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Anxiety Attack What to Do and Causes

Anxiety attack

Anxiety attack or panic attack can be very shocking it happened the first time if you’ve never experienced before. It can be eye-opening and impact you for the days to come.

This article is about what to expect, do, and possible causes so you can be better prepared or prevent an attack.

I gratefully only had one panic attack that did not become a norm reaction. So I share what I did. I’m a Vata where we have natural anxious tendencies.

When you  spend your day worrying about the next time anxiety can take over your time and day, that’s not helping you. That’s not how you want your life to go. You want to get the life you want and a slower paced life.

You didn’t sign up for or schedule the setback anxiety interruption in your day.

Where now you can be dealing with any number of physical symptoms.  And you may even think you’re being a hypochondriac.

If that’s the case you want to rule out all the possible health reasons that caused your anxiety attack.

Dizziness and fuzzy brain could have come from nasal or head congestion and allergies, as your nose is connected to your inner ear that controls balance. And your frontal lobe near your forehead is where you do most of your cognitive, rational reasoning.

So if you can’t think clearly and it shows up around the same time every day, you could have developed seasonal allergies.

Hay fever fall symptoms may be worse in the afternoon than spring or summer morning allergies.

If you don’t eliminate common allergies as a potential cause, then that can lead you to create additional anxiety and worry that’s not helping.

Here Comes the Anxiety Attack

An anxiety attack can leave you dazed and unpleasantly change the course of your day.

You may feel you need to take the rest of the day off, suddenly rearranging your calendar.

An anxiety attack can also leave you feeling defeated because you’re working to manage your feelings and thoughts that can spew out into your body like uncontrollable bursts, showing up as heart palpitations, sweaty palms, dizziness, etc.

Similar to an anxiety attack, a panic attack can also come on suddenly.  Usually, it’s more serious and from a buildup of stressors in your life.

This can shock you.  You are no longer the same person you were just a few minutes ago where you were fine.

In a panic attack, the automatic functions in your body are still running but usually are frozen or hindered from taking action physically or cognitively.

When you come out on the other side, you are confronted with your life and have the opportunity to make a change so you don’t have another panic attack (or worse warning symptoms).

For me, that was in my 20’s from a series of life problems and roadblocks.

Post-trauma I never dealt with and ran away from in my mind by letting the past stay in the past.  The problem with that strategy is that your brain doesn’t work like that.

Your brain’s subconscious can hold onto your thoughts forever.  Sometimes when reminded or a trigger occurs, then you’re put back into reliving those memories.  And can start feeling panic or anxious again.

You can be brought back to your past as though it were yesterday.

Until you can heal and cut out the parts that were broken or scarred, you don’t function in the best that you could.  Your perceptions of life can get distorted.  You can hide or avoid certain situations.

Your insecurity guard can rise.

You can make wrong assumptions that provide a safe haven for your mind to temporarily settle in, but that can lead to problems down the road.

What to Do First After You Have an Anxiety or Panic Attack?

These are 3 important steps:

  1. You may feel shaken or light-headed.  Sit up and just breathe.  Then focus on your breath for a few moments. If there’s not a chair in the room, sit on the floor.
  2. Drink at least half a glass of water.
  3. Calm, relax and take the rest of the day off if you can (or at least a few personal moments to yourself).

Shut your door for privacy, and turn off your phone.  Disconnect for as long as you can for the day.

Take time to re-orient and relax.

Think as though: if you have ever gone in for an in-and-out surgical procedure, you take it easy for the rest of the day so you can recuperate.  You don’t push yourself as that can exacerbate your healing time.

If it’s your first anxiety attack, you may still be shell-shocked.

I know I was when I had a deeper panic attack where I sat frozen and the color on my face left and I was pale as a ghost.

I could feel my heart beating fast but nothing cognitive was registering and thoughts weren’t entering.

I wasn’t thinking.

I was just sitting in a chair, and I could feel my feet and hands numb and wet.  Time stood still and I felt helpless.

When I came to, I re-oriented myself to my immediate office space.

A friendly co-worker entered my space and I told her what happened, and avoided anything unpeaceful.

Fast forward over 20 years later, and I remember this episode like it was yesterday.

You may be alone away from people, so that is why it’s always good to have water next to you, as you never know when it can come in handy.

If your anxiety attack happens at nighttime that is common. First thing when you wake up, reflect for a few minutes on what you went through before you go about your routine.

If it happens in the morning, ease into the rest of the day.

The Same Week of the Attack

Journal and reflect on what stress buildup created the episode.

What have you been worrying about in your life that could have led up to your anxiety attack?

Find an easy, simple, and fun activity to lower your stress.

Easy is you don’t have to think long and hard to find the materials or start doing.  Knitting for me is a ball of yarn and a pair of knitting needles that take up little space.

Using your hands gives you a sense of usefulness.

Just the act of picking up your favorite tools or instruments can be satisfying and lower your blood pressure.

Remember the stress ball?  By the way, I love my special pens and baking whisk.

You could even create something simple that helps you feel accomplished.  A simple bake or your creative hobby can bring you in a better mood.

The idea is to keep it simple as you want to stay in awareness that this week was different because you had an anxiety attack. That’s the theme for your week.

You don’t want to forget so easily as you want to come up with solutions for now and the future.

Because otherwise you could later on the question whether you really did have an anxiety attack and then this could become a regular occurrence and way of life that you now have to manage.

Starting now, anxiety attack prevention is a better way.

To get you calm and reflecting deeper, you can do a little yoga or stretching that can be done anywhere. Using your legs can make you feel grounded and good.

Take the time and opportunity on the floor or yoga mat to self-discover more about what’s going on inside you.

Sometimes you can’t come up with the specific reasons to, “what could have caused the anxiety attack?”

So, What Else Could Have Caused your Anxiety Attack?

These are 3 possible causes:

Reason # 1: Your need to be in control.

Are you the type of person that wants to plan everything to feel comfortable?   If yes, you’re not alone.

That was me too.

In my first career, I worked with Brides, who as you know want “the perfect day” to happen. Even the nicest one of them can feel the pressure.

When you’re event planning, you learn to be flexible and let go.  This allows you to be present with clients and focus on their needs.

In that catering world, the norm is that changes are made every day (sometimes all day) and decisions can be made “on the fly.”

That way of being loosened me up to learn to surrender that which I could not change or control in my professional and personal life.

So in the same way in your life, you can ask yourself, “what changes can I make so that I can let go of the need to plan and know everything?”

Unknown and uncertainty can be the reason for your anxiety attack.

Consider, if you knew everything now about your life, you’d live a completely different experience.

You could have even less control than living in uncertainty because everything was planned out without you.

So if you find joy in the surprises and unknowing journey process of life, then you enjoy the now and your future.

Reason #2: Your ego.

Maintaining a healthy ego is important to prevent anxiety attacks.

Because the unhealthy ego will interject ugliness into your mind to prevent you from taking good action.

If left untreated by you, the ego can spiral out of control taking over your mind and life, affecting your relationships.

You can end up living selfishly, in delusion, or as two personalities.

I’m sure you’ve heard of people like this.

They appear bipolar or split-minded, that’s actually very common.  They do not see this quality in themselves, and therein lies the problems.

The ego lies to the person.

We have the ability to change our ego lives in our own awareness.

Ego can cleverly ruin your life by tricking you so naturally.

Here’s a simple example.

I can suggest you pull out a mirror, and tell yourself loving and positive self-affirmations.

And you may not choose to do it because something (an impostor) in your brain is resisting.

Such a simple action (pulling out a handheld mirror) that doesn’t necessarily require you to even get up from where you are.

And you can find the task hard to do because more deeply you don’t want to allow yourself to feel good about yourself.

To remedy this, you could in awareness act like a witness to this behavior (or non-behavior) for your own self-love and personal growth.

Toddlers and animals don’t have these hangups.

All they know is love and assume self-love without giving thought to any other way, as they’re missing that gear.

We can learn a thing or two from them.

Reason #3: Your worry.

You were expecting a job, a career to pan out, or a relationship, and got disappointed or frustrated.

As time went on, reality sunk in and the truth about your situation became clear.

You have worry, panic, and anxiety that comes from these situations in the mind-body connection.

Your body gets out of balance and you can have an anxiety attack.  Your thoughts can turn into inflammation or a stress pimple or gray hair.

You can decide to change your thoughts.

If you can flip your perspective and outlook of situations, this can change your life outcomes.

You can start with little stuff.

You spill a drink.

You could look at that as an inconvenience to have to wipe up.  Or you can look at it as an opportunity to clean your space and feel good afterward.

Similarly, if someone takes your parking spot, you could use that to demonstrate your self-control, patience, and kindness.

The more you practice, the better you get.

Be encouraged that the best blessings are in the waiting and in the unknown. You will grow. Stay hopeful and remember to believe that. 🧡

“Don’t Worry Bout A Thing” Because Everything Will Be Alright

“Don’t Worry Bout a Thing” is a good song to hum to. Bob Marley and Stevie Wonder knew how to perform a  positive mantra in a catchy upbeat song.

That’s how you can begin to stay on top of your worry.

‘Cause every little thing is gonna be alright. Baby, don’t wo-rrry… ‘bout a thing. 

Worry won’t change a thing.

Imagine if you were learning to surf in the ocean water. All kinds of fears and anxieties could creep up in the back of your mind.

If fears of the water are on your mind’s forefront, you’d probably not surf unless you’re young or a sports extremist and that was your passion.

The fear of drowning, getting bit by a shark (like Pro Surfer Bethany Hamilton), being caught up in a strong riptide, or being swept away by a powerful tsunami wave, could become reality.

I’m sharing this with you because obviously, you’re not in this situation now, since you’re online. But we all have our own dangerous situations.

If they came on suddenly, you would develop worry, that would activate adrenaline rushed anxiety pulsing through your veins, as seconds went by.  That could turn into a paralyzing panic daze fast if a big wave or similar formed.

Years ago before I could swim, I experienced my own dicey water situation… Continue reading ““Don’t Worry Bout A Thing” Because Everything Will Be Alright”

Why PTSD Leaves Anxiety Clues and You Cry For No Reason

There are many reasons why PTSD leaves anxiety symptoms. For many PTSD survivors, they can cry at the drop of a hat (or express anger). Our bodies and feelings send clues to the undetected mind that repair is needed.   PTSD can leave residue feelings of shame, victimization, or lack of self-worth.

You can experience setbacks from delayed post-trauma realization.  Because you don’t realize the memories and thoughts that you’re still carrying in your subconscious mind.  The thoughts can live undetected in your gray matter (explained further, below) and can negatively impact your current life.

PTSD anxiety symptoms can be one result leaving clues (in the mind-body connection that exists). You can have stressful body symptoms that show up when triggered, but you may not know where they come from.

Showing up as panicking, lashing out, or getting angry or sad.  Or you can experience heart palpitations, difficulty in breathing, a knot in your stomach, a lump in your throat, or panicking feelings.  These can all come from PTSD that you don’t know you have or what the cause is. Continue reading “Why PTSD Leaves Anxiety Clues and You Cry For No Reason”

How to Cure Social Anxiety: Lessons from A Dog’s Surprising Similarities!

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I recorded a happy and calm “a day in the life” dog moment in this portrait painting 🙂

I once adopted a rescue chihuahua mix dog where I learned from him how to cure social anxiety.  He was the cutest and sweetest dog ever.  In my meeting with him, I knew he was the perfect dog for me then.

He acted calm (not jumpy like the Jack Russell terrier type).  Walking around, he also acted curious, interested and engaged.

So excited, I did the paperwork the next day and took him home.  I’d never had a dog before, but I was convinced he was a pet owner’s dream.  If you have a dog, I’m sure you understand as you probably think the same things with your dogs!

You know how much joy they can add to your life.  Dogs have temperaments, but they don’t project ego or judgment and all those complex human feelings that can get our human heads in a tail spin! Continue reading “How to Cure Social Anxiety: Lessons from A Dog’s Surprising Similarities!”

The Gifts of Imperfection (Over Perfection) Help You

The gifts of imperfection are not found in holding onto perfection. I learned the hard way in and around the area I grew up in…

If the U.S. Capitol were a cake, it would have perfect lines, and these were the standards in the schools and household I grew up in.

If you change your perfection ways, you can discover the gifts of imperfection over perfection. You can achieve bigger and better things.

Perfection can create unwanted side effects like anxiety and self-pity (that you can overcome). If you’re an overachiever, you know how aiming for perfection can create performance anxiety.

Thankfully “progress over perfection” replaces “practice makes perfect” in our delicate world.

Because early on I wasn’t perfect in school. I attended the #1 highest ranking public high schools in America (in the DC suburbs) at the time, and that didn’t help my cause. Let’s say I ended up doing well, but that didn’t seem perfect or good enough at times especially when applying for top colleges.

At home, my dad was a high achiever, a hardworking Harvard architect who graduated at the top of his class, earned an impressive scholarship, and the whole nine yards. He had high ideals in life and I got the passed-on message about those ambitious expectations.

Perfection was a value and I was more like an Eton Mess than perfect.

Gifts of imperfection can be made into food dessert form like an Eton Mess dessert that ends up tasting great but not looking perfect.
You can make your own Eton Mess (steps on how to make below) to help you remind you that imperfection still creates a form of edible perfection that tastes great.

I didn’t always know what the expectations were but I knew I fell short, so I bagged the perfect model concept early on. The problem was I had nothing to replace with, like progress over perfection. Or fail forward means you’re trying.

But I kept going and so did you…

If you’ve carried perfectionist ideals along your journey, I know where you’re coming from.  It’s not easy to shake off the past… with the good, bad and ugly.

And thing that did help me was knowing that no one on earth. There was only one and he’s no longer on earth.

So I decided that good meant keeping high standards and wanting to make achievements in life (and valuing the gifts of imperfection).

Naturally, you want to do your best but the wheels do fall off sometimes in our fallen world.

And when you become obsessive in the process of an outcome, that can be self-destructive and unhealthy.

Perfectionist behaviors can also negatively rub off on other people or into blame situations.

The ego or Imposter mind can be crafty and find coping ways to urgently nourish your soul and body if you let your mind run and ruin your life. Keeping your mind separate from you and your spirit can help your journey.

Re-defining and embracing imperfection is the healthier way to a happy life.

The Gifts of Imperfection at Work

Remind yourself that being imperfect is better. Maybe, that’s getting things done is better than none.

Remind yourself how you made imperfection work for you in the past. That people embraced your imperfect work.

…If you forgot to do something, as we all do, you’re no longer perfect so that helps you to rule out perfection as always. Our ego loves to use “always” and “never” when it’s usually more like “sometimes”, “often”, or “rarely.”

You may not even have missed out on this activity in any impactful way.

One of the best things you can do to let go is to fail at something and see that: 1) you survived, 2) you’re okay, and 3) something good came out of your scenario… maybe it was that you learned 1 and 2 and can repeat. Usually you can find a positive if you want to that helps your outlook and growth.

You can embrace: Good is good enough. When I embraced this mantra, it helped me to hit “send” and “publish.”

You get more done and are happier taking the stress and pressure off yourself. Because what will be, will be. So many factors are out of controls anyways.

Being imperfect sets you up to keep going, doing, and trying…. and eventually finding your purpose or destiny.

Catching and correcting written spelling and grammar mistakes is good but is different than making sure every word is perfect to your mind’s satisfaction.  There’s a fine line between valuing your work and what you do, and obsessing over the quality because of what that would represent if you didn’t perform well in some way.

Your performance isn’t as important as those youu impact.  That’s the lesson from the movie Burnt where Actor Bradley Cooper’s Type-A and chef character learns that letting go of his perfection for a calmer teamwork environment brings home the additional Michelin star success.

The supporting kitchen staff actors are empowered to do their jobs without feeling like they’re walking on eggshells in front of their boss.

You may have also learned this lesson as an employee working with others and working towards climbing the organization ladder.

And you may have found that those promoted weren’t necessarily the hardest workers who delivered flawless work.  Some weren’t even as qualified as the person who should’ve gotten the promotional job, but they were trusted with their work given to them (as part of the gifts of imperfection).

Most importantly, they worked at building relationships and connections while others focused on producing the best work.

Building good rapport is a skill that’s valued and can be even more difficult than keeping the head down doing work. People want to work with those they know, like, and trust. So letting your guard down some and letting them know a personal side of you can help you win points.

It’s not just in what you say or how you say it. There’s an energy that you give off even when you’re sitting in front of your computer that you may not even know you’re giving off.

Everyone has a part they can play no matter what special personalities they display. Your non-judgment of others and focusing on their positives is what will create a good work environment for you…

Not necessarily being the person who does perfect work.  Perfection is an illusion.  What you do today, will be obsolete tomorrow or forgotten by most, years from now. Who you showed up as, and your progress contributions will be remembered.

So, what if you’re caught up in the perfectionist trap?

If you find yourself falling for perfectionist obsessive ways, being self-critical or beating yourself up, here are some smart steps to take:

 Be perfect.

Whaaat?  Yes, be perfect. It’s all in your mind. When you force yourself to NOT do something, you unintentionally end up doing that behavior.  Because your subconscious brain doesn’t hear NOT.

It picks up that you are focusing energy towards that area.  It’s not always helping you, and your eyeballs can even skip over the words “not,” as part of the process if you’re reading words on a page.

So you’re trying not to be perfect, can backfire. (I’ve deliberately highlighted the word “not” in several ways here to catch your attention).

Instead in self-awareness, catch yourself and realize that you don’t want to do that anymore. Because before you probably didn’t see it when you were acting that way, but now you’re aware.

So give yourself grace to take two steps forward and one step backward in growth.

In the beginning, it can be like an internal dance you’re trying to figure out. But you’ll get it because you’re trying to make it better than the old ways that didn’t work the way you hoped.

Your trying can shift over to your growing out of perfection instead of toward your output.

Imperfection takes less effort, and caring less sometimes is the answer if your mind is running the show.

Eventually the gifts of imperfection outweigh perfection with your desires and efforts.

But, there are exceptions and times when you do want to shine and be as perfect as possible. So you don’t want to lose all your perfection traits if that’s what comes naturally to you.

Like when you have a performance or presentation to give and want to wow the critics. Or you have a test or an interview to ace.  The difference here is that these aren’t everyday occurrences and they’re solo acts you want to nail.

Back when I had school team presentations, several times I was disappointed when the group didn’t do the part they agreed to.  Letting go of the idea that everyone was as dedicated, I learned later to do every piece of their part and mine, as though it were performed and turned in solely by me…

That was my backup plan.

If the team came through on their parts, then I would rely on them. And when they did, I realized that we had better information as I could chime in with additional insight in their areas and mine because the research was done.

I gave my best and that’s all I could do. And that’s the attitude to embrace for progress over perfection.

Stay Authentic

In make or break situations, stay authentic to your deeper, healthy self desires.

Let go of worries.

Striving for high standards is a better way of living.

Be happy with your imperfect message and letting your caring, human side come out.

You can come back and change your thoughts. You don’t have to nail every point flawlessly the first time.  We think we never have a chance to do over.

That’s true only if you think it is. If you came across as serious before, you can come back as light-hearted or funny in a pivot around new audiences.

Be comfortable where you are and your confident energy will shine through. Keep showing up the way you want to be perceived.

You get to be who you want to be as human, not perfect (remembering the gifts of imperfection).

If you think these tips could help someone grow, please share with them.

And here’s how you can make your own Eton Mess dessert that could be a good metaphor to embracing your authentic creativity and imperfection inside you.

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Eton Mess Dessert

Course Dessert
Cuisine American, british
Author Brandy @ Healthy Happy Life Secrets

Ingredients

  • egg whites for meringue
  • fruits (raspberries, blueberries, lychee, cantaloupe shown in photo)

Instructions

  • Shape meringue to liking on a baking sheet. Bake in oven on a low temperature around 250°F/120°C or less until marshmallowy soft but crisp. You'll be able to see when the edges are starting to toast.
  • Let the meringue cool and break off on your plate in a mess. Add and pile on fruits you would like to use to create a modern art dessert plate.