If we were able to act in love in every one of our situations and everyone did the same, then our planet would be a place of peace.
And in our smaller world we live in, it’s easier to find daily love amid our joy that we get with peaceful and feel good micro moments. Like when we have chocolate dipped strawberries. 🍓
Enjoyable moments help us get through our challenging situations.
…That can happen daily and in everyday moments.
One big reason is because the ego strikes for no rhyme or reason, and shuts out love. But we’re equipped to override this from happening.
In my journey, I discovered this phenomenon from my office working life situations where I was tested and I sometimes saw two sides in people… almost like a head and a tail side of a coin.
…One minute, a person could be acting pleasant and then the next minute, not.
You probably know what I mean…
Someone is triggered or irritated by something someone else says or does.
At the time of witnessing this, I thought these types of recurring scenarios with different people and situations were because of personality differences… or if it happened often with the same person, a personality clash.
💡But then later got revelation: that was only part of the problem.
The root problem is that all of us have a built in brain ego-feature that doesn’t act when we want. And can act up in our minds.
And we have the choice to choose self-awareness and to find love over ego.
Those are the two sides of the coin.
Love is love and ego represents fear.
Love is more obvious to us, and ego and fear are not. So that makes ego super dangerous.
Fear can be triggered in anyone at any time. Fear can show up as subtly as insecurities that cause irrational decisions to be made.
But if we replace fear with joy inside us or in our spirit, then we can revert to love that’s in us.
Either way, it’s no one’s fault as we’re all damaged goods in an imperfect world.
No one living is perfect, but our damaging ego in us wants us to believe we are in some way.
So getting that deeper love message into our core is our ticket out of fear-based living… that’s all the things we’re scared and worried about in this world.
But first we want to heal what’s broken inside us.
If we never get through our pain and suffering that still needs healing from the past, then we have wounds that show up as resentment and unforgiveness that’s not love.
In my life, I didn’t even know early on that I needed past healing until I did self-help reflection and shadow work inviting in love.
I could’ve let clouds hang over because that’s how the ego thrives.
I didn’t know there was another way.
And anyone who you come across who hasn’t declared healing from their past is living in some form of their ego cloud when clear blue skies ahead are available. 🩵
My early goals in life was to come out unscathed. Or I should say that was my naive ego goals.
…But I didn’t even get past my early 20’s before I knew every bucket area of my life was off… nothing was as I thought it should be as an adult. I measured myself against those around me, my culture’s shoulds, and what my ego led me to think.
The biggest problem is the ego voice and personality is usually the loudest in the room in us and around us. Ego blocks out quieter spirit whispers and ideas of what would be best and most loving.
…So back to my past office work situations, I did not understand what was happening to the person sitting in front of me.
It felt surreal what I was experiencing as unpleasantries and the tone coming from their mouths.
And I found this could occur in personal situations with immediate family. So it wasn’t just work bosses.
Ego infected moments were all over this world… and destructive.
And even the most unaware affected are aware they are not happy and causing destruction in relationships. It’s a sad way to be.
A way to stay clear from being run by your ego and causing damage is asking: what did I do to contribute to this? How can I change the future from repeating?
How can I bring back love into this situation?
Another way is to get informed such as from an article like this.
This shines light and responsibility to making a positive change and seeking personal growth in an imperfect world.
Otherwise the past never gets healed and no healing growth happens.
Then the ego continues to deeper infect and spin perception of reality for a lifetime if allowed.
🌟Good news is, anyone can end this destructive ego pattern in them if they also choose to be better internal listeners, and let in love over ego no matter what siutuational triggers they receive.
Committing to be a better person is one good motivator.
You can’t change others, but you can positively affect your life one situation and moment at a time.
The Seeking Love Over Ego Opportunity (Or Challenge) For You…
🌱Commit to evolve quicker and embrace change.
🌱Identify with your loving self because you are loved.
With those loving mindsets, you move your sails toward a greater future destiny, even when you don’t know what that is.
🌱Let down your guard sometimes.
What If you let yourself be vulnerable?
Let in new better ways… remember, you can always go back to the old ways that weren’t working well. 😉
Show up as the lovely person that people refer to as kind or doing good. They’re the ones that attract others and have a happy life because they live aligned.
With lovely attitudes, there’s no room for ego plays.
🌱Find your love over ego in situations.
This bypasses unproductive anxiety, fear, and worry that rob joy.
Reset by going to bed early could be the remedy for a bad day. A good night’s rest is known cure for getting more loving thoughts.
🌱We can openly talk about more adding love (and less ego) in everyday life instead of making it an “elephant in the room” because it’s not exciting to talk about and ego conceals itself.
If we brush aside our ego fears but let those eat at us, then we pay the price and the people around us suffer too.
“Love” spelled backward is “evol” and when we add more love with “ve”, we get evolve. And we shut out fears.
And, these are loving life goals we can consider:
Seek meaningful work for a satisfied life.
That can be easier to find and do if we disconnect weekly from our noisy surroundings, so we can listen to what our inner self is trying to tell us is best for us.
When we re-strategize and are willing to pivot with a little risk, we get to live out our best life and the world around us gets the best of us.
Choose to live love on purpose.
We can focus on love that is healthy.
For ladies, think of yourself as a ladybug. There are 5,000 species despite similar appearance.
Our destiny was there even if we couldn’t see it fully. We had a few red ladybug stripes.
Before we became our ladybug selves, we went through a caterpillar metamorphosis.
Through younger struggle and experiences, we became our full potential selves. We saved plants on our journey as our loving work on our planet. 🪴
We also showed up lovely and cutely clothed with ladybug matching black polka dots. We’re admired and even called good luck. 🐞We added more love tho this world.
That’s what our life legacy and relationships can be like. 🧡
