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Gratitude Practice of Not Wasting Anything

Gratitude is a word we all know.

Gratitude for cotton candy pink flowers that are reminders of life as a gift. — Cotton candy flowers can spark gratitude as reminders in what we have.

I have gratitude for pretty in pink cotton candy color flowers, reminding me that it’s a summer season of life.

The flowers are a gift from nature and the people who planted the bush. Both are gifts in this life…

And life works in our favor when we treat life as a gift.

…When we say “thank you” and are grateful when we’re given something like a present, compliment, or other kind words and gestures.

…And when we feel gratitude in what we have and what’s around us that we get to taste, touch, see, smell, and do.

My first memorable grips with what gratitude meant in words was in a book I saw and picked up that was different than others around in the bookstores at the time.

In Sarah Ban Breathnach’s Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, she wrote, “how could I expect more from the Universe when I didn’t appreciate what I already had?”

That was curious wisdom and encouragement for me. It helped make me wonder and evolve to become that person who could gain those deeper inner perspectives.

The 365 days of inspiring words in the book had new meaning and concepts I had never heard of before.

Back then, I didn’t know what a gratitude practice was.

Those were pre-New Age law of attraction days.

That today is Old Age stuff 😊

And we know what’s old often becomes new again.

…Like a gratitude practice.

These days, it’s common for many of us as our culture has evolved.

Back then, I only aspired to those simple abundant life practices, so that was something I worked toward without knowing it would become so.

That’s how life is rigged in our favor… setting us up before we even know what we want in the future.

Which btw, no past experiences you have are wasted in your life. They are there for a reason.

…And for some reason, I picked up the book again over 20 years later.

And in this life influencing book, the entry on January 21 reads: “Today, be willing to believe that a companion Spirit is leading you every step of the way, and knows the next step.”

…Back then, I had no idea what those words meant when the book sat boldly on my night stand in 1996 (a year after it was first published).

But my soul felt good reading over those words.

And today I know exactly what those words mean.

Today I have gratitude that my Spirit is aligned with those words.

And that’s one special way of how this life can be so awesome… when you discover that-secret-something that’s so profoundly deep and bigger than yourself and everything else in life you’ve known so far.

How can you not celebrate?

…When a discovery is bigger than yourself..

And this inner discovery was bigger than myself.

It was life changing.

And I needed a life change and a kick in the pants from the Universe to make some changes.

Journaling helped unravel me along with many self-help books on my journey.

Those were my life teachers.

…What books helped shape your ways?

Plus, the Simple Abundance book mentioned gratitude journaling.

And the book also mentioned abundance concepts (besides being part of the title of the book).

That was the first time I ever remember the concept introduced to me.

Because I didn’t grow up thinking of abundance.

But I aspired to abundance… dreaming about what that could be like someday! 💭

Dreams become reality when you let the bigger Universe work in your life and inside you.

…And you then purposefully stretch your mind muscles enough to go there.

That’s how I slowly let open space in and reframed abundance from a previous crowded, limited and victim mindset.

And within the new space, I invited more gratitude in.

Like with a simple way to show gratitude that anyone can do with the concept of not wasting… where you’re grateful for daily abundance in everyday things such as food abundance (that happens to be my passion place 🍽️).

So imagine all the vegetables growing and coming out of a summer garden. Or if you don’t have one 🙋🏻‍♀️, what’s available to you at abundant (indoor garden) grocery stores you shop in.

Either way, you have the option to save or waste food that’s not consumed.

And if you save, then you’re preserving food for another time or purposefully not wasting food.

In some ways, that can sound like a scarcity mindset (that builds up a limiting mindset), where there’s not more coming in or not enough.

…But the difference in message comes from inserting in Gratitude.

I’m grateful for this food.

…AND believing there’s plenty to go around.

And I’m thankful I’ve got unlimited access to new and different foods daily.

Then you’re allowing abundance in food to flow freely in your mind and life.

(Btw, you can do this for anything and everything to help yourself grow).

Where you’re taking belief into action, showing gratitude by not wasting.

Then you’re fully aligned with words matching actions.

Re-purposing and celebrating are ways to show gratitude and abundance.

…Oh, and when you think and live like that, you can be pretty darn sure that you’ll have plenty more coming your way! 💕

Gratitude is such a simple and powerful daily exercise for building up an abundant mindset… and to manifest your bigger dreams. 💭💭

Busy Decision Made Easy – Get Unstuck!

Busy doesn’t have to be your life if you want to get unstuck this season. And this 7-and-a half minute article has notes about how you can declutter busy in your life (and get more of the authentic best life you’re meant to wisely live!).

I know both ways well because busy is something I grew up aspiring to. A BUSY LIFE was my purpose like a busy bee going from flower to flower.

Busy as a busy bee in this pink garden flower.

…when I grew up and lived in the busy DC metro area culture where everyone working is busy. Having busy plans on-and-off work meant you were important in some way.

…And not being busy meant you didn’t have a life.

I thought busy was a great word, and lived busy up into my 30s.

Today, busy is a “b” as in bad word now to me years in.

But lemme quickly tell you how I got there…

I simply buzzed away from the busy bees in the DC metro area I grew up in for starters… 🐝

Before that, busy was a charm bracelet I wore. It also meant complicating life by adding more and more. Accumulating is a deeper concept that accumulates, taking up space in life (and adds to or creates Kapha imbalances).

The opposite of a simple life sounded so boring.

And where I’m from, you can simply say “I’ve been busy” and you won’t get questioned.

The answer of being busy often got the equivalent of a smiling thumbs up. 👍

On top of those attitudes, being stood up is and was rude, but it was (and probably still is) accepted and common in acting 20 year olds.

Because unless the person you’re interacting with is related to you or lives with you, they’re too busy to listen if they don’t have to. That’s part of the busy culture air.

Souls aren’t looking for deep conversations about the soul, ha!

What’s your dark knight of the soul? as the person walks away and I’m standing by myself.

…I laugh because those are my favorite types of conversations now. 😊

And gradually as I became more interested in personal growth (and grew less busy), I saw being busy from the lens of being an excuse.

That’s what happens when you fill up breathing in living an authentic life and prioritizing inner peace (that’s now occupying your inner space).

…Compare that to wanting to just come out unscathed from this life living on the surface, like during my lowest seasons where I also dreamed of external-only happy desires.

Digging myself out of this way, I carved out big chunks of the day to be free, silent and listening to my thoughts, immersed in relaxing hobbies, writing, reading, writing some more, and just being at-peace, happy-joyful, and balanced.

No meditation except getting input and ideas from initiated prayer and memories from experiences, books, and others’ useful words.

And I’ll even go out on a limb and say, certain types of meditation as I know it are just another way to be busy… you know after a while of doing if it’s sucking life out of you (not giving back) OR if it’s life-giving and you can’t do without. Amen?

For me, one meditation way that works is getting in the zone of creative free-flow writing.

That I did very little of if at all in my corporate headspace days when I operated at my lowest vibration, but what I was doing looked good on paper and to the people I grew up with and was mostly around.

Gradually in my new slower paced life, I developed personal growth through building up character traits that aligned with the fruit of the spirit if you’re familiar.

Mainly: faith, patience, self-control, and peace.

These are deeper traits I never improved before (and were actually made worse in my former culture that modeled the opposite by outward actions).

And I had to go out of my way to seek those things and let them penetrate.

So then I had a new mark of success as personal growth (over external and corporate role accomplishments that used to be the primary mark).

To help unravel the busy life damage I soaked in, one step I took was I stopped filling up a calendar (that my earlier-hospitality event managing planner lifestyle approved and cozied up with).

I now like the look of a blank white calendar with a few fun stickers.😀

And today a nearly blank calendar is how I clearly see if I should add or skip an event… and then I decide.

And how I decide is based on the principle of GIVE and GET that I think is helpful for you if you want clarity in your life… and especially if you’re stuck.

And in this case use, it’s give OR get.

It goes like this…

If you’re giving something like teaching, encouraging, supporting, helping, mentoring, presenting, volunteering your time or donating money, then you have good reason to take time out of your day to be in that event headspace and with those people. It’s worth considering to put on your calendar.

…OR if you’re getting something out of an event like building connections, learning something new, supporting someone else, or getting yourself into happy moods by being somewhere else, then those are all good reasons to carve out time on your schedule.

But if not primarily going in and doing it for a Giving or Getting reason…

Then you’re allowing your drifting subconscious mind (that often influences and decides 😊)… to be confused and wonder if you need to be at the event… or questioning other people and their behaviors or way of dress, and not focusing on what they’re teaching or saying…

And if we’re judging others or having negative thoughts or feelings about being there, then it’s best to catch that and exit gracefully when you can.

Move on and enjoy the sunshine where you feel good.

Get back your hours and move in the direction of where you want to go.

When you were younger, you couldn’t do that or you would be going against approval of some form.

And now you’re an adult who chooses…

Re-learning and setting new habits around the idea that what is good for others isn’t good for you… and taking action based on that wisdom saves you time and going down rabbit holes.

So when you determine if you’re giving or getting in a situation, that makes it Black-And-White easy to decide if you should add more of that busy to your calendar.

…So it’s clear all around.

But then there are exploratory busy time-taking areas that are Gray.

And these can be good (or GRAY-T) opportunities for growth.

For example, sometimes we sign up for things because our gut told us to and we’re unsure why… yet.

Because of unknown future and unlimited possibilities, you want to keep yourself open and sometimes intentionally busy yourself there to investigate… temporarily making yourself out-of-pocket for routine or something else.

So we go there to this new place to learn… and to check and figure it out.

…And when we’re there, sometimes we discover we’re not yet aligned with the message there… where we’re here and that’s there, but the seeds have been planted (by going to learn).

After the event, we may even think: that was a waste of time.

But it wasn’t because our soul (mind, will, emotions) and wise spirit (wired to the Universe) knew better than us… we just hadn’t caught up and weren’t ready yet.

And one day that boomerangs back to us in alignment when we have clarity and remember the experience and learning.

Leaning in and taking a reflective pause helps you investigate what’s best for your life and gives better discernment as to what to do next.

By choosing to NOT take action always, you gain clarity in the step back that’s also action.

And if you miss a specific space, place, or people you visited before to learn and meet with, then that could be a reason to go back to invite in more of those event occasions again.

You’ll know soon enough if you read your tea leaves right or if it was a false return to open you up for something new and different that’s your next pursuit… and not just a busy one.

That’s how we’re wired to do this life and figure out what’s BEST for us in the moment.

And using the GIVE or GET simple decision trick helps that.

Staying productive for a life of success is a balancing dance act of giving, getting, and enjoying.

It puts us at the higher energy level to bring in bigger and better, and less busy filler things… and higher leads to your fulfilling calling, purposes, and destiny. 🧡

Fika Happy Break Today

Fika is a concept in Sweden for a coffee break. And that in America has gotten smaller as coffee is all-day brewing.

This was a cappuccino Fika moment ☕️ I enjoyed in Gothenburg, Sweden.

Fika has grown to mean so much more about life.

Especially post-2020.

Those humbling, bittersweet years wherever you were on the planet grew you no matter what age you were.

We can now all look back…

To then when you got more you-experiences discovering more about yourself with change of routines… and as you interrupted your usual patterns.

And in more recent years, you found your groove back and learned tips for healthy balanced living.

You and I can appreciate what we have better, today.

You can now live the 80/20 real life vs. digital world that we dreamed of and no longer in Zoom fatigue settlement.

But those growing years gave us new insight. You don’t wanna lose all the good you developed from 2020.

And you can lean into a couple Fika points reminders:

-still slow down and make time to take a daily break (you can use you won’t get this day back as a self-reminder). Slowing down allows for new ideas to break through from the space break opportunity you carve out.

-appreciate daily simple joys and small happy pleasures (…maybe sweets 🍥?), healthy snacks and beverages.

Ok, one more…

– maintain some quiet time that can include reading, journaling, yoga, meditation, or enjoying sitting still with a cup of coffee and your soul. And if you dare, listen to your spirit.

This gets us away from love and into the noisy gong and clanging cymbal of the world that’s full of fear.

Silence is where you can hear the love whispers that’s inside each of us.

And then breaking out of silence or Fika moments, you want to immerse yourself in life to appreciate life.

You may have remembered not too long ago when an employee usually older than you said they were going on a coffee break and then disappeared.

That idea disappeared…

And so did the idea of driving out of your way to find a pot of coffee in America. It was helpful not to be a coffee drinker as you’d be in a diner or a 7-11. Coffee was more a morning ritual only.

These days coffee counters are everywhere in any metro suburban area, so people have re-appeared and coffee culture is running all day.

…Sometimes we even spend all day at a coffee shop balancing real life and our devices that we’re on. The digital nomad is not a new concept and finding fika is a way of living.

Years before I took on this lifestyle, I was getting inspired sitting and people watching where some of the famous writers like Ernest Hemingway and Jean-Paul Satre sat in a famous cafe.

That was doing fika compared to people hovering over a coffee machine that has replaced the office water cooler.

These days in America, everyone is armed with their own water-filled water bottles.

And then back at home…

Making coffee is a Fika opportunity to slow down and feel joy breaks.

Since modern research shows coffee as anti-inflammatory, it’s aligned with mind-body connection happy and healthy… that’s naturally in the coffee caffeine.

Coffee caffeine is especially a healthy energy alternative to caffeinated sodas that have too much unhealthy sugar.

But I think it’s good to get the sugar hype out of the system when you’re younger when your body isn’t so critical about what you consume…

Sodas was my breakfast starting out journey… that was later replaced with morning coffee and writing that aligned hand-in-hand with blogging. 📝

…And I’m sure you have your own beverage journey that aligned with your growing ways.

My daily routine is cold brew as less harsh/lower acidity and less bitter if that matters to you and your body. Cold brew vs. iced coffee are not the same thing.

It takes about as much effort to make a. cup of cold brew (as using a coffee machine), so maybe that’s something to consider. 💭

You can easily learn how to make a perfect cold brew coffee you’ll enjoy!… that’s even your younger inner child could have made years ago (but maybe stayed away from bitter). 😀

…Or maybe that could have been a similar story line in your green tea journey where you didn’t start off liking the bitter leaves.

…and now can tolerate (or prefer with your 180 degree changes as you change… or since your tea was better prepared in the lower 180 degree water temp 😀).

Which btw if tea is your jam, a tea break or afternoon tea is another Fika way to slow down. It’s not all about coffee anymore.

And maybe it’s plain water or healthy water drinks or you’re looking for new inspo for a few anti-inflammatory, healthy dry January drink, or tea ideas.

These can all be part of the Fika in the afternoon.

In America, we call this an afternoon snack break where America is home of the snacks. 🇺🇸 You can go into any size grocery store and see aisles full.

And you can healthy challenge yourself to make home healthy snacks to also slow down and relax.

Relaxed, you get to change your rhythm and feel the happy effects that lead to an overall productive day or Part 2 of your day.

Some light sweet or savory snacks for your Fika could be all you need to keep going in the right direction for your day:

Some ideas: try a one-bowl low-sugar chocolate chip oatmeal cookie that’ll do the sweet satiating trick over cravings. Or a healthier cinnamon roll or a buckwheat ginger snap cookie. Buckwheat is gluten-free, btw.

And maybe Fika tea party?… with the best way to make chai that you can pair with no-bake chai balls. Leave the cooking and baking for another time.

You can add Swedish-inspired savory Fika smorgas (open faced sandwiches).

You can make a healthy microgreen einkorn sandwich bread platter version mixing the growing microgreen culture (that I barely remember grew outta the alfalfa sprouts craze 🌱).

In catering, we called these finger sandwiches on a platter that always were a hit. The crusts were cut off.

And for similar effects, you can also leave the sandwiches open (smorgas) for less bread ratio.

Smorgas is different than a smorgasboard. That means sandwich table.

…Which wich is not just one sandwich!

Smorgasbord today as we know is a buffet (table) in American culture.

That’s the more-is-more approach.

With Fika, you can master the art of enjoyment that leads to contentment, and appreciate less-is-more with a light and balanced table.

Blend this with coffee culture and tea blends, and you have a daily reason to celebrate… and be grateful for the simple things that happened (and the bad ones that didn’t).

And simply appreciate this moment. ⏳

Slow Down For Faster Growth and Balance

Slow down and living sounds like a snail boring description in this marathon journey we call Life. Or something we’d do later in life.

But actually the way to discover more of what you want in this life is found in those slower and often overemphasized silent sloooww moments where you can gather your thoughts in mindfulness.

On the flipside, if you get in the habit of being busy, you’ll find slow life seasons as mundane in comparison.

And that gives your ego the opportunity to make the difference a negative, when it’s actually a positive. For one, you lower stress that you can’t measure and that can add years to your life.

When you embrace slow seasons and dig deeper, you can find the joy of missing out of activities and discover more of you.

I know when I was younger I felt like all eyes were on me when the truth is people are concerned with their own lives.

They’re not thinking of us as much as our naturally entering thoughts want us to think.

So focusing on ourselves gives us our healthy back. And at the end of the day and our lives, we’re the only ones we are guaranteed to be with.

Saying no to what’s not good for you is good. Only you as an evolved being know how to live your life wisely.

…Sometimes this can take seasons to embrace.

And when you go through the motions of enough busy seasons, you realize there’s an end to each season. The buildup can end up in letdown. And looking back, you gain wisdom and lessons learned that are invaluable for your future.

Summed of wisdom can follow with: it’s not about what you do in your day-to-day that matters most as today becomes a fast and fading memory tomorrow. You never re-live yesterday.

This type of discernment often comes later with years and experience so you don’t waste more time on things that don’t matter. Back in my earlier years like most my age, I measured achievements against the culture I grew up around that didn’t last.

An example: I started out going to public schools in the U.S. county where at the time I was growing up had the highest ranking standardized test scores in the nation… like the SATs taken in high school.

Living outside Washington DC that’s full of movers and shakers didn’t make slowing down a goal. The idea was to speed up and always be busy no matter what.

Photo: This is the remodeled open skylit space in the house that I grew up in where my desk sat decades ago and I learned to type on an ancient typewriter in the 80s. And then picked up writing daily years later.

I gradually shook off the “busy” mentality to get to where I am today where being busy on purpose matters most.

And the Universe helped me by removing obstacles that at the time seemed like a mean joke. Because starting over seemed like a recurring theme. But being in those rough seasons and trying to gain traction, I grew. And I made other accomplishments that weren’t on my list.

Lessons Learned

I realized life well-lived isn’t meant to be a linear path, going up and up. It’s more like up and out, and sometimes back down. And navigating adversity and new starts help you with now what? situations.

Being a late bloomer can actually help you. If you didn’t peak too quickly (or having peaked yet!), you didn’t miss or haven’t missed out!

Your experiences in between build you up to what you need for your dreams to turn out to be a dream come true (and not a letdown).

In your time, you’ll appreciate when you are fully spiritually ready to embrace what is meant to be yours! 🎉 Remember the turtle in the slow pace life marathon wins the race. 🐢

When I entered my new start in college, it was eye-opening as that was the first time I realized students came from totally different background circumstances.

Before then, I took high school courses and learned things prior that other people who came from other places in the U.S. had never experienced and that was shocking to me at the time.

I needed those eye openers to embrace moving down south, a slow down pace in life more on my terms.

There, I was immediately struck with how politics didn’t suffocate the air. And I was able to appreciate a slower pace life.

With new environment and time, I realized that this life is more than what our resumes and awards say about us.

A calmer, life slow down has other benefits too like you actually are mindful of what you’re doing or watching in the moment. That brings joy.

The moment is not a blur like outfit changes to the next activity that’ll come and go and you may not have fully enjoyed because your headspace was busy preoccupied.

These are a few ways to embrace the slow pace life and wisdom sooner when you’re in the busy seasons:

Slow cook your foods. I’ve had microwaves in and out of my life. And when I had one, I always used the equipment.

But when I didn’t have one, I realized I would pause to think about things in life (mindfulness) when I was watching over food heating or slow cooking.

In slow cooking life, I sometimes daydreamed about complex dishes like those when I worked in hotel catering or restaurant event planning.

Or happy fond food memories in gastronomic experiences I had. I spent vacationing weeks in Italy where the slow food movement grew and developed into American organic and sustainable cooking culture because of restaurants like Chez Panisse.

It’s fun to immerse yourself into other worlds like this that you’re not in. It’s a different type of mindfulness.

Then when brought back to actually cooking, that brought me back to simpler cooking times which is the way I appreciate foods for their whole and individual tastes.

Then voila! dinner is ready and you had a ‘lil escape… so meal prep is actually enjoyable. 😉

Slow down habits become a balanced and joyful lifestyle. And that can start from nostalgia or daydreaming that can be part of your healthy life like meditation.

Those type of things slow you down and sometimes you can resurface a dream.

A habit of slow living or slowing down can be changed with or without a simple piece of kitchen equipment. 😊

Take a moment to take deep breaths. We can never be over-reminded. We have nothing if we don’t have our daily breath. It gives us space. And if you ever feel heart palpitations, this is a way to calm those down:

Listen to your inner voice and what’s it telling you. When we have nagging thoughts, they usually mean something needs to be addressed for our peace. In those times, it’s better to get out of our head voices and listen to the higher channels.

Take time for yourself away from people. We act differently when we’re around people and social environments than by ourselves. We take on their energy and want to naturally blend in with ours. But it’s hard to find your authentic self in those head spaces when trying to please others.

It’s good to take some solo time out that’ll speed up your personal growth. That’s when you can reflect on what matters in your life, so you don’t end up with regrets.

And preparing today for tomorrow is the secret to getting the life you want.

Taste your tea when you first put your lips on your mug. Enjoy the aroma. Using Ayurveda methods, smelling a scent or spice first, is a good way to see if it’s pleasant. What’s pleasant to your eyes doesn’t mean it’s favorable to your body.

Then when you come back another time, you may feel something different for the same experience. Our bodies are constantly changing and sending us signals. When you’re aware and sensitized to your own senses, you can better influence how your day goes.

So next time, give your food a good acknowledging stir before you take a bite.

Do mindful eating or intuitive eating. In intuitive eating, it’s all about slowing down and mindfulness. And when you do that, you pick up different notes and palates. You become more open to different tastes.

Slow down eating when you’re around people, are you the first one to finish eating? Mindful eating is a balanced effort in a busy agenda. Find at least one meal to practice on.

Why not enjoy what you’re eating and appreciate the food and drinks you have in front of you?

Take a few bites and imagine the food source. Where does the food come from before the grocery store? Someone if not you from your garden sourced the food. For plant-based foods, those come from the land and were picked by someone.

Many food travel shows teach us about regional food sources and how certain cultures prepare dishes that can make us slow down and appreciate.

Get rid of check list to-do items that never needed to be completed. Lists are great for groceries but for life direction, not so much. You end up zipping through the list.

The goal (of lists) is to get to the end. And in slow down, we want to experience and enjoy the middle.

With lists you can also end up working on things that were never important to begin with. Those slow down your progress.

If you have a slow pace life, you remember what’s important in the moment as your miracle memory (or spirit) prompts you.

And finally, take time to look at old photos or read journals you wrote.

Try to remember who you were back then. You want to see a new and improved you and not one that has aging appearance effects. You’re aging in wisdom beauty and a better quality life.

That’s something to celebrate today. 🎉