Healthy Happy Life Secrets

Burnout Prevention

Burnout is more common in the hot months and with modern Western style living.

This is where body heat, daily stress and nerves meet with our screaming mind-body limits. All while our bodies are keeping score.

I’m watching summer tennis scores that’s much more enjoyable. And you too can pause to enjoy a relaxing moment to get away from heated moments.

…I baked this relaxed and low-temperature oven strawberry-guava cheesecake with a ‘lil cafe while catching some tennis points. 🇫🇷

Guava dessert and cup of coffee to enjoy moments and prevent burnout. — Strawberry cheesecake with a guava tropical twist. Recipe below 💕

With summer boiling over to year-round heat these climate change days, this can test us all. We can be more sensitive to our daily situations, and easily rattled with weather changes that affect our day.

Those days can kick up our Pitta and fire burning inside us. ☄️

And while heated moments are part of life, our life’s direction shouldn’t be.

One slow boiling source can be when we know we’re passionlessly working, and not doing our life’s work. This is how it is for most of us at some points.

Often it’s how we start off until we gather enough experience or fire in the belly to do something different that we’re wired for.

If we start to feel in limbo, going through the motions and not living a lifestyle we’re happy with, this eats at us and the stress often shows up in odd symptoms on the body in the the mind-body connection.

I know that’s how I felt when I worked in corporate management jobs in a bustling metro city area like Washington DC that’s a highly competitive work area. That’s where I grew up.

Being a local or not, finding work-life balance jobs there isn’t easy or in other places that are filled with movers and shakers who will do circles around you.

That’s when I found passion projects I pursued like scrapbooking as an outlet.

Being in a major metro city can often add additional stressful elements like commute time, turnover transitions, and higher costs of living.

The tradeoff is convenience as larger cities have more service-based businesses and infrastructure to make life better and more convenient.

But they can’t completely take away the daily stressors that add to accumulated stress. And that which can lead to burnout.

In burnout, basically your mind-body is telling you: you need to make changes or else your quality of life will dwindle as we carry you.

Burnout is often gradual like a simmering pot that hasn’t boiled over. It starts with symptoms like a common noticeable gray hair, pimple, or weight gain.

And then one day this grows into a health condition needing to be checked out, frustration or a short fuse, daily inner moods, or a panic attack to name a few inconveniences.

Those are all ways that our body’s alarm system gives us a wake-up call. Burnout symptoms are the body’s way of screaming “fire”in Ayurvedic Pitta terms.

In strong Pitta minds, it shows up as symptoms like being overly critical, blaming, and judging others. If we’re not paying attention or ignoring, this can be tolerable and we just keeping doing what we do.

But this can quickly turn into unhealthy ego-pride areas that can take over if allowed. We see this in road rage and people acting out in public who should know better but don’t.

And while that may not be us, we can have a fire inside us. Some people can be better at smoldering the fire from view, keeping it bottled inside in an unhealthy way.

One day there can be a blowup in another way from a fire buildup.

In burnout, that doesn’t often come from one isolated incident or situation.

A primary source can often be work. Sometimes close relationships. There can be a straw that breaks the camel’s back situation that pushes you over the edge.

The feeling can be like “I’m done (with this).” But, the reality can be you can’t leave just yet. And that’s where all sorts of unhealthy manifestations can harbor like resentment or depression.

In those seasons we’re no longer growing as we struggle with ourselves daily.

Burnout symptoms won’t change by themselves. One productive change you’re empowered to make is daily changes in your mind and body just where you are.

So that your cool, calm, and collected self can walk away from the burnout you had down the street.

Your mind and body are tools to help change your burnout symptoms.

I know this well in my journey because I have been there many times. Each time I thought I was doing something wrong: oh no, not again. 😳

Jobs always started off the same way in the honeymoon work period. You know, when you’re excited about going into work in a new promising role you’re impacting and contributing to.

You meet new people, learn new skills, and the new environment feels a little like you’re walking on Cloud 9 in la la land with your work badge and office space making you feel like you belong and are needed.

And you think: this could be the ONE from the dream of finding an employer who will treat you fairly and you’ll be happy to retire with doing work for them the rest of your working life.

So you start digging into your enjoyable work and proving yourself.

Gradually as the months go by, one day something shifts in the air and you no longer feel new or growing. You feel like you have the weight of performing your job and those around you counting on you as responsibilities now count and add up.

There’s an unseen point system and you’re aware you’re a primary player on the scoreboard. You feel stress above and on your shoulders, and daily neck yoga moves help to release tension.

There’s another point system in your body watching daily, but keeping quiet.

…And as some daily tasks that you didn’t mind before are now seen to you as a waste of time or draining you slowly.

Maybe you don’t have enough hours in the day to achieve what’s expected of you. Or too many work hours where you wonder why you don’t have more responsibilities.🤔

At some point you’re also put to the pinnacle test. There’s always stress involved. For me that was presenting in front of a Board of Directors where I felt my job was on the line each time.

But those type of situations in your career make you resilient and help build character for your next leg of the journey (that’ll be your life dream 💭).

Over the work years, I became more adaptable from a panic-attack-beginning to transforming worry and overcoming fear.

I learned something new about myself in each work experience challenge and problems that arose. Each shift was pointing me closer to my design and passions. And never did I think, I wish I could go back to any one place I was at.

The desires of my heart and maybe yours is to keep growing, live a balanced healthy and happy lifestyle away from the stress-filled work life.

…And to have something worthwhile at the end of the journey.

I didn’t want to accumulate all this time to be used toward the end when age and health typically is not on our side compared to in our 30s, 40s, and 50s.

And maybe that’s how you feel and what you’re looking for as life design.

Looking back, I realized it was a myth I told myself: that there was a good job out there and that would stay that way. And that I just had to keep looking.

Then I realized, that’s not the truth. Nothing stays the same for long and definitely not in a transient area that the world is.

I also realized work opportunities are always out there, but there’s only one me.

And there’s only one you.

And in my last corporate job, I distinctly remember hearing the whisper in my mind: you will not get this time back. This was after work hours when I was the only one in the office I could hear. And from that day on, nothing was the same.

And I know it may sound like I’m saying take more vacations if you’re unhappy or enduring your job.

Vacations can definitely help prevent and soothe early burnout symptoms.

But if the burnout has gone on too long, vacation can be a temporary distraction where you take your overly stressed mind and body condition along with you.

So then you’re not fully present and enjoying your vacation destination. Plus lines, counters, and flight delays can be stressful.

So you could also take a staycation and work on soothing yourself.

Burnout doesn’t care if you’re at home, near home, or on travel. Burnout is a tipping point where you can choose to do a radical change in mind-body lifestyle nursing yourself.

I spent one summer mediating in a quiet indoor pool.

That was needed. And finding work with work-life balance is not a nice-to-have, it’s needed for our bodies daily.

We also all need reminders.

One burnout warning reminder is we should never ignore our symptoms because small symptom warnings can easily turn into inflammation of sorts when not addressed.

And those can turn to chronic inflammation that lead to the disease realities we’ve heard others have.

Ayurveda Daily Restoration in America

Sometimes we catch on, and other times we choose to ignore. In America, we’re not known for longevity records and that has a lot to do with our work lifestyles.

We’re also not taught health prevention anywhere along our journey.

We could have healthy minded parent influences, but their ideas fall by the wayside when our peers seem to be having the time of their lives who are not prioritizing health.

At work, we learn to do more and burn the midnight oil to get ahead and achieve more at all costs. And that goes against the body’s healthy balance desires.

So a goal commitment to ourselves can be to change any out-of-the-ordinary symptoms we notice within a week. We turn to restoration instead, so those symptoms don’t turn into weeks and months. Or grow out of hand.

You can see if you have a Pitta or any imbalances running by taking the body balance quiz.

And for any Pitta out-of-balance starters, a daily cooling activity is one restoring regimen. One easy way is I added guava for variety that has a tart and sweet taste, and very pretty pink color.

It’s fun to find new balancing fruits that have traveled across the tropics. If you’ve never tried, you could always start with a homemade fresh guava juice first.

Have a cool and calm week!

I’ll be back same time, same channel next week. 😀

healthy happy life secrets blog strawberry cheesecake

Strawberry Guava Layered Cheesecake

Course Breakfast, brunch, Dessert

Cuisine American

Author Brandy @ Healthy Happy Life Secrets

Equipment

1-2 baking vessels about the same size or diameter. Round spring release pans work great.

Ingredients

ricotta, whole fat milk
yogurt, whole fat milk
1 egg yolk
1 guava (size of lime will work)
2-3 frozen strawberries
black cocoa
maple syrup (optional)

Instructions

Prepare two deep cake baking pans. Cake release cans work best. Spray sides to prevent sticking.
Add a layer of black cocoa on the bottom of one pan. You can alternate with Instant coffee or fine graham cracker crumbs that would also work.
Mix ricotta, yogurt, and egg.
Divide batter in half if you want to make two separate layers. Pour into each baking vessel.
Add guava to one vessel and strawberries to the other vessel. Optional: reserve some of the guava for topping.
Bake on 325°F/165°C for over one hour until cake is set. Sides will start to brown and may shrink/pull away from the baking vessel
Let cake(s) fully cool. Then remove from pan and assemble the layers.
Decorate/top with guava, berry jam, fruit, and or yogurt.
Drizzle with maple sugar for sweet.

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Orange Juice vs. Mango Juice Alternatives

Orange juice vs. mango juice is hard to tell the difference when squeezed. But easy to tell when tasted. Mango is also much thicker.

Orange juice vs. mango juice. Which is this? — This is fresh mango juice. 🥭

And today orange juice is making waves and not much juice. The OJ shelves are not full like they’ve always been. There are always grocery food item shortages, but this one was a shocker!

Or is it?

That’s up for debate.

And that doesn’t change the grocery shelves.

With orange juice on the tight squeeze, a refreshing juice alternative option that’s affordable is mango juice that you can easily squeeze at home.

The NEW debate can be orange juice vs. mango juice.

This is not orange juice, it's affordable fresh mango juice. — Both these are mango juice and not orange juice.

Yes, FRESH mango juice in seconds.

Mango has the same color as orange juice in a glass and looks like orange juice with extra extra pulp.

But this is such a refreshing and sweet beverage.

You may never go back! 🧡

It’s also easy to tell when a mango fruit is ripe. Because it’s soft when ripe. And when unripe, hard like a softball (…btw, why do they call them softballs?). ⚾️

Anyway, when the mango turns soft to the touch where you can push your fingers into the mango, then it’s SWEET and ready for your eating OR DRINKING enjoyment!

Don’t worry, mangoes aren’t bruise sensitive like apples.

The tricky part is getting around the slippery fruit after the skin is peeled off.

There is always an irregular shaped flat seed in the middle. You’re best off to use a butter knife just in case the mango slips away from you.

Cut off small chunks and slivers and add to your blender or Magic Bullet that I use.

And then as you get closer to the seed, you can leave the fruit alone and enjoy for yourself like corn on the cob before it slips away from you! 😋

And if that doesn’t appeal to you, how about squeezing your own ORANGE + JUICE. I think it tastes so much better and without added sugar.

There’s nothing that screams luxury breakfast more than freshly squeezed juice.

When’s the last time you saw that on the menu?

So, lesson learned: a fruit juice shortage is an opportunity to seek abundance and make your own fruit juices like juice from oranges.

Or mangoes that are healthy fruits with Vitamins A, C, K, beta-carotene and minerals to name a few nutrients.

Whether it’s orange juice vs. mango, both are great! And maybe you get used to no-added sugar as a bonus. 🎉

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Brain Fog Is Often Spiritual

Brain fog is a way to describe the forgetfulness nature that Ayurvedic Vata minds commonly daily express that we accept as part of us.

Our morning habit choices we choose could be adding to brain fog. — Brain fog accumulates in our daily lives.

In this article, you can learn all about brain fog from our daily environment and simple things we can tweak. You’ll also learn how brain fog isn’t always bad like when it’s from spiritual sources.

Brain fog is the general symptom description for not being able to think clearly.

Often this is when you want the mind to work for you.

Brain fog moments often shows up as confusion, lack of focus, or forgetfulness.

So brain fog would make sense as an explanation for simple memory blips.

But there’s more to this from a spiritual lens that I explain further below on how you can see it as a benefit and a blessing at times.

Because usually brain fog only has negative connotations in our practical culture.

And this article provides some healthy lifestyle tips to eliminate those daily negative brain fog aspects, plus presenting the balancing Vata brain fog positives (that’s a common built-in feature in our Vata mind nature).

In either positive or negative case, we don’t often sit around and analyze what’s going on with brain fog when our minds are in the clouded mist.

And what we experience is usually harmless, like forgetting eye glasses on our heads and looking everywhere for them.

While that can be comical, it’s extra minutes of distraction when the answer was sitting on you above your nose.

For daily routines and tasks, Vatas often create forgetfulness habits to set reminders and purposefully not forget.

High Vatas have active minds of worry-anxiety, more so than Pittas and Kaphas that can have other brain fog distractions.

This btw happened to me when I baked a healthy dessert for the morning and next morning. And the next morning, I forgot about all about it in my mind’s distraction.

A simple scenario like that happens to all of us at some point.

…And when I remembered the forgotten cool peach dessert, it was actually when I would appreciate the bite more after lunch so it could be an enjoyment positive experience.

In your daily life, if someone ever asks you why you didn’t do something and you answer I forgot, you often don’t get a lot of out-of-the-ordinary questioning.

Because forgetting is so normal.

Forgetting can also be healthy for us who like to control ideas. You let go of controlling your mind or the device in front of you that you’re tethered to.

This can invite in creativity inside us and help us let go of rigid ways.

But then there are also negatives such as cognitive decline brain fog instances we want to help prevent. It’s the “elephant in the room” but a diagnosis growing in our world, and that’s something we can be aware of and doing something about in our lives today.

Preventative Healthy Living Helps With Brain Fog

Brain fog can grow when we have these elements in our daily lives: high-processed foods, pesticides, phthalates, non-purified air, and mold, to name a few culprits in our modern lifestyles.

They alter our bodies and that affects our mind in the body-mind connection and in our mental health.

Processed foods for example become whole nutrient-stripped in the plant process (as in factory plant 🏭).

Organic plants 🌱 are better options where we don’t find the same trace levels of pesticides that are found in non-organic foods.

If you garden, you know what natural sprays you’ve used or not used in your care. And when you bake like I do, you know what ingredients you’ve added. You know the wholesomeness details.

In grocery stores, we see the ingredients in our carts we’ll be using to cook with or eat. And we can read labels.

But we don’t see the processes in-between, so this makes comparing foods an apples to oranges experience.

Cheese is an example. Rennet that is found in some parts of the world isn’t the pasteurized cheese process found along the shelf rows in our American grocery stores.

The goat and sheep’s cheese that the Sardinians farm and eat isn’t what we find in our guts.

And for daily coffee drinkers, switching to organic is good for preventative health as coffee is naturally high in mold.

Mold is a brain fog offender.

Organic coffee is considerably more expensive and more difficult to source, but it’s out there when you look and put your health first.

You can get resourceful and save money by buying whole roasts and then doing the grind work yourself. You can feel much more grounded like your coffee when you do. 😊

Daily clean air is also going to be healthy preventative help against the brain fog cause. Developing daily hayfever-like allergy symptoms is one common sign.

And building in more wellness habits and healthy intentions to your life is going to help you most in your sleep, health conditions, and mental fatigue. Yoga is one way to bring in more self-awareness intention.

When you calm and relax your mind and self that also brings down your stress and anxiety levels that help Vata brain fog.

Calming and Relaxing the Mind

Good answers and thoughts show up when the mind is calm and relaxed, and not anxious or worried like when running with high Vata brain fog symptoms.

When our minds are under stress, often we can’t think of the answer when put on the spot.

If we’re asked a Family Feud game show question like what is the first thing you do in the morning?, we can usually come up with an answer. And maybe one that lights up on the board.

But when someone asks us the same question in an interview where we know others will put judgment on what we say, we can’t come up with the answer under mind stress.

We could just give a safe answer.

…Or you may surprise yourself by blurting an answer that surprises you.

Those answers that pop up in memory unexpectedly often come from our spirit.

The answer that pops in our mind come from our deeper wisdom inside us.

We didn’t rack our brain for the answer. They just entered out of no where.

Those thoughts can be blessings when you connect-the-dots.

I’ve had a lot of time and spiritual experiences to teach me wisdom lessons learned to show me this.

Over time, the lessons gave me a different perspective to gain the deeper meaning behind those memory moment lapse blessings.

Once you know you can’t go back to not-knowing and wouldn’t want to as cracking the code secrets toward a happier life.

And you can notice when thought lapses land in aligned perfect timing.

That’s when it’s a spiritual miracle and blessing.

An example is we forget what we were going to say from our rational brain from losing our train of thought.

We get other thoughts that enter.

In groups I attended, we called these other thoughts: popcorn thoughts. These answers come from our heart as though we didn’t process the thought first.

If it’s a helpful suggestive thought, it’s often helpful for others to hear who need the suggestion.

If you can get over what others will think or any insecurities you have in those moments, and blurt out what you’re thinking, often it helps someone else.

You don’t necessarily know how it will help, but it does when you dare to stay vulnerable in sharing.

They are spiritual collaboration opportunities that are expressed when you speak them aloud. You can feel good about showing up.

In the same token, sometimes others blurt out something you needed that sticks with you. It’s the same when purposefully listening to a podcast or a message that you need.

So we’re giving back in a way.

We can all contribute and give back in the energy of life in this way and without much effort.

If you want more of these opportunities to show up and are willing to have your day rearranged in some way, ask quietly aloud or in self-talk: what can I do today to be helpful?

Then be prepared to be useful to others. 😊

And in daily life, these prompted thoughts and memories will show up more frequently if you pay attention (that’s an active move).

You could ignore and override those thoughts to stay on your linear agenda.

That’s how I was until I knew better.

As a planner, we don’t prefer going off course. But over the years, I grew to embrace impromptu thoughts entering, seeing this new spiritual perspective.

And maybe that would help you.

Spiritual impromptu thoughts help you align and redirect to a better way, day, and life. They lead to a life of more purpose, happiness, meaning, and fulfillment. 🎉

So you can be curious next time and openly ask yourself: why did I have ____ particular thought? And see if you get anything back as a thought.

Most likely you won’t immediately.

But that makes you consider another way of thinking and living that can be spirit-filled and coming from deeper inside of you that knows deeply what you want.

And you can stay curious and wondering until something clicks like it finally did for me.

So if we wonder about those spiritual impromptu thoughts, that opens the door to our exploring our spiritual wisdom inside us that isn’t brain fog.

This can be our new norm.

And for our daily mattering lives, we can invite in ad hoc thoughts in our mantras, meditation, and centering to help advise us on what to do next.

And as you can tell, I enjoy baking meditation where this dessert was dreamed up and you can enjoy making.✨

Low-Sugar Peach Shortcake Dessert

Course Dessert

Cuisine American, French

Author Brandy @ Healthy Happy Life Secrets

Ingredients

1/4 cup milk
1/4 cup water
1/4 cup butter
1/2 cup plain flour
2-3 eggs
fresh peaches
sugar and salt (optional)

Instructions

Melt the butter in the milk and water on medium heat on the stove.
Add the flour and stir.
Take the mixture to a mixer and mix in egg yolks.
Pipe into a baking vessel to make a shape or add on a baking pan for a free form.
Bake at 325°F/165°C until warm golden brown.
Use your favorite filling, topping, and add diced peaches as the star ingredient. Peaches have fiber, Vitamin C, and A antioxidants.

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Vata Active Mind Calming Tips

Vata active mind runs in high Vatas and imbalanced Vatas.

The mind overruns when we want to be done with our thoughts and the turmoil emotions that anxious, stressed, or worry thoughts can create in the mind-body connection.

This looks a bit like Pacman eating pellets that was a happy memory for me. And this low-sugar very Greek yogurt berry cheesecake recipe is one you can re-create. 🫐

This article is about how to deal with a Vata active mind that isn’t serving us.

When we’re confronted with ingested stress turmoil, we want to run from our mind especially when our ego dials up high fear trying to protect us from the world and our repeated hurt past experiences that have semblances in our current situation.

It’s not that severe, but our minds can overreact if we allow it to.

Because the ego serves us repeated warnings that can grow into anxiousness from our fearful thoughts.

The problem grows and can fester when our fear and associated negative thoughts have no where to go unless we successfully get them to take a hike and that satisfies our mind… or we get the feelings from I got this!

Otherwise we ride the trapped ego wave with our evolved human heads spinning in a brain fog cloud until exacerbated ego goes away or some other message distraction comes along to switch up what’s important.

We want to change our channel that can stubbornly stick around on its own.

The default is: we allow our ego to build drama in our lives until we exercise our right to put away the anxious thoughts.

We don’t have to delay our balance for more than a day or more than a few moments. We can practice shutting down our ego and getting better at our practice.

I didn’t start off as the poster child for this as I let repeated thoughts get to me.

But these days I recognize the offender right away and shut it down as soon as humanly possible.

You and I get to celebrate progress in us! 🤸🏻

The progress motivation can be as simple as wanting to enjoy life as much as possible.

We can do this if we know how to recognize and change the thought trajectory when an anxious triggering thought arises from a triggered situation or trauma.

Getting rid of a Vata active mind means having a new way with your new or current situation to get away from anxious thoughts and worry.

Developed fear or insecurity could have come from a past trauma situation, thoughts, or memories.

We can start practicing getting rid of unwanted emotions stirred up by an Vata active mind.

This is how it can go in a typical scenario…

A day can go by where we’re busy and caught up with those nagging thoughts as an under current theme.

We can delay doing something about it until the next day where we’ve confirmed we lost sleep because of the active mind in Vata.

We stayed up way too late in anxious-worry thoughts that’s now confirmed as stuck in our body’s energy.

So now we’re paying for it the day after feeling tired and bad in some way.

We want to get rest and sleep. We know that’s the formula to a healthy life that we want and productivity for our day.

And if we’re healthy, we can be more happy. If we’re happy, we do more in our lives that fuels more happiness. Plus, happy people live longer.

So ridding of an over active mind vs. calm mind isn’t just about feeling rested and better. It’s a protocol for a healthy well-being lifestyle.

It’s easy for us to tell others to not worry or be anxious. But when we’re confronted with our situations, we’re intimately wrapped up with our mind, the emotions, and thought implications of what if the worse happens?

This can show up in all kinds of other ego feeling-defeated flavors.

In those cases, one way I know that works is to have a backup plan so that the best happens coming from Plan A and you don’t have to resort to any backups.

Just having a backup plan shuts the ego down. (Remember: I got this!)

The best time to handle this is right now in this moment.

The tip again is coming up with a backup plan that satisfies you.

It’s not what you’re actually planning to do.

But things do happen in life, that you and your ego know from the past experiences and history that you have no control over.

So having a Plan B in your mind puts you and your (ego) mind at ease at the moment, as not putting more energy into worry, what-if, and other time sucking thoughts.

And in the rare instance that the situation outcome you don’t want to happen actually happens, you have a trampoline to fall on (your Plan B).

If you do this mental exercise for your Vata active mind, this puts your mind at rest.

And when you rest a Vata active mind, then you feel calm and can get on with your day.

You can enjoy the next moments instead of leaving worry on the table to be seen again later on in your thoughts without any real life evidence you need to be alarmed.

There’s no reason to be anxious or worried about anything not alarming, as it solves nothing and is unproductive.

Breaking this down: once you know what the anxious thought is about and determine it’s not clear and present danger, you can move into active mind management, such as having a mental Plan B.

The second thing you can do is have a specific mantra that becomes your outlook.

When anxious thoughts loom, you can refer to a mantra like: I know tomorrow will be better. It always is.

How can you convince you and your ego that’s true?

You have so many examples in the past of that truth. Find a supporting example in your past where the worry you had didn’t pan out, and you actually turned it into something better now that you have hindsight.

Remind your mind.

Because there’s 3 of you on your team: you, your mind, and your body.

When you have positive belief and conviction like “it always is” you’ve defeated ego because there’s no debating “always” in ego language. It’s like calling ego out.

That was ego’s ploy to turn “always” into a negative position such as it’s always going to be like this or it always will be raining.

But you’ve turned the always statement upside down on its head to a positive thought and belief that shuts ego up.

That’s how you fairly head wrestle with ego.

And, here’s how you can practice this:

Let’s use the weekend or your work days off as an example since you have more control over what you get to do or think on those days.

Say, today is Saturday and you’re stuck indoors with lousy weather and you had planned to relax today.

You didn’t sleep well because of anxious thoughts circling from the week before, so all that compounds and adds to your feeling deflated or defeated in some way in your day even though it’s your day off.

This isn’t how you wanted to spend part of your day.

But you can’t plan your thoughts and feelings in advance. What you can do now is prepare your better thoughts and feelings for tomorrow with these steps:

Start re-setting today. Think and repeat: tomorrow will be a new day.

Go to bed earlier tonight so you can get a good’s night rest (as you didn’t sleep well the previous night).

Plus, going to bed early keeps you from scrolling on your devices, overeating and overdrinking, and watching shows that make you feel bad or worse the next day.

So to recap: you’re productively going to bed early and you anticipate a better day tomorrow. And the next day (or Sunday), you wake up better rested compared to the lousy night you had before or on Friday.

That’s because you put a good intention the day and night before.

On Sunday, you’ve reset yourself and your thoughts. And hopefully you got more sleep.

You keep the mantra running in your mind: it’s a brand new day.

You have a new chance to feel productive and happy.

Plus, our minds loves to compare. And fresh-in-mind-memory was that yesterday wasn’t so great. Yesterday is over. So this new day is victory in comparison. 🎉

You could enjoy a cup of tea in peace and that makes you feel much better than turmoil yesterday.

Keep focusing on re-centering yourself in the moment.

The anxious fears of yesterday are put in the dust. Re-focus on your built-up love intentions today.

When the clouds lift, celebrate with singing, dancing, humming or whatever fancies you so you create a new recent happy memory.

Bring out more of the happy, creative person within you. Remove and lower unfocused Vata tendencies.

That’s the happy balance in life that we can reset daily.

Keep doing this even if it takes a few days. Sometimes we need more than a night. The more you practice, the shorter the time becomes to bounce back.

You can choose to get out of self-pity, feeling anxious. or sad in a healthy and graceful way faster.

We can shorten the duration of regurgitating thoughts that don’t serve us. We can put them to bed after we realize they serve no helpful purpose and rob us of time and energy.

Robbing can show up as depressed moods, procrastination, self-loathing, blaming others, self-pity, etc.

I spent way too many seasons feeling self-pity. Especially if my seasons didn’t measure up comparing myself to culture’s standards, those around me, and the high-elated feelings on the flesh level.

Those created my next season lows in the hangover effect when they didn’t measure up.

I had the wrong set of wants that weren’t aligned with what would actually make me happy… me.

People, accomplishments, or things were crutches. It was me that could make me happy.

And it’s you that can make you happy.

If that doesn’t resonate now, know it’s now in your system to digest.

Welcome in your curiosity and questions that wonder about this idea. Maybe you wrestle with this a while. But by processing this, one day, you may find yourself happy with authentic you and who you’ve become that started with practicing quieting a Vata active mind.

Baking in a healthy and happy dessert like a berry cheesecake can start your daily happy.

Greek Yogurt Berry Cheesecake Recipe

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Born Again Is Your Choice

Born Again is a mysterious phrase.

Potato waffles are like being born again where you can’t turn them back to the mashed potato form they were before. And they’re so much better. Recipe below. 🧡

It’s a mysterious term that you don’t hear often. It’s a miracle and life changing event like being born. You only do it once by choice, if ever. And then usually as an adult. It’s a personal decision.

Similar to an important event like getting married or landing a dream job that can be highlighted milestones in your life, there’s no taking back.

And like the potato waffles pictured above that started out as another form of the same food, these spuds can’t go back to before. The recipe is below. 🧇

You can’t take back what’s already happened in the past and you can’t go back in your mother’s womb. Or in this born again case, back into your pre-born again old identity.

Once you’re born again, you’re alive with the spirit living inside you. In the Bible, it’s the same as the Holy Spirit. There are no accidents in becoming Born Again… like the miracle of life.

The story of your real life birth from your birth parents may have sounded like you were an accident oops! baby, but it was no spiritual accident.

And it’s another miracle.

In choosing to be Born Again, you won’t have signed up if you’re not ready.

The choice to be Born Again requires a level of maturity that you’ll know when, and your spirit will help prompt when.

Likely, it has been building up inside you. And one day a water baptism opportunity will show up and call you.

And if you do go through, no other earthly person would know whether you’re born again or not unless you told them or they witnessed your water baptism.

The event is the primary marked outward expression. It’s equivalent to an official wedded ceremony and is spiritual bonding bliss.

But unlike most marriage weddings, the dress code is casual wear like a tee-shirt that will get soaken wet and you will too, as you’d be fully immersed in water either in a bathtub of sorts or outdoors in the open waters.

I know this experience because that’s what happened to me. And as life is an adventure, I never set out for that mission.

I didn’t grow up religious either. This was something I grew into gradually. Never having been baptized before and then for the first time, that’s when my Born Again life began.

Born Again Feelings In the Beginning

It was an ordinary day with extraordinary impact. You never forget the day. You wonder how being submerged in a pool of warm water can be so profound. But it is.

And you’re never the same person you were, again. Because you apply meaning to what just happened in your ceremony.

For one, you get to be a butterfly experiencing more of life’s abundance compared to a caterpillar’s existence with even more limitations.

It has unforgettable, deep feelings like the day you experience a once-in-a-blue-moon total eclipse as it’s happening…

You feel chills and something deeper emotionally happening inside you that you can’t explain with logic and leaves you with a wave of tears and emotions.

Or when you see a painted sky where something is special in the air around you even if you’re the only one who notices.

born again is a miracle like a unique painted sky that you may be the only one notices.

And you know life is not just what you see in your daily busy life. You know there’s so much more meaning and that can make you want to discover more about yourself and your potential.

You know you were touched by the Universe in love and finding out what that means for your life can be the greater step.

When you’ve already been leading a spiritual life and have gained Biblical knowledge that precedes a baptism day, you know the source of what you’re experiencing.

You know there’s a spirit living inside you.

Referred sometimes as the wind or a dove 🕊️, it’s the same spirit that connects us all under the sun.

There’s an energy that connects us all.

It’s also the guided handed helper, comforter, and all-knowing messenger all rolled-up-in-one.

And those first few days and weeks after baptism, you’ll likely be intentional to live out life differently.

After The Born Again Honeymoon

But then after some time has passed, you’ll have forgotten your baptism event day like everything else in life.

The feelings wear off. And you’ll want to set reminders to what you want your life to be about post-baptism.

You’re back to your life reality, except you have a desire to do better and grow further.

You still carry the same mind as before (pre-baptism), and you’ll still make mistakes like all us humans do.

But now you are aware that you can lean into your deeper gut or heart feelings where your spirit is for higher answers, and trust those be the ones best if you want to live a life of meaning and purpose designed for you.

Pre-Born Again life, you may have called these gut instincts. They still show up as whispers or hunches, but now you’re aware they’re as real as you are.

So you’re now a little wiser and want to live the higher ways of living. You’ll want to learn from like-minded others and to help you with interpretations from the one resource manual guide (the Bible).

And as a new butterfly now, you went through a transformation. Your human wings are invisible as are your changes.

There’s no going back into your chrysalis.

You can choose to become more humble as you see through another higher lens.

Looking back, I could see that I acted pretty foolishly when I was younger, but I thought I was invincible and smart at the time.

And had I stayed as is, today those would be regrets… but I know I needed to go through those phases to get to the season of maturity needed. That’s usually how it is.

And then by learning lessons, never wanting to go back to those old ways that we’ve grown out of.

Been there, done that, got the kid T-shirt. And now I have an adult baptism shirt (and you can too).

What to Expect With A New Life

Expect to have favor in your daily walk if you maintain a deep relationship with your spirit and God. Also expect for you to be the change as nothing changes around you for certain prayers.

That goes for the details of ordinary daily life from when you walk out the door, run errands, are working, and then are back home.

You also give up some control of your life (yes, more than what you have been experiencing). But you gain more control in other areas explained below, as you keep reading.

And remember, none of us are in control anyway.

For me, that was the hardest part at first.

Letting go was not my strong suit. Because I did life on my terms my way as a strong-independent person.

I learned and was groomed that way since I was a kid.

I’m still fundamentally that person, but I exchanged control for a more fulfilling purposeful and creative life.

I started out my adult life mostly in the structured corporate work life. And had I not been made aligned with my identity (Born Again) and my second act of my life’s work, then I would’ve missed what was in the cards dreamt up for me before I was born.

Dreams I never had when I was younger.

What I did feel when I was younger and in my late-20s and early 30s, was that something was missing inside.

Daily life didn’t seem all that exciting even though I had a good job, health, stable work-life balance, side hustles, great relationships, a lakefront home, nice cars, and everything else that I thought I needed.

And yet I felt unfulfilled.

I thought there had to be more.

That didn’t feel like wisdom at the time. It felt like self-pity.

Then suddenly I lost a job and a career when the industry was wiped out.

And bam!.. a spiritual intervention happened.

About two years after that incident, I got Born Again.

And that’s when life got really quiet around me. I was working but the work was easy.

I found I had time to look at personal and spiritual development areas that I didn’t delve into before.

That’s part of the inner peace that comes with being Born Again, knowing that you’re provided for and having some direction to seek levels of growth.

You know when doors shut it’s not a coincidence and that forces you to keep looking in other directions. And when they do open, you’re magically aligned.

I had work situations like that which were problem-filled but since I was anointed to be there, they immediately got fixed without my fixing.

Those bittersweet open doors were short-lived.

But in those experiences, I starting realizing this life isn’t about what you do. It’s about what you’re becoming in this life.

And on the journey, you can be proud to look in the mirror at who you are that’s not just the aged person staring back.

You’ve transformed fear, anxiety, and worry that don’t have to take over and permeate life. Especially fear.

When I was a child I was afraid of everything from lightning, darkness, to boogie monsters. And then as an adult, the opportunity to exchange fear for love became part of the process.

We can grow away from those unproductive beliefs. When you take action to move toward love that’s part of being Born Again, then you choose to exchange those negative earthly feelings.

It’s also co-created, as you seek toward your growth desires and the spirit helps you from the inside.

You can count on that as the spirit isn’t earthly.

You’re never alone. Not for one moment. When you seek help, you get help, truth, and comforting answers. They may not match or exactly match what you thought you wanted.

But as your perspectives align with the higher ways, you know that they guarantee your highest and best use in this life. So don’t worry if you feel you’re blooming late. You and your spirit will help you grow and make up for lost time.

And you can use the weekend brunch potato waffles as a reminder that these waffles started as mashed potatoes, and became these plate tasty treats. You can find this potato waffle recipe, potato dip, and other brunch waffles.

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