Calm mind is an aspiration often when you’re served up stressful situations in life… from work, family, or friendships that you balance in your life wheel.
The sooner you practice a calm mind and mindset, create boundaries, and step higher than your face-value situations…
…The better your life and work-life balance.
For the ONE life you get.
And during stressful testing times, the best way to calm your mind is to give the mind a way out.
This article is about how to calm your mind.
Because first off… you are not your mind, but the mind is in you.
Separating yourself as the choice and decision maker (that your mind is not) is your way out… and away from stress and toward your calm, peace, and happiness.
They are opposite directions where you get to choose which way you go. ⬅️➡️
You can take subtle, enjoyable baby steps toward the better direction choice using calm mind apps and daily music therapy 🎶 that will help turn the tide.
Those are the Ayurvedic ways I love. 🧡
But they subtly work in the background, so you won’t necessarily know they worked because they gradually turn the tide from the inside-out into the right direction (mind-body calm and peace).
Using your sense of sight, smell, hearing, and touch are all part of the prescription… and they are Ayurvedic comforting and add joy to your daily life. So why not?
…Gotta love that!
And when you have a loud interfering monkey mind 🙉 that swarms in worry or high ego-drama unrest in your mind, feeling good again is the goal.
To break out of those clouded mind moments or seasons, you would need to shout back at your untouchable and unseen ego that’s your then-invisible enemy in play that’s blocking truth, love, and peace.
At the root, your ego’s job is to protect you in survival situations… to get you to act and react to save your life if a tiger is chasing you.
But in modern daily life, it’s a detriment as ego goes overboard in its protective role!
Shutting off your ego (that shows up as pride) is the answer in most modern stressful situations.
It’s never your fault that your ego acts up due to situational triggers.
…But it is completely up to you how you want it to play out. And if healthy and happy is your goal, then the following tips will help support this…
Lowering ego is the restoring way back to your happiness and inner love-peace.
But not so easy is shutting off others… and actually impossible to do!
So you need to manage those situations.
Because misery is an option that adds zero daily benefits.
I know this well through many trials and situations…
I grew up and lived most my life in the DC metro area where egos fly high in close proximity to America’s politically charged circles where heads butt.
And that permeates in the local air and work environments close by outside of politics.
Pride in ego runs high and causes riffs anywhere in the world.
The problem is: everyone thinks it’s normal.
So it has been normalized. And even congratulated by people (through their egos) in the wins that are sometimes harmful.
This “normal” way trickles down into how we day-to-day operate and our relationships at work, and with family and friends.
But you can rise higher for a better calm mind AND life…
In your daily circles, when you have conflicts and tough situations that you may often grin and bear, do a healthy action that frees your mind from the ego bondage…
To escape from the trappings of you ego, look for an out that will settle your mind.
This is especially useful and needed for your happiness if you are being treated unfairly or feeling displeasure from other people’s ways.
Take the mind-out of the situation by creating options.
And when you have options, your ego mind is no longer a prisoner.
It’s set free and so are you! 🎉
Example: your under-stress boss demands undesired actions from you creating a miserable work environment for you. While you may do the tasks begrudgingly to keep your job (that’s important to keep a roof over your head), in your free time, lunch break, or evenings, start proactively looking for other jobs.
This will subtly show your ego-mind that you have options (and are not trapped) and then you will feel better about your life and situation.
You are free from your ego’s captivity.
And you may even find the job of your dreams in the process!
Another example: your spouse or partner has been taking things out on you or bringing their negative emotional energy that has caused arguments between the two of you. Let the other person work out their unrest issues themselves. Start spending more time with your productive activities and friendships.
Because you can’t control or change other adult’s behaviors and actions.
That’s the bottomline.
Changing people is not the answer.
Provide the information they need, but it’s up to them to come up with their conclusions as it is for you to come up with yours and your peace of mind.
That’s the peacemaking way that will add years to your calm mind life…
And that protects your mind from the ugly ego (yours and theirs) rearing its ugly head in your situations… where anger, resentment, or taking out on other areas grow.
You’re likely served up these type of situations from most people in the world, and specifically those who aren’t as evolved… and letting their ego invisibly and cunningly play them.
In those times, the high ego person may even commonly accuse you of what they are actually going through if you’re in their regular or daily path.
BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE AREN’T AWARE OF THEIR EGO. AND IF THEY ARE, THEY ARE BEING PLAYED IN THEIR STRESSFUL SITUATIONS, UNTIL THEY STEP OUT.
As someone who considers herself evolved 🙋🏻♀️… for me, it still takes a while to step out of ego’s loud ways and see what’s going on.
And I completely remember the days when I had no clue I was being played.
But information is power!
Breaking out of old mindsets is a worthy fight for a calm mind and inner peace.
And the more practice, the easier it gets…
It sounds ridiculous (and to the ego that effort needs to be made), but my dear friend… the daily effort is the path to happiness.
Effort is the way out of stressful situations with people who walk around not knowing their ego (enemy) is playing them.
And all of us who are doing modern life have experienced people’s ego rearing their ugly heads.
You don’t have to turn far to find examples.
And if you’re in those situations now, don’t play the ego game served up.
Most importantly, don’t further enable bad behavior.
Train the ego person with your boundaries:
Love the person, but hate their behavior.
Be calm and kind, but firm.
Don’t let others manipulate you because they are persistent (e.g. kids can be the worst ego maniacs because they know no better).
It will only get worse if you say yes… to both ego adults or kids.
Stand your ground no matter how you feel in the moment… or the fear you feel creeping up in your that the ego is drumming up.
Rise higher to the opposite that’s love (that the Universe is full of).
Stand your ground with tough love that may feel harsh, but you and the ego-other will be grateful later.
Don’t let your ego block and blind you from seeing the harm that’s so common.
I can see ego-action from a mile away now (informed), and as you learn more you will be able to too! 😊
Ego is the danger for most people where they can’t see what’s going on in their mind and play-by-play actions in them or others’ egos.
Ego-blinding in you or others happen if you don’t consistently pay attention no matter how busy you are… 🙈
Use loss of sleep, appetite, gray hairs, sudden pimples, and body aches for no physical reason as more obvious signs something undesirable is happening to you!
A.K.A ego situations are near.
To catch all this, slow down, be aware and sensitized, and witness what’s happening…
Use your deep breathing present moments to slow down to see clearer and insight into what’s going on.
This is where time on your yoga mat or quiet chair help so you’re more sensitive of your symptoms that are more easy to spot.
Think of it as a diagnoses session where you get your calm mind peace and years back!
Because your body and loving, peaceful mind don’t lie (like the ego does in your busy moments).
And you can use this revealing body balance quiz to help you see what’s going on with your body and mind-body today from your body symptoms POV.
It’s like seeing the printed words on your car side mirror: objects are closer than they appear.
Or the nearby signs.
But in daily myopia and ego-blindness, we don’t see the signs.
When we become aware and get close-sight clarity, then you can see what’s happening in your stressful situations.
You can effectively calm your mind… AND use those stressful situations to make positive impact in your life.
AND OH, this is the best part of stress that makes it healthy good and worthwhile!…
If you’ve already spent or wasted hours or days on a stressful situation that robbed you of joy and peace, you might as well turn your victimhood into something useful in life (and help others going through similar situations).
…like I’m intently doing here in this article I wrote. 😊
I learned at one of my early-on jobs that you teach others how to treat you in life. I use that as a guiding mantra.
And you can too, to set healthy boundaries with others to get your calm mind, peace, happiness, and time back.
You’ve probably heard before that kids need… and LIKE boundaries.
They actually like ’em. And as grown up kids, adults do too!
So embrace that counterintuitive way in your daily situations.
That’s how you’ll get your calm life you aspire to.
And remember, tough love is a good thing for everyone. 🎉
