Positive attitude (aka optimism) has always been the better way to make good things happen in life. But so often, easier said than done.
Like when dropping a box of spaghetti where you can look at it as an extra chore… or spending a few minutes playing a fun game of pick-up sticks.
But it’s easier to magnify our natural responses, complaining, and being with the realities of life.
Where you maybe mutter something that doesn’t help the situation.
It’s an automatic response…
But automatic responses can be changed like past phases (and phrases you used) going through life.
They were place holders until you found a better way for your snap! uh-oh situations.
…Where those and anything in life could change your mood in an instant.
And when you run into those sudden moments, you can practice your better ways.
Use those as prompts to change your auto-reactions to situations.
That helps to shape your positive attitude.
And enrich what you want to grow in your life, like your opportunities and relationships…
Which btw, have you ever noticed that leaders and successful people are positive and motivational?
It helps them and then others are attracted to them.
But like all of us, they’re not always happy… but a positive attitude also helps them to reach deeper within for answers. And rise above what could drag them down.
That can go either way.
And it’s not the situation they get that’s the downfall… it’s their attitude that can make or break what happens next.
It’s the positive attitude that carries them through and over the hump.
Their positive beliefs turn into good reality.
And in turn, they become what they believe when they look in a mirror.
And if what you believe is positive, growing, and happy then, that’s where you’ll go-al. 🎯
So finding the positive out of negative situations is still the answer to success, but getting there isn’t always easy.
One good way to grow that area is you can choose to find the comedy in life-in-play situations and laugh more… with a positive attitude (that’s not cynical).
Then by laughing, you’re spreading joy that’s positively contagious.
…I’m serious.
It helps to gain a reality check.
…Is it really that bad?
It’s usually not as bad as the moment of impact.
And having a positive attitude to survive the moment is everything.
Because most situations move on and become a memory.
And I know myself what it’s like to have to change the attitude side and run 180 degrees in the opposite direction from my initial thought reactions.
…Because cynical and sarcastic was the realistic culture I grew up in. And was probably what you grew up in if you lived on watching television sitcoms before the turn of the century.
Realistic was pessimistic.
And the word attitude used alone meant you copped an attitude where more words added could cause trouble.
People didn’t know they had an attitude until it was brought to their attention.
That zeitgeist wasn’t set up yet for mindset shifts, daily enlightenment, meditation, and quiet time that today are times to look forward to… and maybe even get a little excited about! 🎉
Today, thankfully attitude is reframed into more positive attitudes.
People are much more conscious and will forwardly say, my attitude is: __________.
An easy way to test your own attitude (and practice) is to see how you view the daily weather.
In climate change days, most of us are often tested as the weather can re-route our day’s activities and how productive we are.
If the daily weather is not so favorable and you have to change your plans you were looking forward to, how do you view that?
…Does it make you sad, disappointed, or discouraged? Or do you see it as a way to step into possibly better plans?
If you adopt the latter, then you become less stuck in your ways… more nimble, and open to what life could bring in your favor at any moment.
Flipping the script is how you rewrite the thoughts in the situational moments.
…And thrive in your day.
And one day at a time becomes your life.
So changing to positive attitudes in your life helps you for the rest of your life. …Making responses automatic and letting those healthy ways penetrate deep down in your core.
…Where you bypass negative emotions and bridge straight toward the positive and loving thoughts and feelings.
I know this because that’s what I practiced in life situations to be the better version of myself. 🙋🏻♀️
This week, when the power unexpectedly went out for a few hours because of a hurricane storm that came up the coast, I discovered a new coffee shop. And from that small re-route, I may have a new potential partner to work with.
And another example this week was I had a ticketed event and found out that it wasn’t what I thought it would be.
So I ended up re-routing myself to a store where I met new friends.
👉 But the main lesson here is that before I let any of those two sour situations affect me, my attitude was automatically re-routed to a good place. My auto-thought now is: there’s a good reason for this… and I don’t know yet what that is, but the day will play out and I will figure it out.
And that’s because of the practice I had been doing leading up those events.
So now that I did that practice, I also believe that good things are rigged for my favor.
If you too believe that for your life, and that your re-routes are to help you, then you can bypass frustration feelings and look for more good in your day.
And in return, your energy radiates as attractive to the world. 🎉
So if this sounds good to you and you’d like to grow more of a positive attitude (to be the better version of yourself), this is one attitude habit you can practice daily…
Anytime you catch yourself complaining or have a complaining thought, try to catch that right away.
It might take a few tries in the beginning like any new habit and natural way, but (by being self-aware) eventually you’ll be able to change that.
👉 What’s tricky is that most of us are self-aware about our attitudes in the places we’re already aware of… but the ones we’re not (e.g. ego blind), those are the ones we want to change for out better lives.
We’re blind to what we don’t see.
So those areas take more effort to discover.
But if you practice in the small daily stuff like your weather re-route attitudes and hearing yourself complain-talk, then they become visible.
They become your natural way one situation at a time. And you can change your overall attitude.
And with a positive attitude, you get to focus on bigger, brighter, and better things!
