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Calm Mind Best Way Ever

Calm mind is an aspiration often when you’re served up stressful situations in life… from work, family, or friendships that you balance in your life wheel.

A sign that this is not your practice life and life is not a dress rehearsal are good reminders to live a calm mind life as the secret to health and happiness. — Reminder: you get one life to live well 😊

The sooner you practice a calm mind and mindset, create boundaries, and step higher than your face-value situations…

…The better your life and work-life balance.

For the ONE life you get.

And during stressful testing times, the best way to calm your mind is to give the mind a way out.

This article is about how to calm your mind.

Because first off… you are not your mind, but the mind is in you.

Separating yourself as the choice and decision maker (that your mind is not) is your way out… and away from stress and toward your calm, peace, and happiness.

They are opposite directions where you get to choose which way you go. ⬅️➡️

You can take subtle, enjoyable baby steps toward the better direction choice using calm mind apps and daily music therapy 🎶 that will help turn the tide.

Those are the Ayurvedic ways I love. 🧡

But they subtly work in the background, so you won’t necessarily know they worked because they gradually turn the tide from the inside-out into the right direction (mind-body calm and peace).

Using your sense of sight, smell, hearing, and touch are all part of the prescription… and they are Ayurvedic comforting and add joy to your daily life. So why not?

…Gotta love that!

And when you have a loud interfering monkey mind 🙉 that swarms in worry or high ego-drama unrest in your mind, feeling good again is the goal.

To break out of those clouded mind moments or seasons, you would need to shout back at your untouchable and unseen ego that’s your then-invisible enemy in play that’s blocking truth, love, and peace.

At the root, your ego’s job is to protect you in survival situations… to get you to act and react to save your life if a tiger is chasing you.

But in modern daily life, it’s a detriment as ego goes overboard in its protective role!

Shutting off your ego (that shows up as pride) is the answer in most modern stressful situations.

It’s never your fault that your ego acts up due to situational triggers.

…But it is completely up to you how you want it to play out. And if healthy and happy is your goal, then the following tips will help support this…

Lowering ego is the restoring way back to your happiness and inner love-peace.

But not so easy is shutting off others… and actually impossible to do!

So you need to manage those situations.

Because misery is an option that adds zero daily benefits.

I know this well through many trials and situations…

I grew up and lived most my life in the DC metro area where egos fly high in close proximity to America’s politically charged circles where heads butt.

And that permeates in the local air and work environments close by outside of politics.

Pride in ego runs high and causes riffs anywhere in the world.

The problem is: everyone thinks it’s normal.

So it has been normalized. And even congratulated by people (through their egos) in the wins that are sometimes harmful.

This “normal” way trickles down into how we day-to-day operate and our relationships at work, and with family and friends.

But you can rise higher for a better calm mind AND life…

In your daily circles, when you have conflicts and tough situations that you may often grin and bear, do a healthy action that frees your mind from the ego bondage…

To escape from the trappings of you ego, look for an out that will settle your mind.

This is especially useful and needed for your happiness if you are being treated unfairly or feeling displeasure from other people’s ways.

Take the mind-out of the situation by creating options.

And when you have options, your ego mind is no longer a prisoner.

It’s set free and so are you! 🎉

Example: your under-stress boss demands undesired actions from you creating a miserable work environment for you. While you may do the tasks begrudgingly to keep your job (that’s important to keep a roof over your head), in your free time, lunch break, or evenings, start proactively looking for other jobs.

This will subtly show your ego-mind that you have options (and are not trapped) and then you will feel better about your life and situation.

You are free from your ego’s captivity.

And you may even find the job of your dreams in the process!

Another example: your spouse or partner has been taking things out on you or bringing their negative emotional energy that has caused arguments between the two of you. Let the other person work out their unrest issues themselves. Start spending more time with your productive activities and friendships.

Because you can’t control or change other adult’s behaviors and actions.

That’s the bottomline.

Changing people is not the answer.

Provide the information they need, but it’s up to them to come up with their conclusions as it is for you to come up with yours and your peace of mind.

That’s the peacemaking way that will add years to your calm mind life…

And that protects your mind from the ugly ego (yours and theirs) rearing its ugly head in your situations… where anger, resentment, or taking out on other areas grow.

You’re likely served up these type of situations from most people in the world, and specifically those who aren’t as evolved… and letting their ego invisibly and cunningly play them.

In those times, the high ego person may even commonly accuse you of what they are actually going through if you’re in their regular or daily path.

BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE AREN’T AWARE OF THEIR EGO. AND IF THEY ARE, THEY ARE BEING PLAYED IN THEIR STRESSFUL SITUATIONS, UNTIL THEY STEP OUT.

As someone who considers herself evolved 🙋🏻‍♀️… for me, it still takes a while to step out of ego’s loud ways and see what’s going on.

And I completely remember the days when I had no clue I was being played.

But information is power!

Breaking out of old mindsets is a worthy fight for a calm mind and inner peace.

And the more practice, the easier it gets…

It sounds ridiculous (and to the ego that effort needs to be made), but my dear friend… the daily effort is the path to happiness.

Effort is the way out of stressful situations with people who walk around not knowing their ego (enemy) is playing them.

And all of us who are doing modern life have experienced people’s ego rearing their ugly heads.

You don’t have to turn far to find examples.

And if you’re in those situations now, don’t play the ego game served up.

Most importantly, don’t further enable bad behavior.

Train the ego person with your boundaries:

Love the person, but hate their behavior.

Be calm and kind, but firm.

Don’t let others manipulate you because they are persistent (e.g. kids can be the worst ego maniacs because they know no better).

It will only get worse if you say yes… to both ego adults or kids.

Stand your ground no matter how you feel in the moment… or the fear you feel creeping up in your that the ego is drumming up.

Rise higher to the opposite that’s love (that the Universe is full of).

Stand your ground with tough love that may feel harsh, but you and the ego-other will be grateful later.

Don’t let your ego block and blind you from seeing the harm that’s so common.

I can see ego-action from a mile away now (informed), and as you learn more you will be able to too! 😊

Ego is the danger for most people where they can’t see what’s going on in their mind and play-by-play actions in them or others’ egos.

Ego-blinding in you or others happen if you don’t consistently pay attention no matter how busy you are… 🙈

Use loss of sleep, appetite, gray hairs, sudden pimples, and body aches for no physical reason as more obvious signs something undesirable is happening to you!

A.K.A ego situations are near.

To catch all this, slow down, be aware and sensitized, and witness what’s happening…

Use your deep breathing present moments to slow down to see clearer and insight into what’s going on.

This is where time on your yoga mat or quiet chair help so you’re more sensitive of your symptoms that are more easy to spot.

Think of it as a diagnoses session where you get your calm mind peace and years back!

Because your body and loving, peaceful mind don’t lie (like the ego does in your busy moments).

And you can use this revealing body balance quiz to help you see what’s going on with your body and mind-body today from your body symptoms POV.

It’s like seeing the printed words on your car side mirror: objects are closer than they appear.

Or the nearby signs.

But in daily myopia and ego-blindness, we don’t see the signs.

When we become aware and get close-sight clarity, then you can see what’s happening in your stressful situations.

You can effectively calm your mind… AND use those stressful situations to make positive impact in your life.

AND OH, this is the best part of stress that makes it healthy good and worthwhile!…

If you’ve already spent or wasted hours or days on a stressful situation that robbed you of joy and peace, you might as well turn your victimhood into something useful in life (and help others going through similar situations).

…like I’m intently doing here in this article I wrote. 😊

I learned at one of my early-on jobs that you teach others how to treat you in life. I use that as a guiding mantra.

And you can too, to set healthy boundaries with others to get your calm mind, peace, happiness, and time back.

You’ve probably heard before that kids need… and LIKE boundaries.

They actually like ’em. And as grown up kids, adults do too!

So embrace that counterintuitive way in your daily situations.

That’s how you’ll get your calm life you aspire to.

And remember, tough love is a good thing for everyone. 🎉

ADHD Can Be Improved with Self Control

ADHD is a way to describe the unfocused nature that Ayurvedic Vata anxious minds possess that we accept as part of us.

But we don’t have to lean into the negative parts…

This “Be Kind” note-to-self message wall. 💕

We can be kind to ourselves.

Because ADHD symptoms usually shows up as inattentiveness, unfocused concentration, and scatter-brained thinking.

ADHD usually shows up as impulsive behaviors and actions that don’t match up or align with what’s said. The inconsistent actions often leave a trail of of regretful, bad decisions or impressions on others who have close interactions. The behaviors appear non-logical and without rhyme or reason.

Blame this on brain hyperactivity. 🧠

This can exacerbate and made worse from stress, anxiety, or wrong medications.

Those descriptors can describe a lot of what’s happening in people and culture today.

And that we can witness firsthand with those we work with or alongside.

The problem is people want to stay away from those people and their behaviors.

If those are leaders or bosses, we lose respect for their ways and decisions that follow.

While you can’t change others, you can point out what you see, because the strong case ADHD symptoms aren’t visible to those affected.

It is them.

Like the side mirror saying printed word: “objects are closer than they appear” that is often missed.

And if you’re the one with ADHD, you can check-in with yourself to see how you appear to the world.

You can also learn to express yourself in better ways, so you’re not living in an undesired, less optimal way.

You can exchange a jumpy and impulsive brain that makes you want to hop around, and instead embrace thinking with a higher, spiritual lens.

As complicated as the gray matter is that we have inside us, we don’t know what causes ADHD in our evolved world.

We just know it exists.

But the symptoms can be minimized with better ways like a balanced life, self-control, and optimizing opportunity with brain fog that is often spiritual.

Whether the ADHD descriptive symptom traits describe your tendencies, loved ones, or those you work with, being aware can help grow your spiritual journey and personal growth in life.

You can use the mantra: never waste a hurt or growth opportunity.

So it’s fitting that this article is good for lifelong learners or those who aspire to be. Below is about how you can use ADHD tendencies to your benefit and help push you into higher growth that a presently mindful and spiritual-tuned up life often does.

You can improve your self-control (away from impulsive actions) that help to further develop patience and taking wise actions that produce better life results (than the initial actions that would have been from erratic and default ADHD thinking ways).

A good example of self-control is like waiting to purchase something costly… to allow time to know whether you really want or desire the item thing later on or if it’s just a fleeting impulsive feeling.

Spontaneity is good if it’s healthy, but if it leaves you (or your wallet) with regret then that can lead to unhappiness and unhealthy feelings and consequences.

So those are a few good reasons to possibly want to change ADHD symptoms in the first place.

And knowing how to do that is useful and practical life advice.

First off, there are many ways to look at ADHD.

One is that you could be born with anxious tendencies like dominant Vatas (in Ayurvedic terms).

Added to the ADHD mix, anxiety can cause a whole host of undesired ways.

In case you think that’s not you, we all have some traces of Vata in us like in our worry thoughts that’s a form of anxiety but in the mind.

It can also further set off imbalanced Kapha clingy or Pitta aggressive behaviors.

But more closely, ADHD is correlated with anxiety and Vata.

And ADHD with those symptoms IS curable with more love to conquer fear that anxiety and worry are rooted in.

And exercising self-control from creeping-in fear feelings is the best way to the cure.

Stop it at the entrance gate with good healthy habits.

Exercising peace is a form of self-control.

I was reminded of peace and love when I was posing in Prague up against the Lennon Wall representing “All You Need Is Love” (that originally came about during a time of war and upheavals)… Fear is the opposite of love.

…I remember the song from the Yellow Submarine record album 💿 I listened to on a record player as a child… in case you’re a Beatles fan or love record players?

The opposite of love is fear.

Fear is at the core of causes of war in people.

Fear is also primal and more deep than anxiety. Both worsen ADHD symptoms and can bring out the worst in ADHD affected people.

Fear is what drives most bad decisions.

So, running away from those fear-based thoughts in safe situations will help you get a better handle on ADHD symptoms as you align with your calm and loving sides.

From my own early-on past experiences, I know an unsafe life situation caused me to have an anxiety or panic attack.

That type of anxiety reaction can cause you to freeze as your body takes on uncontrollable body sensations like heart palpitations.

And similarly, ADHD can dominate your life in an uncontrollable, shocking way when you least expect.

At least temporarily.

And that can lead to unexplainable behaviors.

The best way to be armed is to be informed and self-aware.

Coming out of your situations, if you focus on the positives or what you learned that can help you in the future, you gain more clarity and ideas for changes you can make to your life that’s part of spiritual growth.

The Universe helps to meets you there, where you are, and where you will be.

…Maybe that’s on your yoga mat or quiet space before making big decisions. 🧘🏻‍♀️

Breathwork and aware-mindfulness can help take the edge off.

These are powerfully spiritual built-in ways we have to handle calming ourselves that also helps ADHD.

You can help draw yourself to the present moment space that makes you more self-aware and deeply aware of your inner self as part of the journey toward spiritual growth.

At the very least you’re moving away from negative energy in present moment awareness.

And that carries into your day.

…That’s not coincidence.

That’s the energy you carry that radiates into the world and back to you like a boomerang and attracts the things and right people into your life. ✨

The Law of Attraction is a spiritual lens.

Baby step one can be: find a positive in any situation that appears negative overall.

The reframing habit is life-giving.

And giving life in the present is a gift.

It can help free you from closely-tied worry and fear-based thoughts that exacerbate ADHD.

Those thoughts start in the unconscious or subconscious mind and affect the body in emotions and physical stress-inflammation, if not protected.

…And produce scattered thoughts, unclarity, and worsen ADHD symptoms.

But you can de-sensitize from the emotional drama the ego mind wants to pull you into.

…I know that’s not easy because ego is the equivalent of having a bullhorn in your ear without the physical object as a visual. 📢.

But if you exercise vigilant awareness and self-control effort, you can re-route your thoughts and put yourself in the healthy mindset and actions that will help bypass the negative and recurring mind spin cycle that’s often found in ADHD occurrences.

Because we don’t generate all our thoughts. 💭

The subsconscious ego rooted inside all of us will rip positives and blow up negative energy. It will have a field day with your thoughts if you allow.

And ADHD is a perfect platform for ego to thrive in.

And that’s not a field trip any of us want to take.

So exercising self-control and keeping aware and alert in your mind’s eyes will change that trajectory! 👀 Be on guard to witness your thoughts as an observer.

Don’t let the mind just wander or you’ll be walking around with a cloud over your head (not fully present). And that can lead to bad ADHD impulsive decisions.

There are simple things you can do: pray, take walks and warm showers, do yoga, pay attention to nature outside, and listen to warm, feel-good music that inspires you.

Shake it off!

By slowly doing the things that restore Ayurvedic mind-body balance, you can bounce back faster.

And then on one ordinary hour, the sun will appear back out. ☀️

That’s how you can also help any ADHD symptoms along.

Exercise self-control and purposefully walk away and distract yourself in a healthy way.

Have a calming and inspiring activity ready to go like journaling or knitting so you don’t do something impulsive you’ll regret.

That’s positive self-control.

And then you may just discover a new passion or path that’s also part of your spiritual growth.

You can purposefully open doors to learn something new.

A visual would be like the American TV game show, The Price is Right, where a game’s winning answer is usually covered.

After contestants shout out an answer, they learn quickly if it’s the right one… and sometimes they get to try again.

Similarly, stepping out into spiritual faith is when you don’t see but believe that there is a blueprint on your life already planned out.

Landing on the right ones is a matter of timing and trying like you would do in playing joyful games.

Strengthening your faith, you can call up the better (non-ADHD) ways automatically served up by the mind.

Freedom comes from calling out and knowing what you’re facing and getting answers spiritually already inside you waiting for your response.

Literally, you can call out, “I have ADHD” and that’s liberating because now your spirit can help you in awareness, meeting you where you are.

And in our Universe, most people accept ADHD and know what that generally is so they will understand if you act funny and can even sympathize and joke with you about it to help you get through moments.

Making it (ADHD) okay allows less stress into your life and especially in a more sympathetic world that we now live in than from the past where vulnerability sharing was frowned upon.

Today, you can surround yourself with forgiveness and start with forgiving yourself for your quirky abilities that make you uniquely you.

…And finally, slow down.

Remember the old saying that it’s about the (quality) moments that take your breath away and not how many breaths you take. Use that as your ADHD mantra. 💨

Ujjayi energy breathing is a good practice.

You’re not stuck with the ways of how you started your day today… or from your childhood.

We start life with hopeful, rosy glasses and the playbook ends up very different and better if we exercise better habits and self-control.

That’s the best way through life.

And when life doesn’t go as planned or there’s a bend that’s par for the course, you get to grow in your deeper spiritual self ways like with self-control, and becoming more humble.

You get to develop your empowered happiness that’s so much more impactful than temporary happiness.

And in that way, ADHD doesn’t have to be a full life sentence or the life you live out today.

It’s changeable (as our bodies and we are). It depends on you and the choices you make. 💕