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Love in a Place

Love is not always a person. It can be a place as I discovered, that mirrors back soul healing and wholeness.

Traveling to places makes you think and wonder.

…And in my travels, I’ve seen rainbows and sunshine. And light and darkness.

That’s life on this Rock.

My visiting the Land of Fire and Ice, also known as Iceland, made me think. It gave me joy and hope-filled reminder glimpses.

And made me consider opposing darkness from nature’s soot black colors of basalt and sediment on every other corner.

The volcano in Iceland rules the land. Hekla (Volcano) provides the heat geothermal energy for its people. And the hell inferno also has the power to negatively change the dynamic landscape and alter life for the better, for those it warms and comforts.

And in my short Iceland visit, there were moments of bitter cold as winter quickly approaches. This encounter was less than a week ago as I write this.

Some of the days were rainy, windy, sunny, and icy, and many days were all of those conditions.

One of those mornings, I was tested with this…

And how shifting weather patterns can suddenly change your situation.

Because suddenly I slipped on black ice, and before I could blink, my two eyeballs were an inch from the ice on the ground. Scraped up with blood on the pavement, I picked myself up.

I wish I were being dramatic.

But later that day I ended up in a local urgent care facility back in Reykjavik.

I was in the care of people whose first language words are as foreign to me as an IKEA sign.

The Icelandic language more closely resembles German than the Romance languages I had some familiarity with.

But luckily, we share the same Atlantic Ocean with our Icelandic neighbors, and English is widely spoken. There was no need for me to panic.

And in my distant home calm-feeling moment, I had a choice in the pause for my situation that needed medical attention…

I could choose to be anxious or be brave.

Anxiety is my Vata body’s natural first response, but thankfully we are more than our bodies.

I could choose to believe in the best or fall down in more ways than just on the ice.

I wrestled a bit with my thoughts, and not having slept for several days on jet lag. But worked it out and choosing to believe on the positive notes won the fight.

That was my first test on this journey.

In my life’s crosshairs, the journey has taught me to become strong and fearless, and gradually turn why-me? pity party situations to a why-not-me? celebration. 🥳

We get to better evolve as we grow if we choose to.

That’s the better life.

And that’s the better empowered me.

Where I know I’m not a unicorn. Anyone can choose to be an empowered honey badger (who wants to), that btw is known as the most fearless animal to roam this earth. Those little Davids face their Goliaths daily.

They hunt venomous snakes, head-on confront giant lions that would have them for a snack, and crush tough enemy bones and shells all in a day’s work before going home to their rented basements.

They have a red badge of courage because they were born for it.

And so are you and me! ♥️

You too can be the badger, honey. 🦡

Your loving belief, movement, and desire to change is all that’s required.

It starts with your thoughts and the language you allow in your mind.

In my badger test on the day of my accident fall, the main universal language I kept reverting back to was the one in my head…

The Scripture verses from the love letter language of the Bible I had just plugged into recall weeks ago.

…Though I walk through the darkest valley, I shall fear no evil. For you are with me… Your rod and your staff. They comfort me… You place a table before my enemies. You anoint my head with oil. My cup overflows…

That’s what I memorized from Psalms 23.

And…

He makes me lie down in green pastures.

He leads me beside still waters.

He restores my soul.

And with those loving words, I felt the still presence of peace wash over me. That’s the feeling of love that you can’t get from expensive things, or in the same way from others on this planet.

It’s a love and comfort cleansing that washes over you from the spirit within.

The warm hugs of healing that are bottled up inside you.

Those moments feeling serenity last, as time passes and the situation is changing before your eyes and flashing you versions of your truth.

Spirit can leave an indelible voice in your mind that impacts the direction of your life, and even more than the person asking you what you want to eat for dinner.

It took me many years to discover this inner voice and love.

And when I did years ago, I realized it was there the whole time for my discovery.

I didn’t need to schedule a time or place to meet with my inner self. I carried this on my body onto the plane, as my 2nd personal item carry-on.

It was the only baggage that didn’t require packing and that weighs nothing, but gives everything.

It had always been faithful to me.

So in my Iceland face-on-ice meeting moment, I was confronted to give back. I was given a life test that felt like a graduation exam: would I exude faith or crumble in fear?

Faith was the character trait word in the Bible my eyes used to skip over: peace, love, joy, kindness, patience, self-control… and then faith.

Faith is believing when you cannot see.

It requires growth and maturity.

You don’t know if you really have it until you’re tested.

Which btw, I would not have known if I really had faith without a potentially traumatizing situation like the one before me.

Faith like most things in life come in gradient shades like from fully blind to color blind. Or you can be wishy washy sometimes with moods like wearing rose colored or blue blocking glasses.

But when you have solid-like-a-rock faith, you know it.. like you know when you pass a test with flying colors before you get the results back.

Because you were prepared and believe you will come out better on the other side.

Faith helps for any curve ball life throws at you.

A feeling of you got this.

And you know whatever you’re blindsided with, it will be something that you can handle.

That comes from an invisible love from above.

Faith is love…

It gives a sense of belonging, in a world that can be cold on any corner and cruel at certain times.

Unconditional faith lets you know that whatever season of life you’re facing, is meant for you.

The situation is there to help you grow and be a better version of you.

That’s the highest point of life, to get to that version.

So take the risks. Enjoy the ride. Believe. This adventurous world has got your back and you’re never alone. Never.

…And most importantly, YOU are loved! 🫶

Lower Stress in the AI Work Age

Stress and burnout go hand in hand. It’s like a boiling tea kettle that’s sitting on high heat (stress) on the stove, and running low on water that’s quickly evaporating as the seconds hand moves forward.

It’s only a matter of short time before the pot burns, and the kettle’s whistle dies.

We put ourselves in those type of pressure kettle situations in life by saying yes and taking action to give us results. But we can overwhelm ourselves when we say yes to too much, too often.

Your yes starts out as a healthy exercise, but over time you’ll run dry if you run out of steam.

…You add stress when you don’t add more water or life to your situations that you learn from. Like most, you’ve been learning since you were a child.

That’s when stress likely first showed up and started accumulating in the body keeping score.

Healing from those past memories is a healthy way toward your future.

And like most balanced areas of life, a little stress is healthy and human, like pursuing a one-and-done challenge for experience and growth, but when you tip the scales to a no-happy-situation-end in sight, that’s when it’s adding stress to the body in some way.

…And then there are situations happening around us that are out of control. Like daily world news or situations where we know they’re out there looming and impacting our lives… but we put the worry thoughts aside and we go about our daily life.

Those situations take a small daily toll on the mind-body even if we get out of that headspace for some time.

It’s like steam happening in the background that we know about, but don’t feel.

These type of daily stressors are part of life’s undercurrents and happenings.

But burnout is not. It’s applied to a specific area of life, that’s usually work… where overwhelm,or additional burdens worsen your situation.

Continue reading “Lower Stress in the AI Work Age”

Let In Some New Light ✨

Letting in light in your life is a bright way to your future (and to let go of the holding back past).

Someone needed that.

…I know I did.

On my life journey, letting go was not a natural skill of mine.

Even through my 30s, I let my mind embellish on the past.

For better or worse.

Better is good past and happy memories that are meant to be kept and linger on. Because happy thoughts make a happy day.

And good is good, so don’t mess with good.

…But some days, I would let my ego run circles around me, ruminating in sour thoughts.

That’s what most of us do unknowingly, until we catch on and decide to exercise our healthy mind’s power.

When struck, rumination sometimes used to take up hours if I was lucky, possibly a whole day, or rob my entire weekend while I kinda did something else.

These days, I snap out and decide to change thoughts much faster, sometimes within nanoseconds with mind self-awareness.

That btw I was never taught. And most likely, you were never taught.

But one day (where I can’t pinpoint the exact day or year), it happened.

It was a gradual light bulb that turned on in me.💡

It started with self-reflection and self-awareness.

And that’s where any of us can begin.

But realize there are different kinds of self-awareness.

The most common type that made its pin drop on the map (and hopefully is part of you and your practices 📍🗺️), is the self-awareness kind where you know how you come across to others in work, personal relationships, and encounters with strangers.

It’s when you’re not just doing or saying whatever is on your mind.

…A very important skill to have in better relationships.

Because being thoughtful and thinking-before-acting in safe environments breeds kindness, humility, and all the good qualities that people want to be around, and especially for employers seeking new employees that customer face.

It separates us from animals that act on instincts in any surrounding.

And self-awareness is one quality described in the hospitality quotient (soft skills) that Shake Shack’s owner Danny Meyer came up with for businesses looking for their next employees.

One that I can personally relate to having managed hundreds of events in several DC restaurants.

And maybe you waited tables or worked in customer service which I think is one of the best training grounds for prioritizing demands quick on your feet.

So that’s one type of common self-awareness.

Then there’s another kind, the (deeper) thought-mind self-awareness, that helps you out the most. And helps others secondarily.

It’s a must-have skill for those who want to improve personal and life development.

This is where you catch all your thoughts.

And kinda like when you’re reading a nonfiction book and you’re aware of your thoughts about what you think of what you’re reading. You know if you’re being judgmental or if what you’re reading is helpful to you.

You’re forming thoughts about new thoughts coming in.

And similarly when you’re not reading, thoughts like this enter throughout your day, invited in or not.

Most thoughts are either loving or fear-based and unloving.

…Positive or negative themes.

…Helpful or not helpful.

And your thought-mind self-awareness (quotient) I’m describing here is determined by whether you can quickly label the thought as black-or-white (and not leave as gray-fuzzy), as an Observer with a capital O for an important role in life.

Like when you set filters in your inbox to decide if certain emails are worth ruminating or elaborating on.

Negative and unloving past thoughts (like junk messages) are usually not worth your time because they are time hogs and reel you down emotionally… unless they help you noodle something out to your next growth step.

Worry is another thought category. It’s another way to ruminate especially if it’s a go-to habit. But incessant worry is unhelpful and unnecessary.

Instead getting to the root of worry thoughts help you problem solve and come up with better answers.

And after you’re aware why you’re worrying and have come up with a few ideas on how to handle the situation (you’re worrying about or that could arise), you’re best to let it go, pray it off, and change your thoughts.

This is one way to exercise your power of healthy mind self-awareness… and so that you can get to the higher thoughts that lead to bigger dreams you want to manifest in YOUR life.

…And also so that you can be healthy, whole, and thriving,

And as you learn to better let go of unproductive thoughts that don’t serve you today and bad parts of the past that the younger brain recorded, REWRITE your ruminating thought endings as they enter.

Give those fuzzy past situations a happy and successful ending.

That lightens your load.

Like, you got an “A” and not a “D” on the project, or you turned your knots in the stomach into challenging yourself into an experience that made you into a better you today.

Let in the light to replace what you’re letting go. This allows fresh, new, and healthy ideas to birth… and old, tired ways to die.

But hold on, it’s not so easy… your ego doesn’t want those sad thoughts to die, so it will keep finding ways to drudge up past thoughts and make it stick to you like wet plastic wrap.

Be aware of your ego, and l’ego!

You have to be super intentional and aware to peel off ego’s thought and ways and disassociate, or else the same wrap just comes clinging again.

So when that negative thought situation arises, write down what you did to change your thought (because the ego doesn’t want you to remember that you already crossed that small win finish-line before).

Unaware, a similar thought will show up again in a different situation and sour your day… unless you consciously are aware to stop it again.

Connect the dots in wonderment. Don’t leave it as an open puzzle.

That’s the way to wholeness and getting a light waterfall of a-ha answers.

If you can get to the place of changing your subconscious ego thoughts (and head in a quicker-than-before direction 📈) to a new replacement thought despite the stubborn thought trying to edge back in at every curve, then you know you’ve got this!

You get this.

And if you’re being humble like me here, you can practice on all the other dissimilar thoughts that try to derail your life.

Like thoughts that try to make you more busy (and important that ego loves)…

One way to test yourself is how you interact with strangers.

I meet a lot of interesting people on my journey these days.

And where my younger self would’ve kept on going and stayed busy on my task list, I now (wisely better) stop and converse.

I can spend untimed minutes talking with new people, when edging in 20 minutes used to be impossible.

The metro city culture where I came from, local people just don’t do that.

They’re self-absorbed and quick in every turn and way. They run circles around people and they’re also movers and shakers helping our world move in other ways.

If you slow them down, they think you’re retired or from the South.

The value isn’t placed in slowing down. It’s encouraged to walk away and get ahead.

It’s rude, but accepted.

But that’s not a good way to get the most out of this life.

In a slower living, mind-aware way, that’s how you learn to let light in and grow.

That’s where the healthy good is in life.

Because if you gain wisdom and listen to people who have slowed down, they take time to give good words to you.

And if you let in the new information, that helps you grow.

Good people strangers speak wisdom, share valuable tips, and sometimes even help you see sides of yourself that’s eye-opening.

They don’t know you, but they can say profound things to you that make an impact on your future if you think about it from your past encounters.

In-person, you can make no mistake that face-to-face, from being-to-being, the message is for you.

Their words somehow swirl their way in your mind later in the day as the way the Universe can speak visually and audibly to you. Through people’s faces that will later fade in memory.

Soothsayers birth new ideas in and for you. And you probably do the same for others without knowing it.

And unlike people you know, in these good chance encounters, there is no motive from the stranger as it’s as surprising of a meeting for you as it is for them.

Most likely you’ll never see this person or people again.

Here they are and poof! there they go. And there you go.

Out into your rest of the day and life.

Where today and daily you choose to purposefully listen to specific outside people in our world, media, or from podcasts.

…When well-paid speakers often share stories about lessons they learned from strangers they met on the plane or out and about everyday life.

The kind I just described to you.

Most of us are looking to learn and be influenced…

To be more knowledgeable, grow as a person, and be better in how each of us define.

And with those intentions, thought-mind awareness can be part of that self-improvement and personal self-development process.

If you fully adopt a thought awareness mindset, you won’t just drift into your busy world and wonder years later where your life went.

Because shifts are happening daily all around us without our consent. The tectonic plates are even shifting under our feet now and likely wherever you are, as I wisely learned from a traveler I met and stopped to exchange ideas with.

So maybe for an intentionally better year this year, challenge yourself with a mindset shift and a determination to be thought-mind self-aware, to let go and let in some new light. ✨

I’m rooting for you! 🎉

De-Stress Reminders During Holidays

De-stress is highly called for during the thick of holiday season and looming year-end goal deadlines. Because stress can build up fast any day like a ton of bricks. And can go away just as quickly like a tumbling over Jenga set.

But these types of short-term stressors are different than life long-term stressors that often don’t have a quick ending resolve. You can use the 5 reminders below today to help you through your waiting process.

You can also use short-term de-stress feelings and the useful reminders throughout this article to help you with your long-term stress situations.

…Like for me, I use baking as a way to de-stress and relax after a work week. It keeps me on my toes, literally. I prepare a sweet table of goods and choux.

A healthy Greek yogurt tear-and-share raspberry-pistachio Paris Brest and lemon coconut choux.

…and you too can create your table to help shoo-away stress, and celebrate de-stress.

What isn’t so easy to de-stress restore is undercurrent effects and emotional turmoil stored in the mind-body coming from long-term stress that’s hard to identify.

Those are usually invisible sources which means they’re not as easy to pinpoint and process: like dreams unrealized or deep trauma.

…Or areas of life that haven’t gone the way you wanted.

But unlike long-term stress sources, short-term stress sources are easier to describe with people, things, work deadlines and tasks involved. They are temporary thorns to the side or lasting for a season that has an end (like holiday season end).

Experiencing those temporary stressors mean you’re alive, putting yourself out there, and trying in this life! 🎉

And your gained experiences coming out of stressful situations won’t go wasted in your future as they help you build resilience and adaptability (that make you more productive and joyful, not leaning in on the negative emotions).

Plus, you can productively use the short-term stress situations to de-stress feel-good when they’re immediately over.

Then your heart beats its normal speed again and you do a happy dance inside for your accomplishments. 🫀

…Like when you make a deadline and now the work is out of your hands.

…You feel lighter as the weight is lifted and you get a quick sigh of relief.

Those de-stress happy relief feelings can last for a day or weeks, but they gradually wear off.

But through the process of handling stressful situations and then experiencing them go away, that teaches us for the next time… that things will be okay.

And those lessons carry you to help handle the long-term stress situations that sit as elephants-in-the-room for any season, usually season after season. 🐘 🐘

They’re overhanging in this season of your (and my) life. The problem hasn’t resolved or the dream hasn’t transpired yet.

This can be a few things or big areas in your life…

…And I know how that goes because I started out without balance where I had wheel-of-life (real wheel) problems that felt like I was wrapped around tornadoes. 🌪️

But the problems… no matter what they were, became less problematic as I grew because I gained more experiences and resilience. I also prayed for answers. And my self-care wheel grew.

Eventually coming out of each of those tough situations taught me the most about how to handle stress better and embrace a better life meant for me.

…And your challenging areas in your life have grown you the most. ⛰️

Long-term Stressors are Your Future Dreams

Those long-term stressors from decades ago (that are still around 🐘) are setups for your future dreams realized. ✨

They are what will be your Future Life that has more meaning and purpose than how you started off as an adult.

They will be part of your destiny… and they will lead you away from a ho-hum life that you’re not meant to live.

The sweet spot for you today is to see them as part of a long-term plan and believe they are already yours in the future.

But wisely let them go now if the timing isn’t right.

One day the stars will align in perfect timing for those dreams manifested. Just know they are yours.

In that mindset, you keep going and growing in your life now.

Also, connect-the-dots and remind yourself that your big dreams are in your recurring problems. Yes, they are!

And when you find the blessing in your problems today, you bypass unnecessary stress.

The problems in disguise will deliver you to your dreams on the other side that will change shape, form, and clothes. 😊

Those tough areas of life today that don’t seem to have any resolve in sight can take many twists and turns, heart and headaches, and often many years to come to pass…

They’re the recurring situations that keep showing up as a thorn to your side when you least expect or hope would resolve.

But most likely, they fly in and out of your life and then disappear from view again. But they are not outta the picture, even though they’re not fully visible yet.

They re-appear from time to time as reminders to keep us humble and from doing things and making decisions that we would regret later on.

…And they’re the same thorns that are meant to be turned into victory roses (dreams) later down the destiny road on your designed path.

…No matter what age you are, you have those thorny dreams right now in your life.

You know exactly what your big dream is that has shown up before in some way you know, even if you’re still wondering.

And how you manage your long-term stressor feelings is going to affect your daily life outcomes, physical, and mental health.

…So stay curious, not furious.

The dream triggers and memory reminders are hints for you to keep dreaming about this are, like you do when you’re motivated to fulfill accomplishments.

Except these big dreams blow the little victories away.

Jobs and accolades you acquire will pale in comparison to your dream purpose in this life.

If your dream purpose didn’t show up again occasionally, you wouldn’t know it can be real or leave room for chances.

You wouldn’t be leaving room for the possibilities… where anything is possible in this life.

And this life is meant to be a big adventure (as none of us know the future).

The choice is yours as to whether you embrace that what happens to you is good for you (and not a bad setback).

Enjoy the ride!

I know sometimes that can be easier said than done (or may seem like pie-in-the-sky thinking)… so in those times, simply start by working on stressing less as nothing good comes from stressful feelings.

And, a good de-stress reminder is:

Remember to keep failing forward.

…Especially on your personal growth attempts (to be a better person).

And remember to keep trying because anything worth pursuing won’t be easy.

If it were easy, you’d never appreciate what you got because you didn’t work to get it.

And these are 5 good de-stress reminders to help you through the season and the holidays especially when long-term stressors show up or blow up again…

De-Stress Reminders Around Holidays

1.Get peace.

If it’s meant to be, it will happen.

Find your peace.

Right now, today, and in this moment your life deserves peace.

Both calm inner peace and peace about your decisions.

Use discernment for decisions needed to be made and clarity from baby or micro step actions forward.

You’re meant to live whole, loving, and healed today.

(The opposite of living in fear or feeling something inside you is missing or broken).

You’re not a victim to your circumstances… and you can break out of those feelings and mindset in your journey.

“Let the peace of God rule in your heart.” – Colossians 3:15

2.Congratulate yourself on how far you’ve come in your situation.

Reflect on how far you’ve come with your same and recurring stressful situations that used to be so painful in some way.

When you don’t care so much about the situations causing stress anymore as you once did, that’s a healthy move because you’re letting go (and letting light in).

You’re also naturally learning to de-stress some in the process.

Continue to live celebrating your internal wins daily while life is working things out in your favor for the aligned perfect timing. ✨

3.Believe in good things to come.

Believe that what you’re going through and have gone through (…maybe painfully) will help your situation in the end and on the other side. 🌈

Waiting, setbacks, disappointment, and delays now are purposefully setups for your comeback and life appointments.

You can be a victor now by changing your feelings, relaxing, and de-stressing.

Your waiting and what you’re going through now won’t last, but your dreams will come to pass and they will last!

4.Keep going forward and growing healthy.

Keep growing and learning despite your stressful situations.

Keep changing your thoughts to positive, loving ones.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” -Roman 12:2

Your other life-giving areas of your life are meant for this season. 🌱

Cherish them today, because they will change one day.

Use them to help you de-stress through your worry, thorn situations.

5.Keep a de-stress routine.

Find a way to de-stress every day.

I like a warm cup of tea. 🫖

I also do 4-7-8 breathing: inhaling in the gratitude and exhaling stressful negative energy.

When I felt the weight of my situations, I made sure to re-center myself back on my yoga mat and think about what I would be looking forward to later in the week and at nights.

Daily, I stay grateful for what I have in life as part of my habit stack routine. We all have things to be appreciative of in our lives… shoes and socks, showers, food, roof, lights, tea…

And my peaceful ritual every night is at 5:30 pm while working and I’m waiting for the daily sky show to light up.

Looking up and glancing out my western facing windows from my seat, I see the sky colors gradually change from day to night.

I do a little work and then look back up to see the dark rainbow colors change like an Aurora Borealis display.

Occasionally there are late afternoon storms. I find those cleansing. I appreciate the thunder claps and silvery pitter patter rain drops.

It’s not about the type of show I get, it’s about the day and night showing up for me that I take personally.

Every day like clockwork for a half-hour, I pause and a new painted sky happens, often in shades of purple, orange, blues and whites, and that reminds me that EVERYTHING will be all right as promised.

…the sunset show is my de-stress therapy for this season. 🌅 And maybe that’s something to embrace in your changing season.

ADHD – Working Relationships

ADHD is a way to describe the unfocused nature that Ayurvedic Vata anxious minds possess that we accept as part of us.

But we don’t have to lean into the negative parts…

This “Be Kind” note-to-self message wall. 💕

We can be kind to ourselves. And others who have ADHD, especially those e work with who are impacted.

ADHD Behaviors

Because ADHD symptoms usually shows up as inattentiveness, unfocused concentration, and scatter-brained thinking.

And unless we are aware, we don’t what they’re going through. We just recognize odd behaviors over time.

That may seem like they didn’t sleep well or are taking substances where thoughts bounce around and don’t follow a sequential manner.

They skip details and sometimes assume the other party (you) know what they’re talking about when you don’t. It’s like they fast forwarded the reel in the mind and you need to figure out the part in the middle.

ADHD behaviors can also be more obvious to you, such as impulsive behaviors and actions that don’t match up or align with what’s said.

The inconsistent actions often leave a trail of of regretful, bad decisions or impressions on others who have close interactions. The behaviors appear non-logical and without rhyme or reason.

Blame this on brain hyperactivity. 🧠

This can exacerbate and made worse from stress, anxiety, or wrong medications.

And you can’t blame someone on ADHD whose mind is going berserk on them without them knowing.

Those descriptors can describe a lot of what’s happening in people and culture today. And the people we work with.

How To Manage ADHD Managers

If those are ADHD leaders or bosses, we lose respect for their ways and decisions that follow when their ego gets the best of them.

And our best defense is setting up and sticking to good boundaries that is the best calming mind trick.

And slowing them down. Repeating what they say and writing that down.

That teaches that you’re a careful listener and naturally they’ll slow down (or it will hurt the output you both desire).

And while you can’t change others, you can point out what you see, because the strong case ADHD symptoms aren’t visible to those affected.

You can also learn to express yourself in better ways, so you’re not living in an undesired, less optimal way. Don’t cope. Manage that relationship.

And have empathy for those with ADHD. It’s common today.

And the symptoms are manageable and can be minimized with better ways like a balanced life, self-control, and optimizing opportunity with brain fog that is often spiritual.

It’s a spectrum just like any of us where the ADHD can be triggered and act out worse on some days than others. Be the person that helps them have a better day.

For Those With ADHD

Whether the ADHD descriptive symptom traits describe your tendencies, loved ones, or those you work with, being hyper-aware can help grow your spiritual journey and personal growth in life.

You can use the mantra: never waste a hurt or growth opportunity.

So it’s fitting that this article is good for learners or those who aspire to be lifelong learners. Below is about how you can use ADHD tendencies to your benefit and help push you into higher growth that a presently mindful and spiritual-tuned up life often does.

With ADHD, you can improve your self-control (away from impulsive actions) that help to further develop patience and taking wise actions that produce better life results (than the initial actions that would have been from erratic and default ADHD thinking ways).

A good example of self-control is like waiting to purchase something costly… to allow time to know whether you really want or desire the item thing later on or if it’s just a fleeting impulsive feeling.

Do the opposite of what your brain is telling you knowing that the better way is to not take action now. That’s a powerful action.

Spontaneity is good if it’s healthy, but if it leaves you (or your wallet) with regret then that can lead to unhappiness and unhealthy feelings and consequences.

So that is a good reason to want to change ADHD reversible symptoms in the first place.

And knowing how to do that is useful and practical life advice.

First off, there are many ways to look at ADHD.

One is that you could be born with anxious tendencies like dominant Vatas (in Ayurvedic terms).

Added to the ADHD mix, anxiety can cause a whole host of undesired ways.

In case you think that’s not you, we all have some or high traces of Vata in us like in our worry thoughts that’s a form of anxiety but in the mind.

It can also further set off imbalanced Kapha clingy or Pitta ego, prideful and aggressive behaviors.

But more closely, ADHD is correlated with anxiety and Vata symptoms.

And ADHD with those symptoms IS curable with more love to conquer fear that anxiety and worry are rooted in.

And exercising self-control from creeping-in fear feelings is the best way to the cure.

Stop it at the entrance gate with good healthy habits.

Exercising peace is a form of self-control.

I was reminded of peace and love when I was posing in Prague up against the Lennon Wall representing “All You Need Is Love” (that originally came about during a time of war and upheavals)… Fear is the opposite of love.

…I remember the song from the Yellow Submarine record album 💿 I listened to on a record player as a child… in case you’re a Beatles fan or love record players?

Opposing love is fear is at the core of causes of war in people.

Fear is also primal and more deep than anxiety. Both worsen ADHD symptoms and can bring out the worst in ADHD affected people.

Fear is what drives most bad decisions.

Running away from those fear-based thoughts in safe situations will help you get a better handle on ADHD symptoms as you unleash and align your calm and loving sides.

From my own early-on past experiences, I know an unsafe life situation caused me to have an anxiety or panic attack.

That type of anxiety reaction can cause you to freeze as your body takes on uncontrollable body sensations, such as heart palpitations.

And similarly, ADHD can dominate your life in an uncontrollable, shocking way when you least expect.

At least temporarily.

And that can lead to unexplainable behaviors.

The best way to be armed is to be informed and self-aware.

Coming out of your situations, if you focus on the positives or what you learned that can help you in the future, you gain more clarity and ideas for changes you can make to your life that’s part of spiritual growth.

The Universe helps to meets you there, where you are, and where you will go.

…Maybe that’s on your yoga mat or quiet space before making big decisions. 🧘🏻‍♀️

Breathwork and aware-mindfulness can help take the edge off.

These are powerfully spiritual built-in ways we have to handle calming ourselves that also helps ADHD.

You can help draw yourself to the present moment space that makes you more self-aware and deeply aware of your inner self as part of the journey toward spiritual growth.

At the very least you’re moving away from negative energy (from the past or future worry) in present moment awareness.

The energy you carry radiates into the world and back to you like a boomerang and attracts the things and right people into your life. ✨

The Law of Attraction is a spiritual lens.

Loving baby step one can be: find a positive in any situation that appears negative overall.

The reframing habit is life-giving.

And giving life in the present is a gift.

It can help free you from closely-tied worry and fear-based thoughts (that exacerbate ADHD).

Those thoughts start in the unconscious or subconscious mind (ego) and affect the body in emotions and physical stress-inflammation, if not protected.

They produce scattered thoughts, unclarity, and worsen ADHD symptoms.

But you can de-sensitize from the emotional drama the ego mind wants to pull you into.

…I know that’s not easy because ego is the equivalent of having a bullhorn in your ear without the physical object as a visual. 📢.

But if you exercise vigilant awareness and self-control effort, you can re-route your thoughts and put yourself in the healthy mindset and actions that will help bypass stuck rumination thoughts and any negative recurring thought spin cycle that’s often found in ADHD occurrences.

Because we don’t generate all our thoughts that can be a new revelation or one that’s a good reminder. 💭

The subsconscious ego rooted inside all of us will rip apart positives and blow up negative energy. It will have a field day with your thoughts if you allow it to.

And ADHD is a perfect platform for ego to thrive in.

And that’s not a field trip any of us want to take.

Exercising self-awareness and self-control act as defenses. Be on guard to witness your thoughts as an observer.

Don’t let the mindlessly wander or you’ll be walking around with a cloud over your head (not fully present). And that can lead to bad ADHD impulsive decisions and confusion.

There are simple things you can do: pray, take walks and warm showers, do yoga, pay attention to nature outside, and listen to warm, feel-good music that inspires you.

Shake it off!

By slowly doing the things that restore Ayurvedic mind-body balance, you can bounce back faster.

And then on one ordinary hour, the sun will appear back out. ☀️

That’s how you can also help any ADHD symptoms along.

Exercise self-control and purposefully walk away and distract yourself in a healthy way.

Have a calming and inspiring activity ready to go like journaling or knitting so you don’t do something impulsive you’ll regret.

That’s positive self-control.

And then you may also discover a new passion or path that’s also part of your spiritual growth.

You can purposefully open doors to learn something new.

A visual would be like the American TV game show, The Price is Right, where a game’s winning answer is usually covered.

After contestants shout out an answer, they learn quickly if it’s the right one… and sometimes they get to try again.

Similarly, stepping out into spiritual faith is when you don’t see but believe that there is a blueprint on your life already planned out.

Landing on the right ones is a matter of timing and trying like you would do in playing joyful games.

Strengthening your faith, you can call up the better (non-ADHD) ways automatically served up by the mind.

Freedom comes from calling out and knowing what you’re facing and getting answers spiritually already inside you waiting for your response.

Literally, you can call out, “I have ADHD” and that’s liberating because now your spirit can help you in awareness, meeting you where you are.

And in our Universe, most people accept ADHD and know what that generally is so they will understand if you act funny and can even sympathize and joke with you about it to help you get through moments.

Making it (ADHD) okay allows less stress into your life and especially in a more sympathetic world that we now live in than from the past where vulnerability sharing was frowned upon.

Today, you can surround yourself with forgiveness and start with forgiving yourself for your quirky abilities that make you uniquely you.

…And finally, slow down.

Remember the old saying that it’s about the (quality) moments that take your breath away and not how many breaths you take. Use that as your ADHD mantra. 💨

Ujjayi energy breathing is a good practice.

You’re not stuck with the ways of how you started your day today… or from your childhood.

We start life with hopeful, rosy glasses and the playbook ends up very different and better if we exercise better habits and self-control.

That’s the best way through life.

And when life doesn’t go as planned or there’s a bend that’s par for the course, you get to grow in your deeper spiritual self ways like with self-control, and becoming more humble.

You get to develop your empowered happiness that’s so much more impactful than temporary happiness.

And in that way, ADHD doesn’t have to be a full life sentence or the life you live out today.

It’s changeable (as our bodies and we are). It depends on you and the choices you make. 💕