This is more than 16 candles, it’s closer to 66 candles!
Sixteen Candles was one of the coming-of-age comedy genre movies that existed during the Brat Pack Days. If you don’t know what that is or means, don’t worry ‘bout it… if you’re interested in candles and aromatherapy healing, you’re in the right place.
And if you haven’t seen the 80’s classic movie, the Actress Molly Ringwald played the slightly quirky and embarrassed teenager who had a crush on the most popular boy in the school.
Her family forgets her 16th birthday around the planning of her sister’s wedding and all kinds of family chaos. With her signature pouty mouth and rolled eyes typical of teenagers (…remember those rebellious years?), her character, Samantha, says it all in this one line… “this is the single worst day of my entire life.”
Because when you’re a teenager everything is so magnified and important.
…Long story short, the movie has a sweet ending that includes birthday candles.
You and I have long passed our sweet 16th birthdays, and have created so many memories since. Whether yours was uneventful or memorable, you’ve survived.
And you can choose to live each day like a happy birthday if you’re doing and being well.
I was able to relive my fond memories by bringing out these bright cotton candy pink, white, sunny yellow, and navy blue candles, that have special meaning to me. They’re the ones you can find at the dollar stores. They were also the ones I saw on many kids’ birthday cakes.
…maybe you have a similar or favorite birthday memory that brings happy nostalgia feelings?
As an adult, you can make your own great memories, and that’s something to celebrate. One way I do regularly in joy and celebration is with scented candles that create a happier mood.
Scented candles can be healing for your soul. The light’s warmth and the aromatherapy effects, positively affect your mind and moods. Candles are powerful and healing. They can define a practice in a special way. You could be meditating, journaling, or just creating a new room atmosphere.
Sixteen Candles
These are my favorite balancing sixteen candles, that are easy to find online or at stores, and come in all shapes and sizes. There’s also one called “Birthday Cake” that smells like yellow or vanilla cake batter (similar to Christmas Cookie), but I think that candle is retired.
Sand + Fog candles Limoncello
Sand + Fog Mango Tangerine
Yankee Candle Christmas Cookie
Yankee Candle Vanilla Cupcake
Yankee Candle Juicy Citrus and Sea Salt
Yankee Candle Belgian Waffles
Yankee Candle Sugar & Spice
Yankee Candle Tangerine
Yankee Candle French Vanilla
Yankee Candle Pumpkin Pie
Village Candle Orange Dreamsicle – orange and vanilla candles have special powers over anxiety. If you don’t smell them or they’re sickenly sweet then it’s a good indicator that you’re Vata balanced overall at the moment… or if you never liked those scents, that’s not your natural dosha.
Christmas songs therapy is real. You can get in holiday merry cheer with music that brings you back to under the mistletoe feelings.
Music inspiration comes in all shapes and sizes!
Peppy Christmas music can wake you up and help restore your mind and body’s anxious moods. If you have anxiety, brain fog, or need some joy, you can year-round get instant healing through the power of sounds, to calm and balance.
Below are 30 selected soothing Christmas songs that can help you do just that.
So often we think listening to music is entertainment, but it’s so much more as it’s used to heal mind, body, and soul.
Music will do that faster through the ears to the mind, than food that can take the long route from the digestive body to mind.
And if you have setbacks, looming worry, or stress, know that it starts in your mind and shows up on your body in the mind-body connections.
If you have stress, the first warning signs can be a stress pimple, wrinkles, early gray hair, or other visible signs. And if you’re feeling depressed or the blues, you could hold onto extra pounds.
This is common around the holidays and winter months when seasonal affective disorder (SAD) can kick in.
You hear many stories of heart-related diseases around the holidays. The body usually gives earlier warning signs, but the holidays present a stressful time to many hearts.
So, using Christmas songs therapy and instrumental sounds is one totally healthy and often overlooked preventative way to keep your holidays happy and bright (from the start of the Advent to the end of the year).
Just a few minutes can be all you need to restoratively calm an anxious mind or soothe an irritated soul that needs rest and peaceful healing.
Christmas Songs Therapy For Relaxation
Christmas songs therapy includes soothing songs, instrumental, classical music, and calm sounds.
1. Choral Classics (ethereal music) has a way of bringing peace-filled feelings, like the deep sound of a bell ringing that resonates.
When you hear classic Christmas songs in general, like “Noel,” sung by a melodic chorus in synchrony, they provide harmony to your mind. Even in a world of chaos, they can bring a feeling of peace and order, especially when feelings of uncertainty permeate.
2. “Noel” – Lauren Daigle has a modern twist to this classic Christmas song
3. “Happy Xmas (War is Over)” – Sarah Mclachlan (Wintersong Album)
4. Christmas Canon – Trans-Siberian Orchestra
5. Christmas Jazz – Kenny G Winter Wonderland
6. Dr. SaxLove – Snazzy instrumental saxophone
7. Kenny G saxophone – if you’re irritated, his instrumental music is known to hold the high notes longer that reach and impact your mind in a healing/soothing way
8. Ocean sounds – in real life, ocean waves are moving year-round (something for us to be grateful for as they affect the world climate). I have fond memories of going to the local beach in the winter when it’s off-season (and maybe you do also where you are). The waves are calm, and the beach uninhabited when everyone is indoors in hibernation
9. Tibetan Singing Bowls – these are used to start and end meditation sessions. Yoga instructors use these bowls for intentional yoga sessions. You can feel like you’re in a place of solitude (like monks).
Christmas Songs Therapy For Anxiety
Find indie music and off-beat music and chants.
Get out of the common everyday music and go into worldly music… in America, it’s easy to stick with the popular music bands that are advertised and played over and over again on television, radio, and half-time shows. You’ll get better mind-body satisfaction if you step out and explore other music. For a Vata especially, discovering fresh variety is going to be a breath of fresh air that awakens the mind if there’s a little Kapha going on.
10. “One Toy Solider” song AndWinter Came Album – Enya
11. Amaratine Album (Special Christmas Edition)- Enya
12. The Reindeer Room – A Christmas Chillout Album – Most of the artists you won’t recognize but the instrument twists are not your usual beats. They have a futuristic vibe that you may detect. They are remakes of classic songs such as Sleigh Ride, White Christmas, and Little Drummer Boy
13. Gregorian chants that can make you feel like you’ve been whisked back in time
14. Chamber music (Saint-Saens Chamber music) – You feel like you’re listening from inside a music chamber
15. Crystal singing bowls. These sounds are so light and airy and can make you feel enlightened. They’re good to use while meditating or journaling and can be restorative for panic attacks
16. Waterfall or rain instrumental sounds that have varying tempos. Those light background sounds (including fire crackling) can restore stubborn moods
17. Christmas blues songs – unlike jazz, there are greater varied ranges and moods
18. Dee Yan Key – snazzy, upbeat instrumental that you can find in Music Archives to help you create or compose your own music
Waking Up the Tired or Depressed Mind
Find inspiration and music with heavier beats.
19. “Little Drummer Boy” – Pentatonix
20. “Do They Know It’s Christmas” (1984) – this is an oldie but goodie with a couple of George’s… Boy George, George Michael, Duran Duran, and a bunch of the famous rock singers of the past. So nostalgic (when the Brat Pack on film were popular…I digress), but you just can’t recreate the same 80’s happy music and the time period it represented
…if you start singing along to your favorite songs, you’re doing double good. You can’t be depressed and joyful at the same time. Singing no matter what you sound like, off-key or not, will make you feel better and open up your throat.
Another one…
21. “So This Is Christmas” – John Lennon (if you’re a Beatles fan)
22. Andrea Bocelli – “The Prayer” duet will wake up your heart and soul with the opera-esque components. Andrea’s amazing singing quality holds onto long high notes. Return to Love is a beautiful video where Andrea Bocelli serenades with a chorus, to his wife, that can remind you of fleeting moments. As a blind musician, Bocelli started his young career as an attorney. But he could sense the happiness and smiles that his singing brought to crowds and that’s what tipped his decision to become a professional musician
23. Vivaldi’s Four Seasons is a classical classic, that’s good for balance. The violin in the spring concerto is going to be light and help wake up your senses. Summer is going to be fast and dramatic. Fall is light. Winter is best for Kapha imbalances, as it’s a faster tempo.
24. Another classic is listening to the music from The Nutcracker. You’ve probably seen the dreamy fairy tale performance before and can watch it online. The varying instruments piped into the drama is good for getting your mind out of routine.
25. Bret Eldridge – a cross between a big band, country, and Harry Connick, Jr.-esque. His fresh, modern take on class Christmas songs can awaken your senses
26. “Amazing Grace” – The Il Divo tenors are captivating to watch as they sing their parts of the same song
27. “Hallelujah” – Pentatonix has a chorus that’s refreshing to listen to especially if you’re in a mood funk. It’s like throwing a splash of warm water on your face as the singers echo melodies and imitate sounds
28. “Christmas Tree Farm” – Taylor Swift jingles can be a reminder of a jolly and hopeful time that Christmas is.
29. “Christmas Valentine” – Ingrid Michaelson and Jason Mraz (maybe he can add a Dancing with the Stars dance to his video?)
30. “Please Come Home For Christmas” – The John Mayer modern version with high guitar riffs, Jon Bon Jovi sultry version, or original Charles Brown oldie blues version can bring different moods. See if you can find the version that makes your day a couple minutes happier.
Just remember if you’re fatigued in any way, Christmas-y songs lift up your spirit. They will stay classic, as long as you want to remember them that way. We all grew up hearing the classic songs sung by different artists and repurposing an old song to a new version. Or are sung in collaboration with other artists. New re-made versions and meditative healing music are good for restoring different imbalances that your body is quietly thanking you for.
Anxiety attack or panic attack can be very shocking it happened the first time if you’ve never experienced before. It can be eye-opening and impact you for the days to come.
This article is about what to expect, do, and possible causes so you can be better prepared or prevent an attack.
I gratefully only had one panic attack that did not become a norm reaction. So I share what I did. I’m a Vata where we have natural anxious tendencies.
When you spend your day worrying about the next time anxiety can take over your time and day, that’s not helping you. That’s not how you want your life to go. You want to get the life you want and a slower paced life.
You didn’t sign up for or schedule the setback anxiety interruption in your day.
Where now you can be dealing with any number of physical symptoms. And you may even think you’re being a hypochondriac.
If that’s the case you want to rule out all the possible health reasons that caused your anxiety attack.
Dizziness and fuzzy brain could have come from nasal or head congestion and allergies, as your nose is connected to your inner ear that controls balance. And your frontal lobe near your forehead is where you do most of your cognitive, rational reasoning.
So if you can’t think clearly and it shows up around the same time every day, you could have developed seasonal allergies.
Hay fever fall symptoms may be worse in the afternoon than spring or summer morning allergies.
If you don’t eliminate common allergies as a potential cause, then that can lead you to create additional anxiety and worry that’s not helping.
Here Comes the Anxiety Attack
An anxiety attack can leave you dazed and unpleasantly change the course of your day.
You may feel you need to take the rest of the day off, suddenly rearranging your calendar.
An anxiety attack can also leave you feeling defeated because you’re working to manage your feelings and thoughts that can spew out into your body like uncontrollable bursts, showing up as heart palpitations, sweaty palms, dizziness, etc.
Similar to an anxiety attack, a panic attack can also come on suddenly. Usually, it’s more serious and from a buildup of stressors in your life.
This can shock you. You are no longer the same person you were just a few minutes ago where you were fine.
In a panic attack, the automatic functions in your body are still running but usually are frozen or hindered from taking action physically or cognitively.
When you come out on the other side, you are confronted with your life and have the opportunity to make a change so you don’t have another panic attack (or worse warning symptoms).
For me, that was in my 20’s from a series of life problems and roadblocks.
Post-trauma I never dealt with and ran away from in my mind by letting the past stay in the past. The problem with that strategy is that your brain doesn’t work like that.
Your brain’s subconscious can hold onto your thoughts forever. Sometimes when reminded or a trigger occurs, then you’re put back into reliving those memories. And can start feeling panic or anxious again.
You can be brought back to your past as though it were yesterday.
Until you can heal and cut out the parts that were broken or scarred, you don’t function in the best that you could. Your perceptions of life can get distorted. You can hide or avoid certain situations.
Your insecurity guard can rise.
You can make wrong assumptions that provide a safe haven for your mind to temporarily settle in, but that can lead to problems down the road.
What to Do First After You Have an Anxiety or Panic Attack?
These are 3 important steps:
You may feel shaken or light-headed. Sit up and just breathe. Then focus on your breath for a few moments. If there’s not a chair in the room, sit on the floor.
Drink at least half a glass of water.
Calm, relax and take the rest of the day off if you can (or at least a few personal moments to yourself).
Shut your door for privacy, and turn off your phone. Disconnect for as long as you can for the day.
Take time to re-orient and relax.
Think as though: if you have ever gone in for an in-and-out surgical procedure, you take it easy for the rest of the day so you can recuperate. You don’t push yourself as that can exacerbate your healing time.
If it’s your first anxiety attack, you may still be shell-shocked.
I know I was when I had a deeper panic attack where I sat frozen and the color on my face left and I was pale as a ghost.
I could feel my heart beating fast but nothing cognitive was registering and thoughts weren’t entering.
I wasn’t thinking.
I was just sitting in a chair, and I could feel my feet and hands numb and wet. Time stood still and I felt helpless.
When I came to, I re-oriented myself to my immediate office space.
A friendly co-worker entered my space and I told her what happened, and avoided anything unpeaceful.
Fast forward over 20 years later, and I remember this episode like it was yesterday.
You may be alone away from people, so that is why it’s always good to have water next to you, as you never know when it can come in handy.
If your anxiety attack happens at nighttime that is common. First thing when you wake up, reflect for a few minutes on what you went through before you go about your routine.
If it happens in the morning, ease into the rest of the day.
The Same Week of the Attack
Journal and reflect on what stress buildup created the episode.
What have you been worrying about in your life that could have led up to your anxiety attack?
Find an easy, simple, and fun activity to lower your stress.
Easy is you don’t have to think long and hard to find the materials or start doing. Knitting for me is a ball of yarn and a pair of knitting needles that take up little space.
Using your hands gives you a sense of usefulness.
Just the act of picking up your favorite tools or instruments can be satisfying and lower your blood pressure.
Remember the stress ball? By the way, I love my special pens and baking whisk.
You could even create something simple that helps you feel accomplished. A simple bake or your creative hobby can bring you in a better mood.
The idea is to keep it simple as you want to stay in awareness that this week was different because you had an anxiety attack. That’s the theme for your week.
You don’t want to forget so easily as you want to come up with solutions for now and the future.
Because otherwise you could later on the question whether you really did have an anxiety attack and then this could become a regular occurrence and way of life that you now have to manage.
Starting now, anxiety attack prevention is a better way.
To get you calm and reflecting deeper, you can do a little yoga or stretching that can be done anywhere. Using your legs can make you feel grounded and good.
Take the time and opportunity on the floor or yoga mat to self-discover more about what’s going on inside you.
Sometimes you can’t come up with the specific reasons to, “what could have caused the anxiety attack?”
So, What Else Could Have Caused your Anxiety Attack?
These are 3 possible causes:
Reason # 1: Your need to be in control.
Are you the type of person that wants to plan everything to feel comfortable? If yes, you’re not alone.
That was me too.
In my first career, I worked with Brides, who as you know want “the perfect day” to happen. Even the nicest one of them can feel the pressure.
When you’re event planning, you learn to be flexible and let go. This allows you to be present with clients and focus on their needs.
In that catering world, the norm is that changes are made every day (sometimes all day) and decisions can be made “on the fly.”
That way of being loosened me up to learn to surrender that which I could not change or control in my professional and personal life.
So in the same way in your life, you can ask yourself, “what changes can I make so that I can let go of the need to plan and know everything?”
Unknown and uncertainty can be the reason for your anxiety attack.
Consider, if you knew everything now about your life, you’d live a completely different experience.
You could have even less control than living in uncertainty because everything was planned out without you.
So if you find joy in the surprises and unknowing journey process of life, then you enjoy the now and your future.
Reason #2: Your ego.
Maintaining a healthy ego is important to prevent anxiety attacks.
Because the unhealthy ego will interject ugliness into your mind to prevent you from taking good action.
If left untreated by you, the ego can spiral out of control taking over your mind and life, affecting your relationships.
You can end up living selfishly, in delusion, or as two personalities.
I’m sure you’ve heard of people like this.
They appear bipolar or split-minded, that’s actually very common. They do not see this quality in themselves, and therein lies the problems.
The ego lies to the person.
We have the ability to change our ego lives in our own awareness.
Ego can cleverly ruin your life by tricking you so naturally.
Here’s a simple example.
I can suggest you pull out a mirror, and tell yourself loving and positive self-affirmations.
And you may not choose to do it because something (an impostor) in your brain is resisting.
Such a simple action (pulling out a handheld mirror) that doesn’t necessarily require you to even get up from where you are.
And you can find the task hard to do because more deeply you don’t want to allow yourself to feel good about yourself.
To remedy this, you could in awareness act like a witness to this behavior (or non-behavior) for your own self-love and personal growth.
Toddlers and animals don’t have these hangups.
All they know is love and assume self-love without giving thought to any other way, as they’re missing that gear.
We can learn a thing or two from them.
Reason #3: Your worry.
You were expecting a job, a career to pan out, or a relationship, and got disappointed or frustrated.
As time went on, reality sunk in and the truth about your situation became clear.
You have worry, panic, and anxiety that comes from these situations in the mind-body connection.
Your body gets out of balance and you can have an anxiety attack. Your thoughts can turn into inflammation or a stress pimple or gray hair.
You can decide to change your thoughts.
If you can flip your perspective and outlook of situations, this can change your life outcomes.
You can start with little stuff.
You spill a drink.
You could look at that as an inconvenience to have to wipe up. Or you can look at it as an opportunity to clean your space and feel good afterward.
Similarly, if someone takes your parking spot, you could use that to demonstrate your self-control, patience, and kindness.
The more you practice, the better you get.
Be encouraged that the best blessings are in the waiting and in the unknown. You will grow. Stay hopeful and remember to believe that. 🧡
“Don’t Worry Bout a Thing” is a good song to hum to. Bob Marley and Stevie Wonder knew how to perform a positive mantra in a catchy upbeat song.
That’s how you can begin to stay on top of your worry.
…‘Cause every little thing is gonna be alright. Baby, don’t wo-rrry… ‘bout a thing.
Worry won’t change a thing.
Imagine if you were learning to surf in the ocean water. All kinds of fears and anxieties could creep up in the back of your mind.
If fears of the water are on your mind’s forefront, you’d probably not surf unless you’re young or a sports extremist and that was your passion.
The fear of drowning, getting bit by a shark (like Pro Surfer Bethany Hamilton), being caught up in a strong riptide, or being swept away by a powerful tsunami wave, could become reality.
I’m sharing this with you because obviously, you’re not in this situation now, since you’re online. But we all have our own dangerous situations.
If they came on suddenly, you would develop worry, that would activate adrenaline rushed anxiety pulsing through your veins, as seconds went by. That could turn into a paralyzing panic daze fast if a big wave or similar formed.
I recorded a happy and calm “a day in the life” dog moment in this portrait painting 🙂
I once adopted a rescue chihuahua mix dog where I learned from him how to cure social anxiety. He was the cutest and sweetest dog ever. In my meeting with him, I knew he was the perfect dog for me then.
He acted calm (not jumpy like the Jack Russell terrier type). Walking around, he also acted curious, interested and engaged.
So excited, I did the paperwork the next day and took him home. I’d never had a dog before, but I was convinced he was a pet owner’s dream. If you have a dog, I’m sure you understand as you probably think the same things with your dogs!