Start over is a theme that many of us have experienced and maybe a lot since 2020. Whether we wanted to or not, it can be our ticket to our best lives… and that’s what this article is about so you can embrace your start over opportunities.
One thing we can all have a say in is… evolving in our personal growth and what matters to us.
Embracing what healthy gains we’ve made brings rewards for our daily lives.
And embracing starting over as a new way or perspective is a blessing gain…
It’s a micro mindset pattern shift you can practice in your day (maybe even today), so you can see and feel how start overs are good, and not bad or sad interruptions.
That self-training helps our future and best outcomes.
Because changes in life are meant to help you and if you see it that way, you help yourself grow and further.
For most my younger adult life I played the victim without knowing I had that internal narrative.
I also thought that choices I made would be permanent. I was naive.
And when good situations didn’t last, I was disappointed.
I saw them as failures.
And I fell for that over and over again.
If you didn’t have role models and influences growing up that drilled into you the more positive ways and helped shape your self-esteem, then that’s the pattern you’re likely to fall into.
And the saving grace is we have the Universe on our side as fall back and providing answers to us.
We may call it luck, but it’s part of the plan. 😉
You’ve probably heard the saying that the Universe keeps serving up the same lessons. The lessons are there to help us and not make us feel less than..
…I didn’t know that in my younger years.
And as years went by, I grew up in wisdom and got revelation, leaning more into internal truth.
Truth and reality aren’t the exact same thing.
Reality is what physically is happening or not happening. Truth are the thoughts that are real and factual. And lies are the opposite in false beliefs. Ego perception makes you believe they are real, when they are not.
And in that case, then anyone can be a victim to their own ego.
Recognizing this, my life realities started to better align with truth, where I also realized nothing stays the same.
I told my ego the truth, that it wasn’t just what I experienced.
Because everyone has their versions of uncertainty.
In my belief lies I had bought into, I was the only common denominator for the situations I faced.
So that made me the victim. But I turned that narrative around one situation at a time.
Rewriting my beliefs with love over ego, starting with experience outcomes (reality) showed me the deficit in my faulty thinking that my mind led me to believe.
And took me from victim to abundant mentality.
It was micro-start overs from little lie beliefs that got me over the hump.
Being abundant minded, changes the identity to someone who takes responsibility for changing her thoughts to positive, loving ones for better outcomes and perspectives.
Perspectives transform your life when no influences can.
And if a perspective change is what you think you need, this helped me:
This one exercise helped to changing the tide…
Let’s take something most of us have privilege to do every day: we take a shower.
And imagine if one day you do your regular shower routine but you don’t get most the soap off your body or shampoo out of your hair. Maybe you were distracted and busy with shower thoughts.
After you’ve dried off and gotten dressed for the day, you realize that small miss.
What are your options?
Live with the fact and try to forget about the remaining residue.
Or…
Take a few extra effort minutes to go back in the shower again and rinse off knowing that you’d have to dry with a towel again and essentially re-trace all the steps you would do when you got in the shower the first time. It’s a small hassle in a busy day.
And while most would probably just live with it and get on with their day…
If you have the extra few minutes, you’re better off to get back in the shower.
Why?
…So you can get your best day.
If you don’t do a redo, then you keep the residue theme running in your day as part of your thoughts and maybe a physical reminder.
If you do rinse off again, you start clean and fresh.
So those extra 5-10 minutes back tracking was worth the time.
Initially our lazy bone tendencies can kick in and resist.
But fight the urge and jump to the though part of what you’ll gain in those critical decision moments.
Change the thoughts in your mind to productive ones, such as: you’ll be happier later on.
Picture yourself happier.
Try this taking extra minutes with another daily self-care or micro routine you do that didn’t work out the first time… maybe cleaning, shower, or grooming routine.
Take an extra 5 minutes.
For the narcissist, you don’t have to tell them twice, but for the rest of us — those are good minutes.
The micro change in our new habit and patterns creates new perspectives.
Eventually you don’t mind a redo or start over whether it’s a shower or a season. You teach yourself not to succumb to immediate feelings and wants for better outcomes.
Embrace the lesson here is: don’t skip what will bring more joy and a clear mind as the biggest gain rewards.
And on a grander scale in your life, start over with what you first started with that has never left you. That you still think about today.
Those can be part of your dreams come true realities.
Another wisdom lesson is: forget time. Time never heals. As you grow wiser, you realize changes and experiences heal.
We can’t gain time. And the feeling of lost time can keep you stuck if you let it.
Like take me for example, I started a blog in 2009 that took off.
And a few months in I had to quit.
The blog was about my local area businesses I was living near and I ended up moving that year.
So the blog no longer made sense to me as I couldn’t be in that area, and it was hard to juggle writing with the busy work life I had in the hustle and bustle of DC.
Then in 2019, I started over where I picked up writing again.
And then started this blog in 2020.
Starting over in blogging again was so different the second time around.
I had some blogging skill experience under my belt but the landscape had changed.
In 2009, very few out there knew what a blog was.
And when I came back a decade later, the internet scape was full of blogs.
But that didn’t stop me as blogging is something I have felt passionate about since I got my first taste.
Despite the challenges, I still feel as passionate if not more, so I know it’s meant to be.
In your start over or start overs, if you come back, that’s a good sign too! Because most things in life we don’t go back to unless it’s meant for us.
…Maybe the first time we weren’t ready, the timing wasn’t right, or we needed to make a little tweak (or perspective adjustment in ourselves).
It was all of the above for my blog.
My blog topic this second go round is so much more personal and about helping my reader’s personal growth, happy life, and healthy living.
In my first blog experience where I got the chance to interview business owners, I wouldn’t have been ready yet to write on personal topics.
But with another decade, personal growth, and more life experiences, then I was able to launch and sustainably contribute writing in this blog.
So my encouragement to you, my blog article reader, is to use your start overs as your opportunity to take steps in the areas you couldn’t do the first time around when you weren’t quite ready.
The first time wasn’t a failure.
That was your introduction.
Going back is a high call.
We can miss our higher calling if we choose to look at time and deadlines as rules.
If we allow for our entire life to be the time span we accomplish our goals, then we open up opportunities.
How you finish is what matters most, not how you started.
So it’s never too late no matter if you’re in your 30s, 40s, or 60s and beyond.
And in the shower metaphor… by the end of your day, you won’t have remembered the time getting back in the shower, but you will remember feeling like a million bucks coming out and what you achieved that day because of your feelings… and that maybe you wouldn’t have if you let soapy thoughts last.
Just something to consider about your start over that every day and morning opportunity is. 🌅
I like to reset every day with new food creations. I was inspired to start over with this sweet potato squid turmeric salad bowl of anti-inflammatory food goodness. 🍠
