How to be humble in our lives is a key to our success and leads to more of our happiness.
We know the feelings of how to be humble when we know we’ve been given a second chance as the blessed feeling and gravity of meaning permeates every fiber of our being inside us.
If we can carry that temporary feeling along our life’s journey that helps us grow and be successful (in how we define success).
Reachable daily micro doses of success bring more happiness to our lives because we feel good about ourselves.
That’s healthy balance.
It doesn’t matter what level of success or even what the success is as long as we feel good about it and inside us.
Success is relative to our lives.
Some examples:
You complete a task you’ve been dreading… that’s success.
You get a success check mark ✅ that means something to you… success is confirmed on your screen.
You successfully complete a class or learn a new skill you’re proud of.
You figure out something you thought you didn’t have the ability to, prior to now.
You organize something and feel accomplished success.
You get a new revelation about a past situation where you didn’t have clarity before.
You find a new better way to react… that’s super success because often those lead to more personal success.
All these examples give you the you got this feeling. And when free from any pride attachment to what we accomplished, we feel joy of accomplishment.
I made these sweet dessert shells that turned out flat, like potato chips. But in the process, I learned a new method of what not to do.
By staying humble in spirit believing every experience is a learning experience, I redefined success that kept my joy. Plus, I got a sweet bite.
And in your daily experiences you’re learning something new and new about yourself that helps you.
From that lens, you feel good and stay positive in your situations.
Finding our positive “feel goods” keep us grounded and lets us keep going and growing.
When grounded, we stay humble.
That little switch in approach helps our life…
It slows down our knee-jerk reactions and makes us think about what the aftermaths could be.
Humility as outer clothing and inner way desire brings out our best.
Defaulting to humility and learning how to be humble is a form of our self-control… and not one that’s easy to master.
We live in a world where our patience and self-control is daily tested.
But by acting humble, we exercise better self-control.
Exercising self-control is an evolved skill that grows us, but learning can be humbling to say the least.
Wanting to be a better person can be a good motivator as we’re equipped and when we reach the point where we want to grow.
When our motivations are humble ones, we’ve reached a deeper level of ability and usefulness in our lives.
Acting humble is a good starting point. It’s the opposite of acting in pride that can come off as arrogance to others.
Adding more humility keeps our healthy blood pressure, improves our relationships, and adds to our happy lives.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less. – C.S. Lewis
…And thinking of others more.
Each of us matter here and everyone else matter too. When we celebrate our wins quietly or with humble brags and brag on others too, we know we’re on the better track.
Humility attracts others while boastful pride pushes people away.
But, humility is often against our modern culture’s ways.
We’re not usually encouraged to be selfless, and all along were probably subtly taught to be selfish and to think of ourselves first…
But somehow we also learned to give credit to others.
In each different situation, we’re faced with new considerations like: should we keep our thoughts to ourselves to not offend anyone with what we say, or should we speak our mind?
There’s no definitive yes or no right answer.
…The right is in how we do express ourselves that matters most in our best outcomes.
We give our imperfect best, and there’s nothing better than best.
Others are different than us… and thank God for that.
How we react to others’ imperfection moments is on us.
We can be humble even if the act we feel upon us wasn’t good… even if initially or deep down we want to give some humble pie lessons.
Finding our humble way is easier if we consider others first, and then we’ll naturally be humble.
…We can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t try, but we can pause and consider other people’s feelings before we act.
Then we’ve done our best and taken the first responsible step.
We can always come back and apologize or give a humble explanation like not seeing another’s perspective but appreciating them.
If we’re humble, it shows up in our comebacks. And then we don’t have to be perfect or scared to say something we’re 80% sure we should say.
I remember when one of my former bosses said to me: if you don’t know what to say, just say thank you.
…and that left an indelible impression on me.
In those work getting-off-the-ground years, I had a habit of talking too much and that grew in my sales roles where I was supposed to talk if I wanted to have a sales career.
…New salespeople often talk more than they listen. It’s a rookie mistake and one I had.
Saying whatever was on my mind was a young habit I had to grow out of, so that I could be more focused and have a focused message.
Slowly, I learned to listen more (two ears, one mouth).
This helped my work performance and also my life personally as I stopped partaking in gossip culture that I grew up around.
Gossip wasn’t aligned with what and who I wanted to become.
And those positive changes helped me to grow more of a humble heart.
I needed to go through the lessons and my immature ways to get the old ways out of my system.
And that led me to slow down, pause in speaking, and learn how to be more humble.
When we pause to speaking or acting, we have a better chance to embrace our humble moments.
Maybe that’s you too.
…Or maybe you’re on the opposite extreme from where I was… where you’re the quiet person in the room absorbing everything everyone is saying… pausing maybe too often when taking a fearless step is what would help you.
Throwing out a humble brag once in a while could be the nudge you need to build up your confidence and healthy pride.
If so, hopefully this article is the awareness or reminder message for you to take action on.
Maybe… you can grow from some humble moments with yourself about what you need.
And for any of us in our humble journey, purposefully being a little vulnerable to step out in change is what we need.
When we’re vulnerable, we’re more tentative that makes us humble acting as the first step.
So then finding our vulnerable ways, like opportunities to purposefully be an underdog in new territory can get us out of our comfort zone.
Challenges, changes, and newness feelings keep us interested and invested to keep going and sensitized to our surroundings.
Feeling vulnerable again, we’re naturally growing humility.
There we can find our small successes again that keep us growing and deeper learning how to be humble consistently at our core and attracting more of what and who we want in our lives.
