-real responsibility jobs. It doesn’t suit or align with my identity. It’s a mis-match like wearing Love’s Baby Soft fragrance would be.

And finding where you fit now is where you get the most out of this world.

At some point, you fully realize that you only have this one life you get and you won’t get this time back.

And that you have so much more to give than a lowly position that’s replaceable by another body or teen.

You’ve gathered experiences, and grown into a wiser brain that can be put to good use for the world you and I share.

In my walk, that’s the realization I had disappointment after disappointment collected, one job role after another for a couple decades.

I didn’t feel like my contributions and impact was commensurate to my knowledge and what I had to offer the world.

The corporate jobs at-hand sucked all my energy and most my hours for the week.

So I kept going and growing, even though the jobs looked respectable and good on paper.

And I eventually landed myself into freelance writing work the year of the pandemic when many of us career pivoted.

I also started this healthy and happy blog that year.

As a writer, I found work-life balance that didn’t just mean working from home. That’s one aspect or benefit.

It also meant choosing to prioritize health, and a healthy lifestyle over stress (high Pitta).

I could write all morning and then be ready for something else in the afternoon. I wasn’t chained to a desk or forced to attend office meetings that wouldn’t matter in a year (or sometimes even the next day).

There was work-life balance in every way.

I could find emotional freedom feeling calm during unplanned yoga time and not have to wait until later.

And I could run errands when others were at work.

I could also avoid public mobs and heavy traffic patterns that I grew up with in the DC metro area, that’s now the worst traffic.

And staying aligned, I vowed never to work jobs without some (healthy and happy) passion EVER again… and/or loving or believing in the people and mission I work directly for.

I realized work-life balance with PASSION WORK EXISTS where you get paid for your efforts. It’s not a pipe dream.

That was my new HIGH bar to keep reaching for.

…And I haven’t been disappointed putting in the risk and effort tradeoff.

And if you were to reach for your abundance and believe your dreams to come true, balance and passion work EXISTS for you!

You can leapfrog to work-life balance sooner rather than later in your choice.

…From those who did, I’ve only heard that the only regret they had was that they didn’t do it sooner!

Maybe that’s the motivation you need.

And helpfully could be for you… am I wrong? 

Some are consciously walking off the job for their personal lives, health, and safety… choosing work-life balance and creating the life they want in work, life, and balance.

People on the job these days have to wear so many different work hats while multi-tasking life.

It’s no wonder so many people have ADHD signs, brain fog, and burn out symptoms that they need to medicate.

Today post-2020, it’s much more acceptable for us to slow down, take self-care sabbatical time, and pivot work and careers more often without harsh judgment.

And in my work-life balance pivot to a healthy lifestyle, I started this hobby of growing healthy avocado plants as a metaphor…

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How to Grow an Avocado Plant from a Seed  (a healthy reminder for work-life balance)

…One day I took a baby avocado seed and grew it to an avocado plant after my breakfast with a plant-based avocado smoothie.

It’s such an easy thing to do.

You don’t need a green thumb.

And the plant doesn’t need much window space or light in case you’re in an apartment with limitations like I was.

An avocado plant is like a Peace Lily plant you sometimes see in offices. They do not need a lot of natural or artificial light, so you can enjoy them indoor in a shaded spot. 🌱

These are the steps to how you get your plant going and growing:

Rinse off your avocado seed. Peel off the brown paper-ish skin shell. I think this step gets often missed from others I’ve talked to. This helps to let the root grow.

Your nails are the better way to get the shell off without scratching the seed.

So you’ll want to do this when you haven’t just gotten your nails done. 💅

Then when you have a bald seed, you’ll see it bare looking like a peanut (light beige) color in a walnut shape.

You’ll want to fully moisten some paper towel and wrap over the seed, and then place the wet seed in a plastic bag and leave alone in a cool/shaded spot in your kitchen where you visit often.

Leave for a week or two, and then check in on it. By week two, add more water if needed. Keep it soaked.

After some more time, you’ll start to see a crack in the avocado seed and a budding root.

The fault line means birth is happening (a happy baby seed 🌱).

When the root grows to about a thumbnail’s length, place 3 toothpicks in the seed and prop it over water in a glass or cup with fresh room temperature filtered water reaching the root.

Keep it in a shaded spot.

Keep checking and filling up the water to about the same level, and changing out if it looks cloudy and has too much debris.

If you notice any root rot or slime, gently clean it off and you can rinse your seed off if the water gets dirty.

Gradually over the weeks and months, move your new baby avocado to a sunnier spot indoors. And when your glass is full and you have substantial roots growing, plant into a larger glass so the roots aren’t crowded.

The avocado plant is an amphibian plant (living in water and then soil).

Eventually, after months or years will go into potting soil. I waited 2 years before planting mine in soil.

Waiting until there are leaves is a good idea.

Keep this article as reference, so you can review the steps (and not get too antsy to plant in a soiled pot). 🪴

And the longer you keep your growing avocado plant living in water instead of dirt, the stronger the roots get before you give it life on earth soil. This ensures stability for growth.

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After a few months or so, you’ll see some good progress with green leaves and a stem that goes up and root that goes down like described in the cute All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten book 😉

A few leaves are the sign to add a pot with soil.

avocado plant

You can water every few weeks or less. Do it when you remember (ssshhh, talk about low maintenance! This plant is great for brown thumbs (🙋🏻‍♀️), lazy gardeners, or frequent travelers… and no worries, as you don’t need a plant sitter!).

Daily or weekly, check in with your plants when you can pause and work-life balance. 🪴 The leaves will tell you if it needs water.

Grow an Easy Avocado Plant

After you enjoyed your avocado on toast or with a meal, you can plant your seed for an avocado plant for daily enjoyment. It's perfect greenery for an apartment or bookshelf where you can grow your own plant when you have a brown thumb or want to appreciate avocado abundance. This a great project for adults and kids! 🌱
Author: Brandy @ Healthy Happy Life Secrets

Materials

  • drinking container or glass
  • toothpicks
  • paper towel

Instructions

  • Clean off your seed. Larger round to medium seeds work better.
  • Peel off the brown outer layer so you see the bare seed flesh that has a peachy flesh color. Tip: Do this when before you go to the nail salon as you will need to use your finger nails. Knives and sharp objects won't do the job without damaging the seed. It may be easier to wet soak the outer layer first to make it easier to peel off.
  • Take partial paper towel and full soak seed with water. Wrap around the entire seed, but don't leave too much excess paper.
  • Place the seed in a sealed plastic bag (works best) and set in a darker, cool room temperature place in a place you don't forget about.
  • When the paper towel starts to dry out over the days, moisten with fresh filtered water. Keep repeating this step. One day you will see a middle crack in the seed. This is to allow the root to sprout and grow that can take a few weeks. Be patient! And if your seed crack breaks the seed (no worries and don't give up), keep the seed half that has the root.
  • When you see an obvious root bud growing, you can place 3 toothpicks evenly around the seed and set in a drinking glass or container with a rim. Glass works nicely so you can see the roots from the outside. Then add water so the bottom and middle of the seed is "bathing" in the water, but the top of the seed does not need to be submerged in water.
  • Over more weeks, you will see a green stem grow upward and eventually leaves will sprout (months later). Enjoy and keep adding water to your glass as your seed roots are thirsty. The roots will eventually outgrow the glass where you may then choose to transplant to a larger vessel. This is a great easy project for the Kindergardener in each of us where the roots go down and the plant goes up!
    avocado plant in progress

Mental Health Awareness – How Far We’ve Come

Mental Health Awareness Month is a reminder in May that health is not just physical, it’s mental too… and it especially matters in the deep mind-body connection.

Trees in May bloom can be a mental health awareness month reminder.

Each and every day is an opportunity for growth toward living better wellness and gaining mental health awareness that stems from our deeper insides.

Mental health is spiritual and linked to our spiritual well being that completes the mind-body-spirit in us.

If you grow your spiritual sides, you’re exercising and growing mental health.

…Like lifting weights or your heart rate for your physical body health.

The heart and mind are closely related and getting quiet time allows you to tap into those spiritual feeling-thought areas that make up our daily mental health.

You can think of your spirit as your heart that often refers to your gut feelings (that aren’t actually in the gut). The effect is a gut-heart connection.

We already know there’s a stomach gut-mind connection as most of our happy hormones are made in the gut that affect how we feel and think.

Essentially when we exercise our right to re-route our negative thoughts and flip them to positive and loving ones, we do ourselves a world of good.

We bypass bad thoughts and feelings resulting in some form of misery that’s unessential for us to grow.

Mental health awareness (wellness) allows us to see and observe that they’re related and happening inside us.

It’s deep and not easy to see what our own minds are thinking and even more obscure to see what our hearts are thinking at any moment…

And it’s even more challenging with mental health disorder filters or if temporary inflicted by common states like anxiety.

These ways cloud views, so keeping up wellness and living balanced is what I’m passionate about.

And bringing our awareness to present moments helps us process what’s going on at any time.

Also relationships make great mirrors in what we communicate verbally and non-verbally. 🪞

We can find out what’s going on with us.

And make happy mental health changes, so we’re free to live our most fulfilled lives!

Happiness was not talked about when I was growing up. And wellness was not something mentioned in the Corporate America jobs I held for decades.

So Mental Health Awareness Month is one of the several recognized events throughout the year to keep a reminder going… and to recognize how far we’ve come.

It’s a way to celebrate strides and not go back to our darker ways and pasts.

In the past, so many of us kept our mental health sides quiet and hidden. And generations before, even more so.

We’re a much more aware society, open to growth.

That’s something to healthy celebrate! 🎉

In the end, it’s our personal health that dictates what we can and can’t do…

And if you don’t know why you’ve suffered in relationships that are mirrors reflecting back, you probably have some hidden areas that need healing.

They’re hidden so you’ve never seen them and how getting them into view can change your mental health.

That’s what my journey taught me…

I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I saw a bright future forward and ahead, and never thought to look backward.

Until I was stuck. And I reaped opportunities to be in company with healers.

They made me realize forgiveness could bridge the gap to my wholeness.

That removed the subconscious blocks and made them conscious for healing.

Without wholeness that comes from healing, a person is never free from their imperfect past (that we all have no matter how much we enjoyed our childhood).

And if there is a current triggered situation in life, that can be an opportunity to clear out the past cobwebs.

And remove being a prisoner to the ego mind that’ll subconsciously make the situation worse.

That robs joy and happiness.

…In the one life you and I get.

…We’re here to evolve and get better and whole.

And that’s up to each of us.

Best remedies any of us can apply in mental health awareness is self-care that can include: yoga, meditation, nature walks, church, connectedness and all of the above.

And in those moments, you can gather answers to:

Are you healed from your past? Or do you still carry burdens?

…And maybe a current life problem is helping you to get to root causes.

Mental health awareness blockages means there’s some healing needed.

Some signs to look for:

You can’t talk about your past, sob deeply, or get defensive about certain triggering situations or people.

Witness the words you use and say, and if they are being defensive or blaming others.

Have you forgiven those who hurt you? It doesn’t matter if they knew what they did to you or not… OR whether or not they can apologize today. Those would be good if they restored the peace, but usually we’re in situations where we can’t get that closure.

But you can get forgiveness so you can heal and move healthy and happy on.

Doing this in a retreat or healing session with others is good because then  you know for certain it happened as you have an event to remember and wasn’t just a few thoughts you had.

Also, do you ruminate on the same past thoughts?

If you do, you have to get closure or clarity, or you’ll always be carrying the burden of feeling stuck.

Clarity feels like peace and maybe even being able to laugh at some of the things that happened that were so traumatic before. They helped you grow to your wholeness and maybe even help others going through similar challenges.

Remember the saying, “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.”

And feeling sorry for those who don’t know any better helps you have compassion for others.

Often it’s mental health that becomes the barrier to do better.

Because hurt people, hurt people.

And when you’re healed, you can see that clearly.

That goes beyond your past, processing, and forgiving and creating a new way to look at the past.

Then you can be the answer to people around you needing answers to their problems.

…And when you do, you can realize how far you’ve come! 🙌

Be well and Happy Mental Health Awareness Month!!

Mental Health Is Spiritual

Mental health matters as part of our spiritual earthly existence.

Every day matters. And every morning when we start the day matters.

mental health can be watching sunrise.
A good mental health morning exercise can be watching sunrise.

The meaning and feelings we carry into our day determine how the day will go in our situations… like on this eventful sunrise morning I watched on the day that the new Pope was announced. 🌅

The day before, I didn’t know why the live event I was planning to go to near me was cancelled.

…Other than the obvious that the speaker had an event conflict.

…But I know in this miracle spiritual existence that there was more to it. There’s a part two in life, and that’s not a coincidence.

Situations playing out are NOT random.

And that’s important to know.

That it’s not just about the earthy situations that play out.

There’s something bigger going on above us.

…I’ve been living on earth long enough spiritually with Mother Nature and Father God to know… and appreciate.

And you may too know there are spiritual forces going on in our heavenly realm that affect our life on this green earth. Thank God!

And on this particular day, the stars aligned for a good spiritual reason.

I was part of that unfolding (and so were you).

…wherever we are on this planet.

Life plays out and when we show up in the present, we get to see the happenings in 3-D motion picture.

That’s a gift. 🎁

…And a good reminder for any of us to treat each day special (…and to take frequent mental health breaks).

Life’s too short to spare any days from feeling joy.

Life is a gift in smaller miracle moments… like young children happy or happy crying, but they don’t have the older minds to express why they’re deeply moved.

…Or why you feel unexplainable chills at certain times that you know come from a connected source a million miles away.

There are some times when there’s no explanation for why something happened (or was supposed to happen but it didn’t).

As random as it can seem, it’s all so organized and planned. And that’s why life is amazing!

…And miraculous.

Miracles touch our lives and constantly shape and re-route us into change from our earlier, less mature thinking ways.

Reflecting on the past helps to remind us that we are meant to keep growing. We also celebrate how far we’ve come.

When we have good mental health, we recognize life growth and opportunities are in the ordinary experiences that life serves up… not just big events.

And it’s not just up to us.

…That’s what I used to think.

It’s more like a life dance where we make a move and then wait-and-see.

We show up and then see what happens while we play.

Life is made like a game so we don’t get bored.

While you’re doing life… as you figure out how you best fit in and keep playing your best game, finding your spiritual pieces grows you.

Awareness helps your mental health.

Because life won’t slow down and building you inner self makes everything in life more alive and better.

…And Especially because life turns out a lot different than what we hoped for.

Through our trial experiences and long waiting, we’ve grown.

And that helps our mental health.

Learning from old mindset placeholders that were not so healthy helps to transform us.

…And flexibly not sticking only to familiarity.

Those earlier ways prepared us to be shaped for new growth…

Spiritual personal growth.

Allowing yourself to change is spiritually healthy where the infinite possibilities grow.

….Today I know that when I randomly turn my head when I could be looking straight ahead, that was a purpose call to make me look at something… and not miss it!

…And maybe for others, to not miss their something (like this message).

Miracles are happening every day… and in every moment… within you.

And when you choose to flip-the-script from doubtful thoughts that can intercept and re-appear from no where, that is how you’ll appreciate your life and strengthen your mental health in the moment.

Inner spiritual growth grows your mental health.

And good mental health provides opportunity for spiritual growth.

Daily, we’re fighting with our minds against spiritual warfare running alongside miracles.

That’s a battle going on in the Universe and that shows up as a struggle in our minds that we can’t see and whether we choose to believe or not.

A spiritual intervention can save you.

On my journey, I had a divine intervention that was so loud it uprooted my life. At the time it looked like a mental health breakdown….

But it was the bridge that re-routed me to my purpose calling.

And as odd as they may be, as long as you’re not hurting others or harming yourself, inviting in unconventional divine interventions can be part of your ordinary way to live.

They help to tear down what’s holding any of us back, that we can’t see in our routine life.

They open us up to real happiness in this life… and share truth about what’s ahead.

They helped me call out my ego… and now I know the enemy I’m facing (that I was once blind to).

…It’s not people or situations in this life.

About maybe you’re wondering if you ever had a spiritual intervention or how to experience one…

You would know if you had… and to experience, you would need to open yourself  to a different life than the one you live now.

And maybe you’re wondering why haven’t you felt your spirit move or intervene as people like me describe.

You probably have, but were too busy listening to and doing culture’s ways.

Your calendar was full.

And there was no spirit listening time scheduled.

Because the spirits listens to you all day and whispers to you on a quiet frequency…

And to hear, a willing heart is required.

…And good mental health is needed.

Those are the physical requirements… or you’ll likely miss it.

…And then miss your authentic life.

…And empowered happiness that’s available all the time.

Where you’re never feeling alone whether you’re single or married.

I know this deeply because this has been my spiritual and mental health growth journey.

The journey path wasn’t what I dreamt of.

…I didn’t sign up for what came my way.

But my call was to keep going and growing and that’s when personal growth showed up that required my strength and mental health.

All so I could find my missions I was born for.

…Where when you think about it, you and I won life’s lottery beating the odds when we were born.

And your mission… should you choose to accept it, is to find out what you were authentically born for.

Calm Mind Best Way Ever

Calm mind is an aspiration often when you’re served up stressful situations in life… from work, family, or friendships that you balance in your life wheel.

A sign that this is not your practice life and life is not a dress rehearsal are good reminders to live a calm mind life as the secret to health and happiness.
Reminder: you get one life to live well 😊

The sooner you practice a calm mind and mindset, create boundaries, and step higher than your face-value situations…

…The better your life and work-life balance.

For the ONE life you get.

And during stressful testing times, the best way to calm your mind is to give the mind a way out.

This article is about how to calm your mind.

Because first off… you are not your mind, but the mind is in you.

Separating yourself as the choice and decision maker (that your mind is not) is your way out… and away from stress and toward your calm, peace, and happiness.

They are opposite directions where you get to choose which way you go. ⬅️➡️

You can take subtle, enjoyable baby steps toward the better direction choice using calm mind apps and daily music therapy 🎶 that will help turn the tide.

Those are the Ayurvedic ways I love. 🧡

But they subtly work in the background, so you won’t necessarily know they worked because they gradually turn the tide from the inside-out into the right direction (mind-body calm and peace).

Using your sense of sight, smell, hearing, and touch are all part of the prescription… and they are Ayurvedic comforting and add joy to your daily life. So why not?

…Gotta love that!

And when you have a loud interfering monkey mind 🙉 that swarms in worry or high ego-drama unrest in your mind, feeling good again is the goal.

To break out of those clouded mind moments or seasons, you would need to shout back at your untouchable and unseen ego that’s your then-invisible enemy in play that’s blocking truth, love, and peace.

At the root, your ego’s job is to protect you in survival situations… to get you to act and react to save your life if a tiger is chasing you.

But in modern daily life, it’s a detriment as ego goes overboard in its protective role!

Shutting off your ego (that shows up as pride) is the answer in most modern stressful situations.

It’s never your fault that your ego acts up due to situational triggers.

…But it is completely up to you how you want it to play out. And if healthy and happy is your goal, then the following tips will help support this…

Lowering ego is the restoring way back to your happiness and inner love-peace.

But not so easy is shutting off others… and actually impossible to do!

So you need to manage those situations.

Because misery is an option that adds zero daily benefits.

I know this well through many trials and situations…

I grew up and lived most my life in the DC metro area where egos fly high in close proximity to America’s politically charged circles where heads butt.

And that permeates in the local air and work environments close by outside of politics.

Pride in ego runs high and causes riffs anywhere in the world.

The problem is: everyone thinks it’s normal.

So it has been normalized. And even congratulated by people (through their egos) in the wins that are sometimes harmful.

This “normal” way trickles down into how we day-to-day operate and our relationships at work, and with family and friends.

But you can rise higher for a better calm mind AND life…

In your daily circles, when you have conflicts and tough situations that you may often grin and bear, do a healthy action that frees your mind from the ego bondage…

To escape from the trappings of you ego,  look for an out that will settle your mind.

This is especially useful and needed for your happiness if you are being treated unfairly or feeling displeasure from other people’s ways.

Take the mind-out of the situation by creating options.

And when you have options, your ego mind is no longer a prisoner.

It’s set free and so are you! 🎉

Example: your under-stress boss demands undesired actions from you creating a miserable work environment for you. While you may do the tasks begrudgingly to keep your job (that’s important to keep a roof over your head), in your free time, lunch break, or evenings, start proactively looking for other jobs.

This will subtly show your ego-mind that you have options (and are not trapped) and then you will feel better about your life and situation.

You are free from your ego’s captivity.

And you may even find the job of your dreams in the process!

Another example: your spouse or partner has been taking things out on you or bringing their negative emotional energy that has caused arguments between the two of you. Let the other person work out their unrest issues themselves. Start spending more time with your productive activities and friendships.

Because you can’t control or change other adult’s behaviors and actions.

That’s the bottomline.

Changing people is not the answer.

Provide the information they need, but it’s up to them to come up with their conclusions as it is for you to come up with yours and your peace of mind.

 That’s the peacemaking way that will add years to your calm mind life…

And that protects your mind from the ugly ego (yours and theirs) rearing its ugly head in your situations… where anger, resentment, or taking out on other areas grow.

You’re likely served up these type of situations from most people in the world, and specifically those who aren’t as evolved… and letting their ego invisibly and cunningly play them.

In those times, the high ego person may even commonly accuse you of what they are actually going through if you’re in their regular or daily path.

BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE AREN’T AWARE OF THEIR EGO. AND IF THEY ARE, THEY ARE BEING PLAYED IN THEIR STRESSFUL SITUATIONS, UNTIL THEY STEP OUT.

As someone who considers herself evolved 🙋🏻‍♀️… for me, it still takes a while to step out of ego’s loud ways and see what’s going on.

And I completely remember the days when I had no clue I was being played.

But information is power!

Breaking out of old mindsets is a worthy fight for a calm mind and inner peace.

And the more practice, the easier it gets…

It sounds ridiculous (and to the ego that effort needs to be made), but my dear friend… the daily effort is the path to happiness.

Effort is the way out of stressful situations with people who walk around not knowing their ego (enemy) is playing them.

And all of us who are doing modern life have experienced people’s ego rearing their ugly heads.

You don’t have to turn far to find examples.

And if you’re in those situations now, don’t play the ego game served up.

Most importantly, don’t further enable bad behavior.

Train the ego person with your boundaries:

Love the person, but hate their behavior.

Be calm and kind, but firm.

Don’t let others manipulate you because they are persistent (e.g. kids can be the worst ego maniacs because they know no better).

It will only get worse if you say yes… to both ego adults or kids.

Stand your ground no matter how you feel in the moment… or the fear you feel creeping up in your that the ego is drumming up.

Rise higher to the opposite that’s love (that the Universe is full of).

Stand your ground with tough love that may feel harsh, but you and the ego-other will be grateful later.

Don’t let your ego block and blind you from seeing the harm that’s so common.

I can see ego-action from a mile away now (informed), and as you learn more you will be able to too! 😊

Ego is the danger for most people where they can’t see what’s going on in their mind and play-by-play actions in them or others’ egos.

Ego-blinding in you or others happen if you don’t consistently pay attention no matter how busy you are… 🙈

Use loss of sleep, appetite, gray hairs, sudden pimples, and body aches for no physical reason as more obvious signs something undesirable is happening to you! 

A.K.A ego situations are near.

To catch all this, slow down, be aware and sensitized, and witness what’s happening…

Use your deep breathing present moments to slow down to see clearer and insight into what’s going on.

This is where time on your yoga mat or quiet chair help so you’re more sensitive of your symptoms that are more easy to spot.

Think of it as a diagnoses session where you get your calm mind peace and years back!

Because your body and loving, peaceful mind don’t lie (like the ego does in your busy moments).

And you can use this revealing body balance quiz to help you see what’s going on with your body and mind-body today from your body symptoms POV.

It’s like seeing the printed words on your car side mirror: objects are closer than they appear.

Or the nearby signs.

But in daily myopia and ego-blindness, we don’t see the signs.

When we become aware and get close-sight clarity, then you can see what’s happening in your stressful situations.

You can effectively calm your mind… AND use those stressful situations to make positive impact in your life.

AND OH, this is the best part of stress that makes it healthy good and worthwhile!…

If you’ve already spent or wasted hours or days on a stressful situation that robbed you of joy and peace, you might as well turn your victimhood into something useful in life (and help others going through similar situations).

…like I’m intently doing here in this article I wrote. 😊

I learned at one of my early-on jobs that you teach others how to treat you in life. I use that as a guiding mantra.

And you can too, to set healthy boundaries with others to get your calm mind, peace, happiness, and time back.

You’ve probably heard before that kids need… and LIKE boundaries.

They actually like ’em. And as grown up kids, adults do too!

So embrace that counterintuitive way in your daily situations.

That’s how you’ll get your calm life you aspire to.

And remember, tough love is a good thing for everyone. 🎉

Recuperate Yourself To Life

Recuperate is something we’ve all done in life whether it’s from a difficult season, illness, or exhaustion.

…Recently I felt the effects of a move where I had to take a break to recuperate.

…And why you may have missed me during my short break.

Well, I’m glad I’m back.

And I feel good NOW.

But before and during my move, I was exhausted as moves are exhausting.

It felt like a hangover everyday!

Every muscle in my body was at work packing, planning, or moving something from one corner to another.

…Oh, and I have a tendency to love a basket, pair of socks, or a mug as much as my television or comfy pillows.

So, making decisions for moving my things took a lot of care, planning, and effort… that was well worth it when I found a place for them in my new home.

Which btw,I know this move challenge and the need to recuperate feeling VERY well, as I’ve moved every couple of years and sometimes sooner.

I’m happy about that choice, so I can experience more and new places in this life.

And I wouldn’t be in my new happy place if I didn’t make those other moves.

That’s how you and I are similar.

Oh, and let’s be real, I know I won’t be doing this physical moving in my 70s and 80s… most of us won’t.

So losing a couple weeks while able is worth the time and effort.

The biggest tradeoff for me was giving up routines like blogging.

I had no creative ideas coming in and out as everything was focused on successfully moving.

…And that gave me a creative mind break.

So I’m  glad I took that time off from my weekly posts. And I’m even more glad I came back (and hopefully you are too!). 😊

I mean, we’re not machines…

We’re not meant to keep doing something just because our ego pride tells us we have to be 100% all the time in whatever that pursuit is… or else we’re not good enough.

Who says? 

Breaking self-imposed strongholds holding us back and keeping us stuck is satisfying, and telling the Imposter to take a hike is so gratifying!

And breaking have-to-do patterns is healthy!

If nothing else from the 2020 pandemic, that’s a lesson we all can embrace.

Amen? 😊

And taking recuperating breaks through life transitions is part of our life’s journey and daily joys.

Breaks allow us to let go and breathe in new energy and inspiration, grow, and discover what matters most to us!

In those ways, growth and discovery can be the best definition of success.

…Amen to that!

And that’s EXACTLY what the doctor ordered for me in my move!

…Plus indulging in a little coffee o’clock latte day break  in my new town helped.

When I felt so completely out of it from exhaustion being on go-go-go physical moving action for over a week, I was nursed back to life through daily joys.

Coffee latte to help recuperate

Because I was completely wiped out.

My discombobulation (…a word I almost never use 😎) happened mostly because of an unexpected last-minute broken elevator that changed my move plans.

Suddenly I found myself taking 52 steps for each up flight and 52 steps down flight (…but who’s counting anyway!? 😜). Plus all the stairs I was leaving behind.

Feeling the pain meant I was alive and determined!

Oh, and my poor movers had to endure that for a day too.

They didn’t have the emotional mental toll I had. It’s not the same when you’re doing it for others and emotionally detached.

…But it can be physically as taxing as it was for me.

…All in all, I raked up thousands of moving steps that was probably more steps than I’ve taken in all the mountain hikes I’ve accrued… where 300 steps plus the mile up was the comme d’habitude (usual way).

I have my daily Apple points as my witness. ⌚️

The points overflowed… and I not only met the goal, I think I ran an extra marathon. 🎯

That kind of abundance can only be a blessing from above.

Because I now have more gratitude for what my body-mind can do. 💪

And that was training ground for spring mountain hikes.

…Btw, I’m wondering why isn’t there a race sport for climbing steps? ⛰️

The Summit CBS reality competition show (…did you see it?) comes closest to the physical challenge I felt.

But anyway and thankfully… physical was the deepest challenge felt as there were no weather hindering events, other than rescheduling from a storm… and there were no social obstacles to climb besides skipping social media.

I gave up most my routines besides work and my yoga mat (more on that below).

Because during the move and finding time to recuperate, I was lucky if I slept a few hours without interrupted sleep.

The mind-body knows when life is interrupted.

Calming the mind-body is how to get those routines and good feelings back.

And using routines to relax is how to recuperate faster.

RELAXING THE MIND-BODy

Unrest is often at the heart of why you can’t sleep… It’s NOT the lack of sleep hours, but the turmoil of change and stress happening inside your body.

So the sooner you can get to the routines, that helps the Vata (aka wind or change) in each of us and grounds the mind-body.

The body likes routine or predictability.

But the mind like a challenge to never be bored.

So during transitions like a move, let them duke it out 😊… as YOU the person grows and is healthier on the other side! 🫵

…Where sometimes you can’t see when the finger is pointing back atcha until you’re calm again.

And that’s what I went through to restore after the move and when the unpacking was finally over.

After I calmed my mind, I could use that to help recuperate my body where I still felt daily worn aches.

RECUPERATING THE BODY

And rolling out the yoga mat from Day One was a NO-BRAINER.

Recuperate our bodies is something we can all do on a floor or yoga mat.

Every day my back, arms, and legs burned.

…And where it hurt the most was my hamstrings.

Fave poses: Sitting Forward Bend, Plow Pose, Bridge Pose.

I was also ravishingly hungry (that’s par for the course as a Vata body).

And during this transition time, I was burning so many move calories every day.

…I couldn’t eat enough.

And I delighted in childhood foods like ramen noodles. And mixed it with plant-based adult foods like pea shoots and kohlrabi.

In my travels, I found my grocery stores (Aldi, Lidl, Whole Foods, and Harris Teeter to name a few).

And I found a walk-to farmers market.

I mean, I couldn’t lose all the exercise I had just gained. 😊

…So I did a little of this and a little of that to get back to normal.

That was my way to recuperate and ease into my new post-move life.

And every time I had an idea for what to hang on my new home walls or rearrange into another drawer, I was putting my mind at ease and unleashing new ideas.

I was stirring up my creative juices again.

…And making fresh smoothies was part of that mix.

And of course, routine baking my way back to feeling like a human again.

There’s nothing like sweets that tell you you’re home! 🏠