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Creative Spark Brings New Life Opportunities

A creative spark often comes from places that you don’t actively participate in, but that you see and appreciate. Like at a fair.

It’s easy as a spectator.

Like watching dance. Or theater.

And when I was 5, it was a tall man on stilts at the Ringling Bros. & Barnum and Bailey Circus. My family won 4 free tickets to the show. I was barely old enough to remember.

But I do vividly remember the lights, colors, and a show that was like nothing I’d ever seen before in show creativity.

Then years later came Cirque du Soleil. I saw “O” around my post-college years. It was future-proof original.

And alive and kicking today, there’s still nothing like the international traveling show. It’s in a league of its own. With characters in opera-esque costume designs doing Olympic stunts.

And The Spark is by far one of the most inspirational creativity books I’ve read. It’s all about the behind-the-scenes Cirque creative wizardry, executed at the highest level in my opinion.

They gotta dazzle and keep it practical safe too. Maybe one day they’ll add in robots as characters… just sayin’! 😊

But no matter what, it’s always a plus when the human audience (you and me) feel something.

Because then new ideas spark.

Inspiration comes from feeling ignited, and then you can manifest ideas in your daily life.

That’s a goal of creativity. Coming up with ideas inside you that inspire.

And an idea you can spark in yourself today.

…Where maybe you make dreams visible again in your life that may have gotten buried?

Connect your dots, of dreams to reality.

Feel, get inspiration, grow ideas, and manifest creativity.

It was done by the creators of Cirque du Soleil.

And Leonardo’s Da Vinci’s Vitruvius Man inspired the wheel character.

A wheel is a metaphor for completeness. It’s also a metaphor for getting to places.

So you can use those imaginary images to make your dreams come alive. And spark ideas.

Another character is Quidam… inspired by surrealist, Rene Magritte’s Charlie Chaplin headless characters holding umbrellas scattered in a repetitive pattern in the sky.

Magritte also used thick white dreamy clouds in his paintings to stir up imagination and wonder. Or a painting of a painting on an easel of an open window that blended with the outdoor landscape, giving a same-distance illusion (trompe l’oeil).

You don’t need to see a magic show to be amazed.

Creativity is happening all around us when we look.

That gets us inspired and our wheels turning.

Sometimes creativity can bring in far-out surreal elements (what’s not real and blend with the real).

And this is how real life is…

We have our own perceptions that can be off-color, but is our reality.

And we go about life with our perspectives.

Some factual and some not.

Doing the best we can with what we have presented to us.

Letting our imagination fill in the gaps.

And memory experiences to re-purpose ideas (like fashion trends where what’s old is new again).

Where the current times have changed, so the context and setting is different. So it’s a new idea.

And re-inventing is creative.

It’s our secret happy place.

You can re-invent anywhere.

Sitting on a yoga mat. Or climbing up a tree house. Relaxing in a bath tub. Or laying down on our magic carpet in our reading nook.

Before you know it, you can come up with ideas that are entirely new revelations to you… and maybe help the world in a unique way that no one else can.

It’s better to imagine and create than to follow because then you can freely use your one and only heart and feelings, and make stronger contact with yourself. And the world.

You find your purpose.

Where you lead.

And that can immerse from creativity and passion work (that’s love in work terms).

That’s what most the performers in Cirque du Soleil discovered.

And the most beautiful part is that the story is not about the death defying acts… it’s about developing character.

And the real characters behind the acting-performing characters.

That’s what our lives are about. Finding and being our best selves in the world.

Even if today you have a boring desk job.

Or lowly under-appreciated work.

That helps build character.

You go through to get to.

Let go of the old that’s temporary and changeable.

Pivoting is permanent.

Using your creative talents in your work is an example of the best of both worlds, where you give and receive.

And if you’re not happy with what you’re doing today, now is your best time to make a change no matter your situation.

There will never be a better time (because right now is all we’re promised). And time is your biggest asset.

If you don’t know what your creative story future is or will be, you don’t have a vision, or are waiting for your clues to unfold, let me encourage you here…

I’ve gotten only one real vision in my life.

And it wasn’t from a vision board or a dream I had.

It was a spiritual one that I didn’t orchestrate.

…I didn’t even agree to participate in.

But I trusted that the higher Universe knows and knew better than me.

And it changed the trajectory of my entire life. It uprooted me, my work, my relationships, and how I saw life from then on.

And then life got quiet and went on.

Like all of us, I’m taking one step in front of the other without knowing what’s next.

So I remember my past for clues.

I grew up around creative art influences.

Like art museums, fabric stores, art supply stores, art class at school, library books, and magazines that were often my creative inspirations.

And I loved making art, anytime.

In school I made stained glass art nouveau inspiration pieces made from tissue paper and construction paper.

And paper mache masks from plastic milk gallon jars. I even made a clay pot that got fired up in the kiln.

…And as I remember, mine never came out of the kiln.

And like getting lost in the fire, none of my school artwork from the past was saved.

…Except a fiction story book I wrote. Where I made a book cover out of cardboard and polka-dotted wallpaper (…where did that come from?) that I special red duct tape bound together.

I learned to be resourceful. And I used my color pencils to illustrate how the rainbow came about. And completed my work with my author page written in black marker.

…How cute to have a second grader autobiography when you’ve not even been around 10 years. 😊

But that special inspiration piece came full-circle to landing back to my writing decades later.

Somehow in life’s busyness and sometimes blinding chaos, destiny found a way back in.

And in your life, if you need a creative spark, look (or look again) at your early years. There are past clues. 🐾 They’re there.

See what has boomeranged back around. 🪃

And then play like children do with the idea.

Be resourceful with your idea. 🧦🖍️📝🎨

Joyfully make a cluttered mess outside of the boundaries.

And if your idea sticks around the next day, and the week after, and then a month later, take it as a meant-to-be sign.

When you look back a year, the writing will be on the wall.

Your passion calling and creativity will look like it was right under your nose the entire time. And it was.

It was just waiting for you.

It was ready.

What are you waiting for?

Muse to Create (and Self-Doubt Less)

Muse is a word that I find amusing. I’ll tell you why… it’s about a person, but one that you can’t see. So it’s imaginary, but I know it’s not from my life experiences where a muse is real.

Muse is a person and this mermaid statue is not real and not imaginary either. — This unreal muse is the most photographed woman in the world. 🧜‍♀️

The muse I believe is love and unlike humans (including ourselves), doesn’t act outside of love.

Because it comes from a perfect place …not Earth, that’s imperfect.

And while I have my version, I’m a magnet to hear how others describe and see a muse in their lives…

Especially writers who often talk about an inspirational muse in the room when they’re writing. Some even call them angels, elves, and intelligence like Author Steven Pressfield.

And Stephen King who’s also gifted at providing imagery through words where he describes a muse as “he’s a basement type of guy.”

…Maybe you have to be named Steve to get this gifting? 😊

Kidding aside, I learned who my real muse is in my quiet time.

When I was by myself and happen to be writing, having someone in the quiet space I was working in who helped and inspired me… and well, is not such a bad thing.

…So I wholeheartedly agree that a divine and inspiring muse sits with any of us when we get quiet enough… and is invited in to join the party.

This becomes meaningful inspiration when creating something.

Early on when I started blogging, I had a divine intervention that let me know who my muse is in a deeper (life changing) way.

It was a parallel season where inspiration aligned with the divine intervention.

And so my perspectives are based on that very real life experience that played out.

And back then, my muse was a voice inside me that whispered.

…But not faintly in the air like a passing thought. The muse was clearly audible to me as though outside of me but was inside my thoughts.

And this occurred all day and night until I fell asleep for weeks.

…Strange, I know.

But so is life, yes??

…If you think about it.

…Everything is a miracle.

Just look in the mirror at the person staring back with body parts intact or look out at nature busy at work day and night.

And the longer you’re here on the planet, the more you get to see the patterns in your life that make sense out of the organized chaos happening around you.

You can gain and use those wisdoms to a better life than the one you started with.

Connecting dots, you realize that there are odd circumstances that are unique to your life and smartly see how they help you. Some are coincidences that beat the odds.

…And this is to help you get to your purposes and destiny.

It’s meant to be discovered.

On our own, we could easily mess up what could and should be ours. I know I would.

The luck, coincidences, and supernatural happenings we experience are unexplainable, but meant to help you see or do something special with it.

…Like finding your muse and living out your life purpose.

And if you’re not there yet, don’t worry it’ll come if you’re looking.

Try to connect-the-dots often and it can happen sooner.

Sit quietly.

Get curious and try connecting-even-more-dots… that have the answers.

And so you can benefit from intelligence insight downloaded to you (from external) that isn’t just what most think of as our brain’s intelligence.

From my divine inspiration experience, I believe (and I know) there are life forces beyond us helping orchestrate and co-create our lives in the background that were here long before we were.

We have the opportunity to live a 4-d life (manifesting abundantly and creating beyond us) if we let go of what doesn’t serve us, so we can tap into what does.

The good forces are a helping hand that are happy to co-create with us.

We get divine inspiration (inside of us). Then when we take action, we’re acting in co-creation.

But then there’s also the bad forces influencing us from the inside. It’s dangerous because it’s invisible to us (like the good forces).

But the bad forces are doing damage and louder in our minds if we allow like the Blind Ego you may have heard about living in our subconscious.

So I like to think of the good forces more like a higher soaring Eagle. It’s Eagle vs. ego.

When you purposefully make the eagle visible daily, then that’s when things get good in your life. 🦅

And you get all of this if you believe in and study Creation (like I do).

If everyone got intent enough to grow this spiritual type of self-awareness in them as a personal life mission, the world would be a Better Place.

Because each person would be better.

Individuals would be aware of what they put out that’s not just their work outputs, outward acts, and appearances.

People would emit less chaos from the get-go, bypassing going through costly trial-and-error lessons learned that others feel.

And following life’s organized ways that we didn’t come up with, they would be the best version of themselves.

And if this is befuddling to you… have you ever met a person who has different sides that when you ask others what they think of this person, it’s a completely different story than what you know?

…Almost like a good and dark person side. And sometimes that’s hidden from others until it’s too late. They leave a wake in the ocean.

That’s the type of chaos I’m talking about… but that awareness can help prevent.

The chaos comes from the ego and fear in people showing up.

“The ego” is almost like another person if it grows.

Young adults on their own are super susceptible as they’re far from seeing yet and are able to make their own decisions.

And if it weren’t for the good forces, I honestly don’t know if I would still be here from all the dumb moves I did early on.

But for those of us here, our egos can get stroked and that can quickly become a tangled mess.

…Like a heated debate or a myriad mess of twisted passive-aggressive moves.

But the mess can be bypassed if both sides are keenly aware and choose peace and kindness (as the best demonstrated behaviors).

Love and kindness is still the answer.

That shows up as humility.

And inviting in our muse to daily living helps us to calm down from the chaos around and in us.

Chaos happens between people (unaware) or shows up as self-sabotage (Impostor) thoughts.

In co-creation with the good forces (like our muse), we can bypass chaos.

Because it has never been all up to us.

That’s liberating to know (for me, anyway 😊).

And when I wrote my book Empowered Happiness, I titled my first chapter “Love Yourself First” because I believe when you do that, then love overflows out of you (and you’re running toward the right direction).

And that leads to using more of your higher purposes and superpower gifts.

Inviting in Your Muse For Co-Creation

If you’re aware (…or maybe now informed) of how your muse and these mysterious ways work in your favor, you can then become intent to grow more of this.

Inviting in your higher muse can be the bridge.

It takes external and internal attempts.

When you intentionally (and internally) ask the Universe to help you find your muse, expect to hear back at some point.

When and what you get back externally is not up to you or anyone.

But what you do with the information you get, is up to you.

Sometimes we’re given the same information over and over again, and we miss connecting-the-dots… maybe we’re busy, we half-believe, or we allow our dark side (or self-sabotage) to take over.

That sends mixed messages.

So then you’re not ready yet to get what’s being sent.

But if you practice managing thoughts and moods, you get better at this.

Because managing thoughts is a golden key to unlocking your best life. 🔑

It’s a skill that we’re not taught growing up… but the sooner learned, the better our life outcomes are!

Because at any moment, chaos can kick back in.

And you can kick it out.

Practicing regular and daily interference is the answer… walking away from those non-serving thoughts (and lies!) that drag you down.

Re-writing the mind’s script is not meant to be a secret, but it is a life mystery.

And can stay hidden.

To improve this: focus on a positive attitude, consciously show authentic love to others (and to self) because that’s what the Universe here before us wants and still rewards.

Your muse will help guide you to your calling purpose in this life.

Where you do have creativity!

If you can dream, you can wildly create. And discover hidden talents. I know this because I’m living proof.

And in your gifts and talents, you’ll get pointed to inspiration where none existed before.

Just remember to seek out your muse to co-create.

Or write yourself a daily reminder.

And those ways are still easier than creating something you don’t have inspiration for… yet.

Busy Decision Made Easy – Get Unstuck!

Busy doesn’t have to be your life if you want to get unstuck this season. And this 7-and-a half minute article has notes about how you can declutter busy in your life (and get more of the authentic best life you’re meant to wisely live!).

I know both ways well because busy is something I grew up aspiring to. A BUSY LIFE was my purpose like a busy bee going from flower to flower.

Busy as a busy bee in this pink garden flower.

…when I grew up and lived in the busy DC metro area culture where everyone working is busy. Having busy plans on-and-off work meant you were important in some way.

…And not being busy meant you didn’t have a life.

I thought busy was a great word, and lived busy up into my 30s.

Today, busy is a “b” as in bad word now to me years in.

But lemme quickly tell you how I got there…

I simply buzzed away from the busy bees in the DC metro area I grew up in for starters… 🐝

Before that, busy was a charm bracelet I wore. It also meant complicating life by adding more and more. Accumulating is a deeper concept that accumulates, taking up space in life (and adds to or creates Kapha imbalances).

The opposite of a simple life sounded so boring.

And where I’m from, you can simply say “I’ve been busy” and you won’t get questioned.

The answer of being busy often got the equivalent of a smiling thumbs up. 👍

On top of those attitudes, being stood up is and was rude, but it was (and probably still is) accepted and common in acting 20 year olds.

Because unless the person you’re interacting with is related to you or lives with you, they’re too busy to listen if they don’t have to. That’s part of the busy culture air.

Souls aren’t looking for deep conversations about the soul, ha!

What’s your dark knight of the soul? as the person walks away and I’m standing by myself.

…I laugh because those are my favorite types of conversations now. 😊

And gradually as I became more interested in personal growth (and grew less busy), I saw being busy from the lens of being an excuse.

That’s what happens when you fill up breathing in living an authentic life and prioritizing inner peace (that’s now occupying your inner space).

…Compare that to wanting to just come out unscathed from this life living on the surface, like during my lowest seasons where I also dreamed of external-only happy desires.

Digging myself out of this way, I carved out big chunks of the day to be free, silent and listening to my thoughts, immersed in relaxing hobbies, writing, reading, writing some more, and just being at-peace, happy-joyful, and balanced.

No meditation except getting input and ideas from initiated prayer and memories from experiences, books, and others’ useful words.

And I’ll even go out on a limb and say, certain types of meditation as I know it are just another way to be busy… you know after a while of doing if it’s sucking life out of you (not giving back) OR if it’s life-giving and you can’t do without. Amen?

For me, one meditation way that works is getting in the zone of creative free-flow writing.

That I did very little of if at all in my corporate headspace days when I operated at my lowest vibration, but what I was doing looked good on paper and to the people I grew up with and was mostly around.

Gradually in my new slower paced life, I developed personal growth through building up character traits that aligned with the fruit of the spirit if you’re familiar.

Mainly: faith, patience, self-control, and peace.

These are deeper traits I never improved before (and were actually made worse in my former culture that modeled the opposite by outward actions).

And I had to go out of my way to seek those things and let them penetrate.

So then I had a new mark of success as personal growth (over external and corporate role accomplishments that used to be the primary mark).

To help unravel the busy life damage I soaked in, one step I took was I stopped filling up a calendar (that my earlier-hospitality event managing planner lifestyle approved and cozied up with).

I now like the look of a blank white calendar with a few fun stickers.😀

And today a nearly blank calendar is how I clearly see if I should add or skip an event… and then I decide.

And how I decide is based on the principle of GIVE and GET that I think is helpful for you if you want clarity in your life… and especially if you’re stuck.

And in this case use, it’s give OR get.

It goes like this…

If you’re giving something like teaching, encouraging, supporting, helping, mentoring, presenting, volunteering your time or donating money, then you have good reason to take time out of your day to be in that event headspace and with those people. It’s worth considering to put on your calendar.

…OR if you’re getting something out of an event like building connections, learning something new, supporting someone else, or getting yourself into happy moods by being somewhere else, then those are all good reasons to carve out time on your schedule.

But if not primarily going in and doing it for a Giving or Getting reason…

Then you’re allowing your drifting subconscious mind (that often influences and decides 😊)… to be confused and wonder if you need to be at the event… or questioning other people and their behaviors or way of dress, and not focusing on what they’re teaching or saying…

And if we’re judging others or having negative thoughts or feelings about being there, then it’s best to catch that and exit gracefully when you can.

Move on and enjoy the sunshine where you feel good.

Get back your hours and move in the direction of where you want to go.

When you were younger, you couldn’t do that or you would be going against approval of some form.

And now you’re an adult who chooses…

Re-learning and setting new habits around the idea that what is good for others isn’t good for you… and taking action based on that wisdom saves you time and going down rabbit holes.

So when you determine if you’re giving or getting in a situation, that makes it Black-And-White easy to decide if you should add more of that busy to your calendar.

…So it’s clear all around.

But then there are exploratory busy time-taking areas that are Gray.

And these can be good (or GRAY-T) opportunities for growth.

For example, sometimes we sign up for things because our gut told us to and we’re unsure why… yet.

Because of unknown future and unlimited possibilities, you want to keep yourself open and sometimes intentionally busy yourself there to investigate… temporarily making yourself out-of-pocket for routine or something else.

So we go there to this new place to learn… and to check and figure it out.

…And when we’re there, sometimes we discover we’re not yet aligned with the message there… where we’re here and that’s there, but the seeds have been planted (by going to learn).

After the event, we may even think: that was a waste of time.

But it wasn’t because our soul (mind, will, emotions) and wise spirit (wired to the Universe) knew better than us… we just hadn’t caught up and weren’t ready yet.

And one day that boomerangs back to us in alignment when we have clarity and remember the experience and learning.

Leaning in and taking a reflective pause helps you investigate what’s best for your life and gives better discernment as to what to do next.

By choosing to NOT take action always, you gain clarity in the step back that’s also action.

And if you miss a specific space, place, or people you visited before to learn and meet with, then that could be a reason to go back to invite in more of those event occasions again.

You’ll know soon enough if you read your tea leaves right or if it was a false return to open you up for something new and different that’s your next pursuit… and not just a busy one.

That’s how we’re wired to do this life and figure out what’s BEST for us in the moment.

And using the GIVE or GET simple decision trick helps that.

Staying productive for a life of success is a balancing dance act of giving, getting, and enjoying.

It puts us at the higher energy level to bring in bigger and better, and less busy filler things… and higher leads to your fulfilling calling, purposes, and destiny. 🧡

Mental Health Is Spiritual

Mental health matters as part of our spiritual earthly existence.

Every day matters. And every morning when we start the day matters.

mental health can be watching sunrise. — A good mental health morning exercise can be watching sunrise.

The meaning and feelings we carry into our day determine how the day will go in our situations… like on this eventful sunrise morning I watched on the day that the new Pope was announced. 🌅

The day before, I didn’t know why the live event I was planning to go to near me was cancelled.

…Other than the obvious that the speaker had an event conflict.

…But I know in this miracle spiritual existence that there was more to it. There’s a part two in life, and that’s not a coincidence.

Situations playing out are NOT random.

And that’s important to know.

That it’s not just about the earthy situations that play out.

There’s something bigger going on above us.

…I’ve been living on earth long enough spiritually with Mother Nature and Father God to know… and appreciate.

And you may too know there are spiritual forces going on in our heavenly realm that affect our life on this green earth. Thank God!

And on this particular day, the stars aligned for a good spiritual reason.

I was part of that unfolding (and so were you).

…wherever we are on this planet.

Life plays out and when we show up in the present, we get to see the happenings in 3-D motion picture.

That’s a gift. 🎁

…And a good reminder for any of us to treat each day special (…and to take frequent mental health breaks).

Life’s too short to spare any days from feeling joy.

Life is a gift in smaller miracle moments… like young children happy or happy crying, but they don’t have the older minds to express why they’re deeply moved.

…Or why you feel unexplainable chills at certain times that you know come from a connected source a million miles away.

There are some times when there’s no explanation for why something happened (or was supposed to happen but it didn’t).

As random as it can seem, it’s all so organized and planned. And that’s why life is amazing!

…And miraculous.

Miracles touch our lives and constantly shape and re-route us into change from our earlier, less mature thinking ways.

Reflecting on the past helps to remind us that we are meant to keep growing. We also celebrate how far we’ve come.

When we have good mental health, we recognize life growth and opportunities are in the ordinary experiences that life serves up… not just big events.

And it’s not just up to us.

…That’s what I used to think.

It’s more like a life dance where we make a move and then wait-and-see.

We show up and then see what happens while we play.

Life is made like a game so we don’t get bored.

While you’re doing life… as you figure out how you best fit in and keep playing your best game, finding your spiritual pieces grows you.

Awareness helps your mental health.

Because life won’t slow down and building you inner self makes everything in life more alive and better.

…And Especially because life turns out a lot different than what we hoped for.

Through our trial experiences and long waiting, we’ve grown.

And that helps our mental health.

Learning from old mindset placeholders that were not so healthy helps to transform us.

…And flexibly not sticking only to familiarity.

Those earlier ways prepared us to be shaped for new growth…

Spiritual personal growth.

Allowing yourself to change is spiritually healthy where the infinite possibilities grow.

….Today I know that when I randomly turn my head when I could be looking straight ahead, that was a purpose call to make me look at something… and not miss it!

…And maybe for others, to not miss their something (like this message).

Miracles are happening every day… and in every moment… within you.

And when you choose to flip-the-script from doubtful thoughts that can intercept and re-appear from no where, that is how you’ll appreciate your life and strengthen your mental health in the moment.

Inner spiritual growth grows your mental health.

And good mental health provides opportunity for spiritual growth.

Daily, we’re fighting with our minds against spiritual warfare running alongside miracles.

That’s a battle going on in the Universe and that shows up as a struggle in our minds that we can’t see and whether we choose to believe or not.

A spiritual intervention can save you.

On my journey, I had a divine intervention that was so loud it uprooted my life. At the time it looked like a mental health breakdown….

But it was the bridge that re-routed me to my purpose calling.

And as odd as they may be, as long as you’re not hurting others or harming yourself, inviting in unconventional divine interventions can be part of your ordinary way to live.

They help to tear down what’s holding any of us back, that we can’t see in our routine life.

They open us up to real happiness in this life… and share truth about what’s ahead.

They helped me call out my ego… and now I know the enemy I’m facing (that I was once blind to).

…It’s not people or situations in this life.

About maybe you’re wondering if you ever had a spiritual intervention or how to experience one…

You would know if you had… and to experience, you would need to open yourself to a different life than the one you live now.

And maybe you’re wondering why haven’t you felt your spirit move or intervene as people like me describe.

You probably have, but were too busy listening to and doing culture’s ways.

Your calendar was full.

And there was no spirit listening time scheduled.

Because the spirits listens to you all day and whispers to you on a quiet frequency…

And to hear, a willing heart is required.

…And good mental health is needed.

Those are the physical requirements… or you’ll likely miss it.

…And then miss your authentic life.

…And empowered happiness that’s available all the time.

Where you’re never feeling alone whether you’re single or married.

I know this deeply because this has been my spiritual and mental health growth journey.

The journey path wasn’t what I dreamt of.

…I didn’t sign up for what came my way.

But my call was to keep going and growing and that’s when personal growth showed up that required my strength and mental health.

All so I could find my missions I was born for.

…Where when you think about it, you and I won life’s lottery beating the odds when we were born.

And your mission… should you choose to accept it, is to find out what you were authentically born for.

How to Soul Search Life Secrets

How to soul search is something I know a lot about as I’ve been doing it all my adult life with the core question in the back of my mind: what is this life really about?

Because on a deeper level, it’s not about our jobs, relationships or families.

They may consume parts and most of the time in our lives.

But we (you and me) are the most important part of our lives.

Because we’re the only ones we’re responsible for in the end.

And our best life is about our growth journey… and who we become.

A decade from now you won’t care as much about what you did this year compared to who you’ve become 10 years later.

As we grow older, we’ve acquired more earthly proof in our experiences that nothing stays the same and experience impact fades… and we have chances to make big differences with change today and in the years we have left.

For our sake and our planet’s sake.

It’s individually up to us to crack the code of how to optimize this life and find meaning.

And I believe it’s through how to soul search in our lives.

…Because the deeper life answers are here and the mysteries of life are discovered there.

We don’t have to travel anywhere to discover what we need, so each of us has the same opportunity (that has no cost).

The universal core truths of why we’re here have stayed the same, while everything on earth changes.

Today, you’ve figured that out or like every person in every generation that gets to sooner, later, or not if you so choose.

Ultimately it matters because it’s not all up to you or me on how things turn out.

….It’s also not up to our bosses, parents, or anyone else that makes influence in your life even if they’re the loudest in our thoughts.

Then who is it up to?

Figuring out this life’s meaning I argue is the best way… choosing to agree with this life’s terms vs. fighting against it is the happier path of aligned purposed living without regrets along the way.

I was lucky to have discovered these life secrets on my journey and happy to share my how to soul search discoveries with you.

…That mind you, came after making many re-routes I took that helped me form my thoughts.

Because I had none of the answers taught to me growing up or in my 20s getting my feet off the ground, so I had to follow my blind instincts.

And that led me to unchartered wilderness places that would eventually land me into bigger and better places.

All those experiences helped me out and I know the Universe guided me along. I found my spirit before I found how to soul search.

My gut instincts came from an invisible hand giving me the blessed upper-hand in my situations where I was meant to go.

And that’s what’s daily playing out for most of us if we’re paying attention and open to the idea of miracle possibilities and forces greater than ourselves.

But when I was younger, I didn’t know all this.

…I just knew I couldn’t wait to grow up and be on my own.

I relied on the hopes of a better future and if it’s meant to be, it’s up to me.

I didn’t have role models other than distant ones in magazines.

I lived on the surface. I never delved deep in my soul.

Then living as a young adult, I discovered everything in my life was wrong…

I had problems in every wheel of balance area of life… from my difficult work struggles, unhealthy and rocky relationships, and financial woes looming over my life that eventually caught up with me.

Those were the buckets that mattered most at that age in my life that I was juggling.

My life was completely off from the happy life I wanted. I was far from knowing how to soul search.

It wasn’t what I would have hoped for life would turn out to be dreaming of freedom as an adult.

…And if any of this hits a chord with you or problems are what you’re going through now, believe that your struggles will make you better and stronger on the other side.

You’ll be better off in your future because of your problems, (after you’ve processed what you went through). You’ll learn about deeper parts of you and how to search the soul.

And if you lean into your wiser soul better-half guide inside you (also guiding your heart), you’ll get your higher calling answers in your life… the better and deeper answers that are not the same ones you started off with or initially fear about daily from the “rational” brain.

Or irrational mind… that not going to help with how to soul search.

Wise soul plans are subtle in thought and can take years in the making to manifest.

When older people tell you that life gets better it’s because they’ve found the better ways of life through life.

And leaning on their confidence, you can gain wisdom and get there sooner rather than later.

I’m grateful my life has turned out that way.

…I felt like I was once a crawling caterpillar that grew into a butterfly. 🦋

But before I got to the life gets better part, my idea of a happy life had to go awry so that I could struggle, survive, and get out of the chrysalis to thrive.

Looking back, I had to go through the process of those messy and tough seasons for my own good and growth to come out another way.

But those early years, I was crushed.

And every year I was sad and hit with the winter blues.

Nothing changed quick enough.

I had no idea what I wanted to do after I graduated college with a business degree (because I liked businesses).

…Even though I was so sure of my marketing major I chose.

But there was a disconnect of real life from the college life bubble of learning theories of economics and how to market goods and run a business.

So like most people, I did the next best thing: I got a job.

And starting with my first career, I had problems at work that I had never heard of before from my friends and peers.

I was isolated because I didn’t know others who worked in the hospitality world (other than the ones that were in the same workplace I was).

In my bubble, a few months after starting I knew there was something wrong when I learned women in my office were harassed.

Made sense why they were all attractive with a Barbie dress code to match.

Then I realized that was me too.

This was decades before #metoo.

It wasn’t too long before I moved on into greener pastures.

I felt like I had made it as a catering manager with a better title and my own office… but it wasn’t long before my dream job landed turned into another work nightmare.

Your work life is only as happy as your relationship with direct bosses. That’s where I ran into troubles.

Those couple of years sitting next to the hotel brand’s bag of signature chocolate chip cookies only made me tougher.

I became a tough cookie even though I stayed soft and chewy outside. 🍪

Shaken by a sudden panic attack one day in my office taught me valuable lessons.

For one, I am not in control of this life.

…And I didn’t have it all together despite what my ego told me.

It took many more years of work experiences to make impressions on my soul, one traumatic event after another…

…from anger management bosses to micromanager and bullying managers.

Working in different toxic corporate management situations, I now know the root cause.

…and it’s the same one at the root of all human problems.

The ego is at the core of all relationship issues, arguments, misperceptions, and people acting out.

Same problem.

Different responses.

Humans aren’t looking eye-to-eye in their mind. It’s like the Tower of Babel where people are suddenly speaking different languages.

But back when I was in the work situations, I didn’t know any better.

I took what came at me at face value to survive and hold the job.

And for decades working in corporate office places, I wore rosy glasses thinking and hoping there were better places out there.

But job after job, I was disappointed.

Good people are there, but the egos show up and dominate.

Some places were downright miserable and the best ones didn’t last.

Everything changed eventually…

And I realized a forever dream job is a myth.

You can stay to retirement and be miserable and luckily I never got that opportunity. I got pivots instead.

Gaining this clarity from many work experiences helped shape my soul and I learned how to soul search from that standpoint.

And leaving the corporate world was my launching pad.

First off, I learned what the soul is…

The soul as witness to life is the part of you and me that is not on the surface.

But it’s not that deep below the surface either.

When you bare your soul, you’re sharing your authentic feelings and thoughts based on our opinions, personality, and interpretations.

Our soul are our deeper thoughts from our mind, will, and emotions that often gets confused with our spirit.

…Or our Spirit.

Our Spirit is a separate ethereal being inside us (and around us inside other people).

Spirit-thoughts are not our generated thoughts, but become our thoughts.

If you’re Christian, you’re familiar with hearing about the Spirit or Holy Spirit… even if you don’t know how that plays a part in your daily life today.

And that’s how it was for me before my spiritual intervention.

…I have enough to say about it now that I could write a book on the topic as someone living a faith-filled life. 😊

But I didn’t start out that way.

I was not born a Christian.

And I didn’t grow up in church.

How To Soul Search From Situations In Your Life

I became God seeking when opportunity arose and problems grew.

That started in those hotel working days in my 20s when I looked down at my body and everything was there.

But inside I knew something was missing…

Years later, I discovered the spirit first that was one way into finding my deeper soul.

Another way that supporting this was never feeling permanently satisfied in life.

So many moves and moons later, I gradually found my soul…

Along with my purpose and daily happiness that came as side gifts. 🎁

They were daily motivational keys 🔑 that unlocked deeper understanding of my soul.

Living a more emotionally and healthy balanced daily life created the growth foundation.

For me, that included lots of healthy sweet food inspiration (like the healthy baking recipes I share on this blog 🍥).

That was around the time my purpose started to shape up.

One day, I dedicated myself to the craft of writing: something I never dreamed of or sought to do before.

And I never stopped.

Balance and purpose were the keys that gave the most satisfaction and clarity to my life.

And those could be for you too…

Trying different things will help you to discover your purpose(s) and maybe some hidden talents along the way.

If you use your today gifts and talents to develop a craft that becomes your practice and purpose, you also develop more useful skills.

All that helps you to align to find your deeper purposes and eventual destiny.

I’m still in the deeper purposes part of life and I look forward to destiny when it’s time. I know it’s there.

And if you don’t know where to start, start with a passion and look at where you spent time in the past you enjoyed or were curious about.

Example: I worked with food as a passion that never died, so it’s no shock that I create and share daily healthy recipes today even though I had no idea I would. That came years later.

Because I didn’t know I would do anything with food outside of the hotels and restaurant life I worked in for a decade.

Purpose and Soul Searching

That’s how purpose works…

You remove the outer self wrapped in pride (a form of ego) and you’re left with purpose.

Purpose is deep and daily happiness allows you to keep productively going and growing.

Then you’re left with a deep satisfied feeling that you often don’t get with life living on other people’s terms.

You’re emotionally freed up and have the headspace to be creative and innovative. Not the busy and anxious go-go-go ego environments of Corporate America.

Then being calm, creative, and satisfied-minded, you can minimize yourself and your needs and wonder more about possibilities.

You get and naturally want to explore more of who you are as a creator and spiritual being.

Feeling more inspired, you can more easily grow your deeper soul and parts inside you that you never knew existed (where there are beyond and abundant possibilities).

…That’s where dreams can manifest into real life.

Plus, more cool stuff in your life.

And remember, that can all start from life problems turned into blessings.