Your mind life is the second part of this mind-body series that I started last week… and below are some balanced mind questions to ask yourself if you want to:
✅ Live your best abundant, joyful, and empowered life
✅ Get out of your rut patterns in life
✅ Restore and feel your peace and calm
And in calm and joy, the mind is where good moods start. And then in contast, where discouraging moods like unrest or boredom kick in. Rarely, are we in neutral-mind mode. Like, dogs who have this natural built-in feature. 🐶
Balanced Mind – Question Your Feelings
Challenging your thoughts is a healthy habit.
An easy way to gauge your thoughts is observing how you feel from your thoughts. Is it a negative feeling-thought that you’re holding onto? Do you feel icky from the thought of the thought, and does the thought unpleasantly linger longer than needed when you’ve already moved on?
…Or, is it a positive feeling and thought where you want to hold onto the nice memory, new thought, or dream about the future?
Does the thought bring you warm fuzzy feelings and make you happy?
…Or is it a neutral thought like when you’re in work mode, busy, or just focused on the task at hand?
Determining whether it’s a neutral, good, or bad feeling is an easy first step. And these are some feeling thought types from balanced mind questions you can ask yourself.
Do you have?:
Calm vs. worry thoughts
Peace vs. angry or irritated thoughts
Encouraging or exciting vs. withdrawn, listless, or repetitive thoughts
If thoughts are repetitive or disruptive to your day or longer, then you want to do a little detective mind work to discover where it may have come from and then end the mind drama with distraction.
Is there something you can gain or learn from this thought episode that may have shown up as a slightly different situation the last time?
…Because the sooner you figure that out in present awareness, the sooner you get to live our your optimal thought life. You’re free from mind imprisonment and you know what to do again.
Next time you connect the dots of your thoughts and life, that’s victory because then you can do something better with the thoughts… like tell it to take a hike or rewrite the thought to an aspired one that could become your dream life one day in self-fulfilling prophecy.
The opposite would be letting the ego have its way. Sadly, most of us live that way for some parts of life when we’re not fully aware.
And had I not lived that way before I was aware, I would’ve not clearly been able to see the other side. 🌈
The ego affects your feelings (and vice versa). The problem is that when the ego is stroked, it can run your thought life (or ruin parts of life leaving a regretful backlash).
The ego in your mind is like a clock in that it’s running all the time. Even if you want to shut if off, you can’t.
It’s job is to try to protect you, but in the modern world we don’t need most of its protective ways. It pulls information gathered from your past and in the present, tries to protect you from getting hurt. Doesn’t sound bad, right?
…Well, except its methods are deceivingly destructive. The ego ticks in a very twisted way, and can lead you into prideful ways or unconsciously hurting people in its wake.
You want to feel better, but not at the cost of others or yourself.
And if you want to live an abundant life through your better thoughts, then in most daily situations you want to disconnect the invisible-to-the-eye ego cord.
And if it involves people, pause and override your first reaction. Then move onto your higher intellect and power within you to trust people when they’ve earned a bit of trust.
No one is perfect, but if someone shows up consistently 90% of the time and doesn’t deliberately or intentionally take action to hurt you in some way, then your ego is wronging you by putting up a defense for this person or all people.
You unmask the ego and make it naked in awareness. You remove the feelings attached and you observe your thoughts. And you ask balanced mind questions.
Do a thought inventory check. Start objectively with openly asking yourself: how much of your life is ruled by ego?
Take a guess… is it 20% of your day or 80% or more of your day?
To get a better answer to balanced mind questions, do any of these describe your daily thoughts?
__ your initial entering thoughts make up most your daily small and/or larger decisions
__you have obsessive or repetitive thoughts that take up a good chunk of your day
__your thoughts go down rabbit holes and sometimes may even have unfactual endings attached that are NOT based in what’s happening in reality
Any of those descriptions could easily put you in the 80% or more category. And that’s common, so you’re not alone.
AND you can change this in you.
The solution is simple: if you want better results, then remember to frequently change your thoughts.
Staying closed minded and far away from present-moment mindfulness are some of ego’s biggest defense tricks. So keep questioning if you have balanced mind thoughts or need some tweaking love in some areas.
It’s not always easy to do if you’ve never practiced or stretched your thought mind muscles. Once you’re aware, it’s a LOT easier. And to give a nudge encouragement, just know it’s not about being a deep thinker.
It IS about getting happy, free, and the best abundant life you can have.
Just something to consider as you rewrite your habits and daily thoughts. I’m cheering you on. 🤗
